Kids are a massive challenge, but I am preaching to the choir here, right?
If it isn’t your kid refusing to eat, refusing to sleep in their room, terrible twos… it is behavioral problems like hitting, screaming, toddlers biting or generally doing anything to test your anger management technique.
Here, we will take a look at how to deal with an angry disrespectful child.
When you are a parent, your child can do many things in public to act up and show you up. For me, there is nothing worse than disrespectful behavior because it shows up in your parenting skills!
Let’s take a look at how you can deal with disrespectful behavior.
5 Reasons Why Your Child Is Angry And Disrespectful
First, you need to understand what is causing the disrespectful behavior. Contrary to what you believe, it is unlikely to be because your child doesn’t like you!
Here are 5 reasons why your child is angry and disrespectful.
Testing Limits
They spent far too much time pushing limits during their short lives as kids! They push and push to see how much you will take before your head goes pop, and you unleash a torrent of bad words into the open.
Don’t do that. I know it is tempting, but you are only teaching them to deal with stress in the same way.
Nobody said parenting was easy.
Learning Emotions
Your child might just be learning how to deal with emotions. You might have just rejected a request for candy or a toy. The only way they can deal with anger (at the moment) is by being disrespectful and angry.
We know that it is not the correct way to respond, but they don’t. It is up to you to show them how to.
Anger Issues
It sucks, but your child might have anger issues. Some folks have a short fuse, which is fine if you both know how to deal with it correctly.
If the anger is too much, it might be time to call in an expert, so use your judgment here.
Learned Behavior
Are you disrespectful and angry? When confronted with conflict, do you deal with it correctly?
Kids learn from their parents, so one of the most important things you can do is look at how you deal with things. Approach this with an open mind. If you truly want to stop your child’s disrespectful and angry behavior, you will have no problems questioning your own.
Your Child Does Not Respect You
It could be that your child or children do not respect you. This is very dangerous because your child will see you as a target, and they might begin to bully you too. If that happens, it isn’t easy to pull back from.
If you think that your child does not respect you, it is time for some serious changes in your life! Otherwise, it could lead to you being rejected by your child.
5 Ways To Deal With An Angry Disrespectful Child
Dealing with disrespectful behavior in a child is not easy, and it will not be a quick thing! You need to take your time and be persistent. The first steps are the easiest, but the challenge is keeping the momentum going.
Set Boundaries
First step: Set boundaries. You need to sit your child down and tell them what you expect from them.
Bad behavior is not tolerated. Disrespectful behavior is not tolerated. Anger is not tolerated.
Adhering to these rules will result in rewards and adulation!
Failure to adhere to these rules will result in punishment. Tell your child what the punishment will be.
If your child is already disrespectful, their reaction will probably be to scoff at your new rules. This is only the start. All you need to do is set the rules. Job number 1.
Ignore the scoffing! You are the boss now.
Stick To Your Boundaries
When the rules are adhered to, then you should reward your child. Every time. Make a fuss. Please sit down and explain that their behavior makes you happy and proud.
When the rules are broken, call it out as bad behavior. Do not ‘let it slide.’ If you let your child be disrespectful, they will respect you less.
Follow Through With Punishment
Should the rules be broken, your job is to follow through with the punishment you set out initially.
Failure to follow through with the punishment will result in less respect.
I hear parents making empty threats too many times! Threats like this at the airport:
If you carry on, we will not go on vacation!
Like you are going to throw away an entire vacation! Your child KNOWS you won’t. It doesn’t mean anything. It is an empty threat.
Do not be one of those parents. If your child is mean and rude and you threaten them with punishment, you must follow through on the threat.
Be Respectable
If you give the impression that you are a walk-over, you will be walked over.
Failure to punish your child will result in further disrespectful behavior.
If you do not respect yourself, they will not respect you. This will result in your child being disrespectful!
It is time that you learn to respect yourself.
Teach Correct Behavior
You are the parent. One of your key responsibilities is to teach your children as a parent.
Now is the time to teach your child how to behave. It is time to teach your child the correct response to any situation that makes them angry.
You should lead by example. If you respect yourself, and others, they your child will learn from you and will be more respectful.
Frequently Asked Questions
Why is my child rude and disrespectful?
Your child is being rude and disrespectful for several different reasons. They may be testing your limits or learning how to deal with emotions. It could also be that they straight up don’t respect you! It could also be learned behavior, so you need to consider your actions.
What causes a child to be disrespectful?
Your child may just be going through a phase where their disrespect is at an all-time high; it happens. Your job is to teach them how to respect people. Begin by respecting yourself.
What are disrespectful behaviors?
Arrogance, anger, threats, shaming, insulting. These are all examples of disrespectful behavior. You need to learn what they are to address them as and when they happen.
Conclusion
The 5 tips on this page will help you if you need to know how to deal with an angry disrespectful child.
One of the most important things you can do is show that you need to be respected! Follow through on threats of punishment, and get stuff done around the home. It is easy for a child to disrespect someone who doesn’t respect themselves.
Improve yourself to improve your child’s behavior!
Be consistent too! When you start to call out your child’s behavior, it is the start of a long journey that you must not deviate from. If you let disrespectful behavior slide just once, it will take 5 corrections to make up. Every correction is a little win.
Over time, the behavior will be better for longer periods of time, with fewer signs of disrespect.
Good luck.
