16 Seriously Annoying Things a 6 Year Old Does

Most Annoying Things a 6 Year Old Does

What are the most annoying things a 6 year old does? Let me tell you about a recent experience of mine…I invented a fun new game the other week. It was a game that my 6 year old son enjoyed AND it taught him about our solar system. It involved a large puzzle, which we did together (it was a puzzle of our solar system). The game was simple, we had to pick a planet for each other, and then stand on the planet. Who said learning wasn’t fun?

After 15 minutes, he was still excited about picking the next planet. It was a hit! I chose Venus, so he jumped on it. He chose Jupiter, so I jumped on it. Within 2 seconds, and totally out of the blue, I was struck by a direct hit on the nuts. Why?… Why would he do that? We were having fun! Now it is ruined.

Immediately, I stopped playing. I told him why, and I walked away, removing attention.

It got me thinking about a new blog post. What are the most annoying things a 6 year old does?

Let’s take a look! PS – here are some things that will help if your kid is making you angry… because one of these might just do that!


16 Most Annoying Things a 6 Year Old Does

16 Most Annoying Things a 6 Year Old Does


1. Nut Flick

Let’s kick off with the reason that this post exists. The nut flick.

So, this is aimed at us poor dads, but it doesn’t stop at the nuts. These 6 year old kids can attack any part of our bodies if they are within striking distance. This means mom may also be a viable target, although it wouldn’t be called a nut flick.

They say that building a close bond is really important, but when you don’t want to get too close to them it makes it more of a challenge!


2. Talking During Conversations

I am sure you know this one! You could be in the middle of a sentence and your 6 year old will start talking.

Not only does it knock you off your stride, but it is also damn frustrating because YOU’VE EXPLAINED THIS TO THEM TONS OF TIMES ALREADY!

Just stop interrupting me… please!


3. Butt Smack

This one is very similar to the nut flick but with less pain…. less pain but straight-up annoying as hell!

It could happen at any moment, and with varying levels of force. Stay alert people. The 6 year old butt smacker is prowling.


4. Relentless Demands

OK, I know 6 year old’s can be demanding. I get that. I am not talking about the demands of ‘I want this toy’, ‘Can I have something to eat please’, ‘Can you play with me please?’

These are all common demands that we as parents have to deal with already. I am talking about the lack of prioritization and the fact that they forget demands immediately. For instance:

  • Son: ‘Can we go to kick a ball around please?’
  • Dad: ‘Sure, we can do that’
  • Son: ‘Can I have a snack please’
  • Dad: I check the time… ‘err, OK but you need to finish it before we go outdoors’
  • I go into the kitchen to get a snack, he follows me.
  • Son: ‘I am bored, can you play LEGO with me?’
  • Dad: ‘Are you serious? Do you want to play ball, eat a snack, or play LEGO?’
  • Son: ‘Can I have a drink please?’

This is one of the most annoying things a 6 year old does!


5. Play Up When Tired

After a full-on day, I look forward to getting some time where I don’t have to respond to anything… a time when I can just switch off.

If I leave it a little late, he is trouble, and boy do I know it.

When he is around 30 minutes late going to bed, its like herding cats! Brushing teeth, getting milk, and even laying down become a huge challenge. I mean… how difficult is it to lay down!


6. Get Up Too Early

4.45 am wake up calls are absolutely no fun at all. We have a rule in our house. No going downstairs until 6 am.

The problem with a 4.45 am wake up call is that he is wide awake and has no problem letting me know. Nor does he have any problem reminding my every 10 minutes. This is how they should torture people.


7. Repeat Bad Words

OK, I know this is totally my fault, but bad words tend to slip out don’t they? Come on… it isn’t just me!

Bad words slip out after things like ‘nut flicks’ so it really is his fault! The problem is that he repeats them until he gets bored. I opt for total distraction until he has forgotten whichever bad word slipped out of my mouth.


8. I’m Bored

The immortal words of a 6 year old, just as you settle down:

I’m bored

Son, you have that many toys they are bursting out of your room, you cannot possibly be bored!


9. Lock Phone Out

Right, right, I know… I shouldn’t leave my phone laying around. When I do, and when my son gets hold of it, he will try and type in the pass code too many times.

The result is a locked phone!


10. Leave Clothes EVERYWHERE

Literally, everywhere. I find socks everywhere, yet he has the standard issue feet (just 2 of them). How does he need this many socks during the day!

When he gets in from school, he changes. Sometimes, he changes again before changing into his pajamas. For no reason.

Each time, the clothes are scattered throughout random places.


11. Refuse To Eat Stuff They Have Not Tried

  • Him: I don’t like it
  • Me: But you haven’t tried it
  • Him: I still don’t like it
  • Me: Try it, just one time
  • Him: No
  • Me: You will like it
  • Him: I won’t

12. Desperately Need A Poop Just As You Settle Down

You think you have found the perfect time to disappear for some time in the toilet. We all need to go!

10 seconds after you sit down, there is a knock at the door.

‘I need to pee’


13. Waste Electricity

I walk up the stairs, and if he has been up there, the following will be true:

  • The landing light is on (even during the day)
  • His bedroom light is on (even during the day)
  • He has music playing

14. Leave Toothpaste In The Sink

Don’t get me wrong, it’s great that he brushes his teeth without me prompting (most of the time), but I know when he has done it because he leaves it all in the sink.

Oh, and the lid is not on the toothpaste. Oh, and there is toothpaste on the floor… so is his toothbrush.


15. Sticky Hands

I could put him in a room with nothing else in it. No food… no juice… no milk… nothing. He will still come out with sticky hands.

Honestly, I’ve no idea how, or why. All I know is that I am always wiping stuff down.

One of the most annoying things a 6 year old does if wipe their sticky hands on just about everything!


16. Inconsistent Walking Patterns

Walking with my son is a great bonding experience, but occasionally he will get in front of me. When he does, I am forever adjusting my walking to accommodate his inconsistent walking style.

Fast, slow. Left, right. Walking, running. He is everywhere.


Conclusion

Don’t get me wrong, I love my son, but he is guilty of doing some of the annoying things a 6 year old does.

Sure, I could, and do discipline him for some of those things, such as the nut flick but I can’t discipline him for all of it.

Some of them, he will just grow out of eventually. We hope…

Good luck!

5 Year Old Hitting At School? 5 Common Reasons Why

Why Is My 5 Year Old Hitting At School 5 Reasons Why

As my son grew past the toddler years, he got more and more boisterous. Play fighting became the norm. Every day. He got too boisterous to play fight with his mom, and also his gran. It was me only. When he went to school, I got a little concerned. What if he fought like this with his peers? He went through a phase of hitting during his toddler years, but this would be different! They wouldn’t stand a chance! In this post, I am going to look at reasons why you have a 5 year old hitting at school, and what you can do about it!

Sometimes, I imagine what it would be like if I were called up to face the principal because he had been fighting, or hitting other kids! It hasn’t happened, which is awesome. He knows that he should only play fight that hard at home with me, and he actually listened!

But, what if he did start hitting at school? What would I do?

What you will learn in this post:

  • Why your 5 year old is hitting at school.
  • 5 things you can do to stop it
5 Year Old Hitting At School

5 Reasons Why You Have a 5 Year Old Hitting At School

Before you can address this issue, it would help to understand exactly what is causing this behavior. Then you can use that knowledge to stop it from happening.

If you want to know how to stop 5 year old from hitting at school.. then the following 5 common reasons is where you should start…


Play Fighting

I mentioned it briefly above and I wanted to cover it here too, because it is one of the most common reasons why you have a 5 year old hitting at school.

When your 5 year old play fights at home, there is potential that they will take this behavior to school and think they can do it with their friends.

Sure, play fighting is a part of growing up, and we can’t stop that (it is human nature). We can control it… to some extent!


Frustration

School can become very hard when your child gets to this age. When your kid is 5, school begins to move away from play and starts to get a little more serious!

This can lead to your child becoming frustrated because of the gear shift in learning. Also, there is a chance that the work is getting a little difficult, which may build frustration in your 5 year old.


Bullied

This is another one of my fears as a dad to a 5 year old! When I think of him being bullied, the rage grows inside of me. I want to go back to being 5 so I can strut into his school and sort out all the bullies. Knowing what I know now, bullies are too easy to sort out!

If you think this is the case, then you should address your concerns with his teachers. The last thing you want is an angry 5 year old hitting out and becoming a bully themselves!


Tired

It is tiring being a 5 year old! Not only do you burn off a ton of energy during the day by running, playing, climbing, and falling over (happens a lot), but the work you are being made to do at school is mentally draining too.

You know as well as the next parent how challenging a child can get if they are tired! They will either become accident-prone, silly, or just straight-up angry.


Fear

Fear leads to some strange behavior! In most kids, it will lead to withdrawing from the situation (mostly to preserve life), this is because of the natural ‘stress response’ or ‘fight or flight‘ as it is also known.

Your child may be lashing out at school because they feel frightened.


5 Things You Can Do To Stop Your 5 Year Old Hitting At School

The following 5 tips will give you advice on how to stop your child from hitting at school. I have given you the 5 most common reasons why they are hitting, and now we move onto actually stopping it.

5 Year Old Hitting At School Infographic

1. Define Clear Consequences

Your 5 year old needs to understand exactly what the consequences are if they hit out at school. I am talking about the consequences at home, and at school here.

For a start, your 5 year old will be in huge trouble at school, and they need to understand that. Also, they need to understand that the punishment will not stop after school. At home, there will also be a punishment waiting for them.

Discuss this punishment with your 5 year old so they understand what to expect if they hit out at school. There must be consequences for hitting at school… so set expectations accordingly!


2. Identify Patterns – Respond

When a 5 year old lashes out, it is not usually an immediate reaction. If you watch them closely enough, you will start to notice the signs that a right hook is on the cards.

You should be watching closely for signs that this is about to happen. As soon as you identify the build-up, you should speak to your child’s teachers at school. Let them know that you have identified an issue, and you are working on resolving it. But if they notice the build-up, they can also help to stop it before the boxing match starts.


3. Behave Yourself

OK, there are two things I mean by this. 1. Do not punch people. It goes without saying that kids learn how to behave from those around them. If you punch people, your 5 year old will punch people. 2. When play fighting, explain the rules.

The rule of play fighting is to only go in hard when fighting with you. If they go in hard on others, they may get hurt, and your child will get into trouble (see tip 1). Set expectations, and set the rules.


4. Teach Emotional Responses

Anger is a response that happens due to fear, frustration, and many other emotions. Your job is to teach your child to respond in a different and better way.

Instead of frustration, your child should be asking for help. Instead of lashing out, they should be learning to control fear by using other methods such as breathing.

To stop your 5 year old hitting at school, you should teach them how to deal with emotions using other methods.


5. Praise Positive Behavior

One of the most important parts of parenting is discipline. Discipline should not simply be a punishment for bad behavior. You should also be rewarding good behavior.

If you want to understand how to discipline a child for hitting at school, then you should begin by rewarding good behavior!

When you can see your child building up to a punch, but then they cool down before lashing out, then you should 100% be giving out a world full of positive praise! That way, your 5 year old will learn that they get rewarded for reacting a different way.


Conclusion

When you find yourself with a child hitting at school, it is a huge problem! Luckily the 5 tips on this page will help if you have a 5 year old hitting at school.

I’ve also covered the 5 most common reasons, which you should also consider when addressing this problem.

Ultimately, it is good to learn that violence rarely solves anything, it only makes it worse. The job of a parent is to teach them.

Good luck! And keep your guard up!

How Do You Know When To Stop Pacifier Use?

When To Stop Pacifier Use

OK, for reasons only you know, you gave your baby a pacifier. I gave my son a pacifier. The pacifier offered comfort to my son, and that was enough for me to hand it over. The question is, when do you take the pacifier away from your baby? How do you know when to stop pacifier use? Let’s take a look and answer some common questions.

What you will learn in this post:

  • When babies should stop using their pacifier
  • How do you know when to stop pacifier use?
  • …and more pacifier related questions!

How Do You Know When To Stop Pacifier Use

When Should Babies Stop Using Pacifiers?

The official advice from the American Academy of Pediatrics is that you should begin phasing pacifier usage out at around the 6-month stage.

The advice goes on to suggest that you should keep the pacifier out of sight when it is not in use to stop your baby from developing a habit to use it just because they can see it.

If you need to, then you should apply the pacifier to help them fall asleep, but you should remove it after they fall asleep.


I hear That Pacifier Use Impacts Breastfeeding, Is That Right?

Yes, it is. In fact, research has shown that babies who are given pacifiers do not take in as much milk during a breastfeeding session, the researchers concluded the following:

Pacifier use was independently associated with significant declines in the duration of full and overall breastfeeding.

Source: The American Academy Of Pediatrics.


Why Should I Stop My Baby From Using The Pacifier?

Why you should Stop Pacifier Use

Delayed Talk

Using a pacifier may delay your little one’s speech development. This is because using a pacifier will adjust teeth position, plus when babies begin to babble (practice talking), they will also be doing it with a pacifier in their mouth. That will lead to inconsistently developed muscles.


Ear Infections

If your baby gets regular ear infections, you should consider removing their pacifier earlier than normal.

Researches in Finland discovered that by reducing pacifier use, it also reduces the risk of an inner ear infection!


Remove Reliance

When deciding what age to take the pacifier away from your baby, you should be thinking about your little one continuing to develop a reliance on it.

Whenever you decide to remove the pacifier from your baby, it is not going to be easy. I can tell you that it just gets worse!

Ever heard of the saying short term pain for long term gain? That is what you should be thinking here. If you think that your baby is ready, then you should work to stop the pacifier use straight away.


How Do You Know When To Stop Pacifier Use?

Whilst the official recommendation suggests that you should remove the pacifier from around 6 months, you may want to continue the usage beyond that for your own reasons.

Pacifier weaning is a huge challenge! You have to work against addiction, and a habit at the same time.

The older your child gets, the more difficult it will be. Having said that, the older they are, the more options you have for considering pacifier alternatives. When your child is 2 years old, they can understand a lot more. That means you can add bribery to get them to get rid of the pacifier!


Are There Any Benefits To Using A Pacifier?

Reduction In SIDS

Yes, there is one huge benefit of using a paci! Research has shown a reduction in the chances of SIDS death by using a pacifier.

For me, that is one of the sole reasons why I was happy with my son using a pacifier!


Comfort

I know this is also the reason why you want to get rid of the pacifier, you don’t want your baby to get comfort from the pacifier, but it can also be looked upon as a benefit.

Your baby will need comfort in life. Maybe they get comfort from it when you are not in the room with them, or maybe they are sick and need some additional comfort.


The Rules Of Pacifier Weaning For Babies

There are certain rules that you should adhere to when removing the pacifier, both for your sake, and also for the sake of your baby too! First, you must decide when to stop pacifier use, and then you should learn the rules.

Remember – consistency is key! This is a battle of wills that you must win, any loss will put you on the back foot for future battles.


Don’t Give In

The key message is that you should not give in. The first day of withdrawal is likely to be noisy, frustrating, and filled with a little anger. The good news is that as each hour that passes, it gets easier and easier.

During the tough times, do not give in. It is important that you continue with removing the pacifier! By giving up, it strengthens your baby’s resolve that you will give in with a little pressure.


Stagger The Withdrawal

By staggering the withdrawal, I mean you should following this process:

  • Stage 1 – Remove it during the day, and give it back as they are due to sleep, or nap.
  • Stage 2 – Remove the pacifier for naps too.
  • Stage 3 – Remove the pacifier for night sleeps, but still use it to soothe them back to sleep if they wake up. Remove it when they are asleep.
  • Stage 4 – Complete removal of the pacifier!

You have made the decision on when to stop pacifier use, and now it is time to implement the plan!


Provide Alternatives

When my son gave up his pacifier, it was because I bought him some boxing gloves. The words exchanges where:

‘I can give you these boxing gloves, but they are for big boys who don’t have a pacifier’

The pacifier was given to me immediately and he never looked back.

The key message here is that you should provide some pacifier alternatives.


Conclusion

If you are wondering when to stop pacifier use, then the information on this post will have absolutely helped you!

One of the biggest problems when deciding when to take away the pacifier is actually getting your child to stop using it! I devised 7 excellent pacifier alternatives for toddlers that you might want to consider using.

By getting rid of the pacifier, you will be battling addiction and a habit. Those make this a huge challenge, but not impossible (although it may seem impossible at the time). As a parent, you need to stay strong and do not give it. The battle to give up the paci will be over soon, and you will never have this battle again (unless you make the decision to have another child!)

Good luck!

Toddler Climbing Out of Crib? 5 Solutions Here

Toddler Climbing Out Of Crib what you can do

Are you fed up with having to get out of your bed to go check on your toddler? Do you wake up multiple times each night because your toddler won’t quit getting out of their crib? I am here to help, with the 5 tips here on this page!


Parents all over the world are very familiar with this situation. You have just settled down for the day, you have checked up on everyone and have successfully put your toddler to sleep in their crib. Just before you doze off, you check the baby monitor or their room and find that your toddler has scaled the sides of their crib and is roaming around the room in high spirits! Now you are thinking to yourself how your toddler could have mustered the courage to brave the heights of their crib and venture out into the room in the night, alone. Well, the first thought is amazement, followed quickly by concern.

  • “What if she fell!”
  • “She could have hit her head!”
  • “He could have gotten hurt!”

These are the exact thoughts that race through every parent’s head when they find that their toddler has already learned how to master the art of escaping their crib.

We know you had planned for this; we know you thought that the walls were high enough, but we also know that you underestimated the ingenuity and dexterity of a toddler set on doing something.

So, what do you do now?

Here are a few things to consider as to why your toddler keeps climbing out of the crib, and what you can do to avoid this situation until they are old enough to get a bed.

What you will learn in this post:

  • 5 solutions if your toddler keeps climbing out of their crib
  • Why your toddler climbs out of their crib

Toddler Climbing Out Of Crib

Why Is Your Toddler Climbing Out Of Their Crib?

Toddlers are an inquisitive bunch, and they rarely sleep through the night in one go. Toddlers have a habit of waking up at intervals after you have put them to sleep.

Being alone and without many things to grab their immediate attention, the mind of a toddler starts to wander and observe. Most usually, they find something interesting that they would like to examine more closely.

This is the beginning of the planning stage!

The only thing between the toddler and their object of interest is the walls of the crib. Having nothing else to do, the toddler starts experiencing what scientists call the “fear of missing out”.

This leads them to start thinking of ways to achieve their objective, and being as curious and determined as they are, toddlers usually find a way to escape their crib after many unsuccessful attempts.

As the fear of getting hurt is not an emotion that they can process at present, it does not stop them from trying out different things, including many ways to find their way out of the crib.

If you want to know how to keep your toddler in their crib, then read on!


Toddler Climbing Out Of Crib? 5 Solutions Here

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1. Adjust the Crib

The first thing that you can do is to work out how to adjust the crib itself. Most crib designers probably (hopefully) know about this scenario and add elements into the construction of the crib that can help in this exact situation.

Cribs mostly have one wall which is higher than the other. The first thing that you can do is to move the higher side of the crib towards the room, facing away from the wall. This will give your toddler a new challenge to overcome as their usual strategy will fail while also giving you some time to plan out better alternatives.

If it is feasible, you can also change the cot itself and buy one with higher walls.


2. Use A Sleeping Bag For Toddlers

Human beings never actually forget the sensation of the womb. It is ingrained in our brains deep down and forms the basis of many instinctual habits. For toddlers, the instinctual memories are even fresher in the mind, and you can use this to your advantage when it comes to putting your child to sleep peacefully.

A sleeping bag for toddlers is a perfect way to emulate the feeling of being in a womb for your toddler. This lets them feel more at rest and has the added advantage of keeping their arms and legs comfortably wrapped up. This can prevent the nightly escape game for most young toddlers, although we cannot vouch for the more dexterous individuals.


3. Put Toys Or Books In The Crib

As I explained before, toddlers usually want to climb out because something grabs their attention, or they feel bored. Making interesting objects accessible to them inside the crib makes sense because it lets your child find something to occupy their mind when they can’t sleep.

Leaving a few toys or books in the crib can work very well and prevent your toddler from wanting to wander around the room in search of something to play with or interact with.


4. Distract Their Attention

If the toy strategy doesn’t work, you can still put some innovative and creative ideas to the test before moving forward to the final suggestion. If the only thing making your toddler jump out of the crib is their curiosity, then the only way to fix the problem is by focusing their attention on something else.

If toys and books don’t do the trick, you can use more creative methods like hanging fairy lights on a nearby wall away from the child’s reach. You might also want to consider a projector light show with some soothing music. You can also try moving things out of the toddler’s line of sight such as the bookshelf or toy rack which might interest the toddler or put a little curtain on the walls of the crib (with safety precautions).


5. Move Them To A Bigger Bed

If none of this works and your toddler continues to climb out of their crib, then maybe it’s time to make the big move. Moving your toddler to a toddler bed might seem like a sudden change, but it is the safer alternative as compared to the danger of having your toddler climb out of the crib every night.

When you are ready to make the move, be sure to baby-proof the room and adequately cover doorknobs, electric sockets and adjust all other hazards. Getting a toddler bed means leaving your child free to roam around wherever they like during the night and self-soothing themselves to sleep.

You need to ensure that the toddler can stay safe while they adjust to their newfound freedom and manage their sleeping patterns themselves.


Conclusion

Want to know how to stop a toddler from climbing out of the crib? The 5 tips on this page will certainly help!

Keeping a toddler in check and away from harm requires constant vigilance. The early years of childhood are a formative period that requires a patient approach with a balanced mixture of discipline and tenderness.

NEVER lose your patience with your toddler as it can have incredibly damaging effects on their young minds.

DO NOT expose your toddler to anger. If you feel that you are having a hard time keeping up with the demands of early parenthood, it is always a good idea to entrust your toddler to a relative or babysitter and get a few hours of alone time for yourself.

As a parent, your job is to nurture the body and mind of your child in the best way possible, and although it can be difficult at times, there is no excuse for enacting abusive behavior towards children.

Good luck!

Why Do Toddlers Cry In Their Sleep? 5 Reasons Here

why toddlers cry in their sleep

Toddlers are not known for their ability to go to sleep, stay asleep, and even stay in their own bed asleep! It is fair to say the relationship between toddler and sleep… well, it’s complicated! I’ve had it all… from night terrors to my toddler son waking up crying every morning. I have also times when he was crying in his sleep. What do I do? He is asleep… and seems fine, but he is crying! Why do toddlers cry in their sleep? Let’s have a look at the 5 most common reasons.

What you will learn in this post:

  • 5 common reasons why toddler cry in their sleep
  • Frequently asked questions

Why Do Toddlers Cry In Their Sleep

Why Do Toddlers Cry In Their Sleep? – 5 Reasons

Why Do Toddlers Cry In Their Sleep Infographic

1. Night Terror

When my son had a night terror for the first time, it was… well, terrifying (the clue is in the name). I think they call it a night terror because it is terrifying for the toddler, and for the parents!

It started as a small whimper that caught my attention through the monitor. I went up to his room to check on him. What I found was my toddler son sitting up in his bed stroking his blanket. His eyes were open, and he was staring into space. Then, out of nowhere, he released an ear-piercing scream. It scared the hell out of me. I asked him what was wrong, he didn’t respond. His body tensed up as he started screaming again. I had no idea…

I did what I assume most parents would do. I picked him up to offer comfort, but nothing worked. It was clear that he wasn’t lucid. I thought it would be a good idea to hit the lights, so I did. For the next 10 minutes, he was terrified.

Then, after 10 minutes, he looked at me and smiled. I asked if he was OK, he said yes. I laid him back down and he immediately fell asleep again. My heart was racing for at least an hour!

Toddlers can have night terrors where their eyes do not open, and some have night terrors but look like they are awake. during a night terror, your toddler is asleep.


2. Nightmare

Nightmares are different from night terrors, but they are also a common reason why your toddler cries in their sleep.

A lot of the time, a toddler will remember a nightmare, and it may wake them up. If this happens, you should talk to your toddler about the dream, if they want to – do not force them to talk about it.

When you are talking about their nightmare, you have to tread a fine line between not making lite of it, and not taking it seriously.


3. In Pain

Toddler years involve a lot of growth, and a lot of injuries too! If you are wondering why your toddler cries in their sleep, it could be because they are in pain.

If you feel as if it is necessary, then it is worth waking your toddler up to see if they require any pain relief.

Also – if you toddler regularly cries because they are in pain, then you should seek medical advice.


4. Scared

Why do toddlers cry in their sleep? One reason might be because they are scared and they are in-between a state of sleep and being awake.

You could add in extra comfort by providing your toddler with a night light, or even a light projector with soothing music.


5. Sick

You should always check your toddler to ensure they are not sick if they are crying while asleep.

If my son is sick during the night, it will always start with crying in his sleep! You get to know the cry too, so before I go and check in on him, I’ll grab a bowl, thermometer, and some medication too.


Frequently Asked Questions

frequently asked questions

What are night terrors in toddlers caused by?

There are many triggers that could cause night terrors in toddlers. After going through tons of night terrors with my son, I have come to the conclusion that his night terrors are caused by sugar-packed treats towards the end of the day. Other triggers include watching something scary, sickness, and reactions to some foods.

Can toddlers have bad dreams?

Yes – toddlers can have bad dreams. The toddler stage is a time when their imagination really kicks in, and that can be the cause of some bad dreams.

What is the difference between a night terror and a nightmare?

The key differences between a night terror and a nightmare are that a nightmare will usually wake your toddler up, and your toddler’s eyes are usually closed during a nightmare. Night terrors are much more terrifying because they look as if they are awake. Their eyes are usually open during a night terror. During a night terror, your toddler will also move, and thrash around. They may even sleepwalk.


Conclusion

So, why do toddlers cry in their sleep? One of the 5 reasons on this page is likely to be the cause.

It is important to remember that if you are ever concerned about your toddler crying in their sleep, you should seek medical advice. Do not rely on self-diagnosing using the internet!

Good luck!

My Child is Defiant and Disrespectful! These 5 Things Will Help

Child Is Defiant and Disrespectful

Playtime in the park is done and you tell your child that you need to go home. He won’t listen so you gave a five-minute warning. But your kid talks back disrespectfully, then you feel the anger rises in you. You yell at him and as you’re dragging him to go home, he began screaming and kicking.

Defiant and disrespectful behavior such as yelling, name-calling, refusing requests, arguing, cursing, and ignoring you is a sort of warning to parents.

You can’t teach your children to be respectful if you treat them with disrespect. You need to understand first why your child is defiant and disrespectful for you to find the right solution.

What you will learn in this post:

  • 5 reasons why your child is defiant and disrespectful
  • 5 things you can do to help
  • Frequently asked questions

My Child is Defiant and Disrespectful These 5 Things Will Help

5 Common Reasons Why Your Child is Defiant and Disrespectful

Even though most parents are very attentive about their child’s treatment towards other people, expecting nice and respectful actions, those same parents usually have children who treat them rudely.

Defiant and disrespectful behavior usually happens because of children having insufficient problem-solving abilities and less knowledge about how to become more respectful.

Usually, when children separate from their parents, they do the wrong things before they do the right thing. Here are some of the common reasons why your child is defiant and disrespectful.


Confused About Limitations

If you’re confused or not clear in setting about a limitation yourself, kids will react and be disrespectful. They will get the message from you that the thing is free for everyone or an unspecified area and is okay for grabs.

Say, if you sometimes allow your kid to use the tablet every morning and sometimes don’t, then you can’t expect them to follow your rules all the time. You need to be firm with the restrictions and set consequences when someone breaks the limits.


Over Controlled

Many kids become defiant and disrespectful when a home is full of control and fear-based parenting. Low support and under the pressures of high expectations, kids start to feel like they won’t lose anything.

The children will resent the feeling of being controlled that’s why they may lie, sneak around, or rebel. At the age of 5, lying is normal for kids but it might be a sign of too much control of their parents. They are afraid that you will scold or punish them a lot that’s why they don’t want to tell the truth.


Over Stressed

Just like any other individual, if kids feel too much stress, they will certainly become defiant and disrespectful. Unluckily, young children nowadays are already experiencing a lot of unnecessary stress to do their best in academics.

Kids need time to rest and deserve long periods of uninterrupted play every day. If they won’t get enough de-stressors, and all they think about is the academic goals that they need to achieve, then they will feel a lot of stress which can make them defiant and disrespectful.


Trying To Connect

If you don’t spend enough time with your children, they may feel left behind and cast out. As a result of getting less connection and for them to get attention, they tend to break something, yell, or hurt someone.

However, it’s not about attention, since it’s all about connection. Children need your touch, eye contact, and open hearts, and not the serious look on your face. If they won’t get the connection they need, they will settle for being disrespectful.


Worried

If your kid is worried about an impending transition like a new babysitter, a new job, a new school, a new baby on the way, a new house, or a sick grandparent, you can’t expect him to express his thoughts nicely.

If you have an idea about his worries, speak with him during a calm moment such as a long drive or bedtime.

Don’t disregard their worries, but let him know what they can do about it. Talk to him with honesty, but also be positive and with authority.


5 Things You Can Do If Your Child Is Defiant and Disrespectful

At some point in a parent’s life, you need to deal with your child being defiant or disrespectful. Whether they are only ignoring your requests or started insulting and cursing you, your children will sometimes disrespectfully express themselves.

So, you should understand that this is not your fault and comes for different reasons. Don’t worry because, with the appropriate approach, you can correct the defiant and disrespectful behavior of your child.

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Don’t Force It

Avoid saying, “I’m the parent, so you need to respect me!” because it will mostly backfire on you.

Instead of controlling how your kid should treat you, concentrate more on his behavior. Remind him that he needs to obey the rules whether he likes or not. Highlight the fact that being disrespectful is wrong, no matter how a person feels.


Positive Reinforcement

A lot of parents who deal with a disrespectful kid try to fix the situation by becoming very strict. They often forgot how vital it is to provide positive feedback to rectify and correct behavior.

If your children make an effort to follow you, give them praise as a reward. Also, proactively acknowledge all the good things that they do.


Never Allow It

Even though no parent allows their kids to be defiant, some unwittingly allow this behavior.

Let him know that voicing out his feelings is okay, but being disrespectful is not. Talk about some respectful ways to manage a situation, such as politely discussing with your child your rules about doing his homework.


Be Respectful

Kids often get the idea of acting disrespectfully by observing their parents or someone they respect.

One of the best things you can do to avoid defiant and disrespectful behavior is by displaying healthy anger management methods. Be courteous and polite in front of your kids even if you’re handling someone difficult and never speak negatively about other people behind their backs.


It Isn’t Personal

The more you take your children’s words and actions, the more you will overreact. It will only worsen the situation and motivates your kids to be more disrespectful and defiant.

Rather, let the small gestures slide altogether like eye rolls and sighs. Moreover, you need to objectively evaluate which behaviors are really out of control. Concentrate on rectifying these bad manners by using calm and constant discipline.


Frequently Asked Questions

Why is my child so disobedient?

It is most likely one of two reasons. 1. They have gotten away with it in the past, so they will keep doing it. 2. They have never had to answer for their behavior before. Now is the time to address both of these issues before it gets out of control.

How do you get a defiant child to obey you?

You need to make them responsible for their own behavior. If they think they are old enough to be defiant, then they should take responsibility. Also, positive responses to good behavior is an important part of your role is getting through this!

How do you deal with a difficult child behavior?

I deal with difficult behavior in children by making them responsible for their own actions, and by rewarding good behavior.


Conclusion

Kids can become defiant and disrespectful when they don’t like a certain situation or if they’re dealing with difficult problems in their life.

The most significant thing to keep in mind is to remain calm and act respectfully in front of them. Understand why they’re acting in this behavior and discuss it maturely with them.

Good luck!

Help! My Child is Mean and Rude! 5 Tips

My Child is Mean and Rude

It brings great shame to us to see our kids at their worst. This is especially true when other people, and not just us parents, are negatively affected by what they did and what they’re doing. However, reacting to this situation by scolding and punishing them because you felt ashamed of how your children acted is not the way to go about it.

This is because it is during these times when our kids most need us to be the model example of how to be a better and bigger person.


What you will learn in this post:

  • Why you are screaming out ‘help, my child is mean and rude!’
  • 5 things you can do to stop this behavior.

The key to raising kind, compassionate, and selfless children is to act this way yourself!

You have to remember, you are not less of a father just because your kids are acting selfish, mean, and rude. You’re also not less of a father by choosing not to fight back when your children start misbehaving.

As heart-wrenching as these moments can be, these situations serve as a reminder that fatherhood is not about you, but rather them.

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My Child Is Mean And Rude! What Are The 5 Common Reasons?


Attention Seeking

This might sound cliche, but it’s true. Some children deliberately act mean and rude to attract attention from their parents. This is especially true for children whose fathers are not at home all of the time. In such cases, they’ll be willing to go to extreme lengths just to get noticed, even if it means being punished for their behavior.

One of the best ways to deal with attention-seeking behavior is to ignore their tantrums and rudeness while focusing on their positive traits.


They Are Learning

Sometimes, children will act out in frustration because they don’t know how to do something, or what to do next.

When you notice your child misbehaving, don’t be quick to punish them. Instead, try to talk to them first and ask them why they’re misbehaving.

Your child might simply be frustrated because they don’t know how to solve a particular problem, or how to talk to other children. You can take this chance to show them there is a more positive way of doing things.


No Emotional Control (Yet)

Children can be very emotional, which is why they easily feel happy and excited. It’s also why it’s fairly easy for them to be overwhelmed with anger, sadness, anxiety, and disappointment. As a result, they don’t know what to do when they’re overcome by negative emotions.

Often, they’ll act out when their emotions get the best of them.

For this very reason, it’s important to teach children that there are healthier ways of dealing with emotions and feelings so they can cope and deal with their feelings in a healthy manner instead of turning to mischief, or in worse cases, bottling up their emotions until it boils over.


Control

Deviant behavior is sometimes the result of a child’s attempt to gain some power and control for themselves.

Fighting back will only lead to a power struggle. The better alternative is to offer children two choices so that they can feel like they have control over what’s happening and increase the likelihood fo your child complying with your instructions while minimizing any chances of arguments.


It Has Worked Before

Sometimes, the answer to why your child is mean and rude is because they don’t just feel like it’s the best way to get what they want – it’s gotten them what they want before.

Many parents give in to whining, groaning, and temper tantrums, all just to get their children to stop. However, as a father, it’s important that you remind your child that their misbehavior will not serve them well.

Otherwise, you’ll be teaching them that breaking the rules pays off.


My Child Is Mean And Rude! What Can I Do? Here Are 5 Top Tips…

Unfortunately, getting children back on track so that they grow up to become better individuals is much easier said than done.

So, how do you do it? Well, it’s not easy, but it pays to have help.

Here are 5 things that can help you better handle disrespectful and rude behavior as a father:

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1. Its Not Personal

When your kids start getting snarky, obnoxious, and downright rude, it’s more likely just because they’re starting to come to their own as a person, and putting yourself in a power struggle by allowing yourself to feel angry or hurt is the last thing that you need.

When your child inevitably starts pushing certain boundaries, telling them something as simple as, “Don’t behave like that. It’s not nice”, before turning around and walking away, is an effective way of letting them know that they did something wrong while also preventing things from escalating further.

Be direct and clear. Do not let emotions get the best of you.


2. Ignore Certain Behavior

This isn’t to say that we’re telling you to ignore rudeness and mean behavior in the household. Rather, what we’re saying is that you shouldn’t try to engage your child about what they did wrong and doing wrong all of the time.

Eye-rolling is a very common reaction among disrespectful children, and many fathers make the mistake of calling such behaviour out as soon as they happen.

Doing this only makes things worse. Most of the time, it will only lead to a lengthy argument. The result? The two of you are left emotionally exhausted with little to nothing getting done at the end of the day.

So, when your child rolls his or her ways or stomps their feet when they’re told to clean their room, just let them be.

At least, for the meantime.

For now, one thing that you can do is to warn them of the consequences of not doing their work.

Later on, when the two of you are calm, you can take the time to discuss with your child about what happened. Like, for example, you can ask them if they’re aware that they stomp their feet, or grovel, or roll their eyes, or slam doors, whenever they’re mad or they’re doing angry about something.

Sometimes, children don’t do disrespectful behaviour on purpose, and other times, they do it subconsciously.

It is then up to you to let them know about how such behaviour can be seen as disrespectful and what are the possible consequences of disrespect. Let them know about what other people could feel if they see such behaviour coming from them.

Even better, let them know how they would feel if they witnessed such behavior in other people.


3. Use Grandma’s Rule Of Discipline

Grandma’s rule of discipline, otherwise also known simply as Grandma’s rule, is all about reminding children the link between their behavior and certain consequences, as well as privileges and rewards.

What this means is that, instead of outright pointing out negative behavior and consequences, it might be more effective to frame things as an incentive.

A good example is phrasing something like, “You’re not allowed to play video games unless you do your homework”, to, “You can go and play video games as soon as you’re done with your homework”.

It’s a simple shift in how you phrase things but can have a huge effect on how your child responds. This is because you’re teaching your child that kind behavior yields a positive response.


4. Focus And Determination

When you decide to address disrespectful behavior, it requires changes on your end as well.

It’s not easy. It will be difficult. It will test the very limits of your patience as a father. However, you should not waver. Not only is it rewarding to see your children’s behavior improve, but you might also learn a thing or two yourself.


5. Restitution And Responsibility

Restitution means to “recompense for injury or loss”.

In this case, whenever your child is mean and rude, it might be necessary to have them do something to make amends for the damage caused by what they did to help them learn the value of accountability and responsibility, as well as to help prevent the same thing from happening again.

For example, if your child starts throwing away and breaking stuff because they’re angry, make them fix it, or better yet, get them to pay to fix it.

Teaching children that apologizing alone isn’t always enough will allow them to better reflect on the kind of behavior that resulted in such a situation while also allowing them to work on repairing any broken relationships with other people, you included.


Conclusion

If you are screaming out ‘my child is mean and rude, please help!’ then my 5 top tips on this page will help you out!

Children aren’t the most consistent creatures.

One day, your child may be the loving and kind prince and princess that you raised him or her to be. Other days, they might struggle to be kind and compassionate. The days where they are the latter can and will make you feel like you have failed your job as a father.

Do not let it get to you.

Remember that significant progress can’t be made in just a single day. It takes consistent work and discipline.

During the days when your child is good, don’t be forget to remind them that they’re doing good and they’re making you proud. On the other hand, when they become disrespectful little imps, consider extending your patience a little bit and try to remember why you’re doing what you’re doing in the first place.

Also, don’t forget that you are their role model.

Whatever you do and however you react to certain situations is something that they’ll try to pattern their behavior from. As such, if you want to raise your kids to be kind and compassionate adults, you would do very well to try and model the behavior that you want to see from them.

Good luck!

Toddler Hysterical At Bedtime? 5 Possible Reasons

Toddler hysterical at bedtime

“No!” Followed by little feet sprinting to the next room to hide has become common in your house. Whenever you announce, it’s bedtime, your toddler either lashes out on you with a temper tantrum or dashes away from you to hide. Sometimes, it’s the excuses. Your child announces they want a drink of water, need to peepee, or want to be held! It’s frustrating! Eventually, you will have a toddler hysterical at bedtime!

Luckily, if you understand what’s causing the tantrums, you can prepare before time to smoothen things out.


What you will learn in this post:

  • Why toddler can become hysterical at bedtime
  • 5 Things you can do if you have a toddler hysterical at bedtime
  • Frequently asked questions

Toddler hysterical at bedtime 5 possible reasons

5 Common Reasons Why You Have a Hysterical Toddler at Bedtime

Here are 5 common reasons why you have a toddler hysterical at bedtime.


1. They Want Independence

Around age two, toddlers start learning the power of the word “No,” and the best people to practice it on are their parents. Your toddler starts to assert their independence and will usually choose the worst time to do it, such as bedtime. To find out if this is the case, observe how many times a day, your little one tends to say no. 

During bath time, for instance, check if they willingly agreed to wear what you picked for them or said they’d rather wear something different.

Or maybe they want to eat mashed potatoes with tomato sauce instead of the beef stew you spent hours preparing.


2. They Are Overexcited

Do you usually play games just before bedtime? Or perhaps allow some screen time? Currently, everything your toddler sees is exciting, so they are likely to be overstimulated by the slightest thing.

If your days are filled with tons of activities, for instance, it may be too much for your child, which may overstimulate them.


3. Scared Of Sleeping

Think of a time you were so worried about the mortgage or getting fired, and you couldn’t sleep. The same thing happens to your toddler, but they are concerned about that green monster with eleven eyes. 

At the toddler stage, a kid’s imagination starts taking off, and they think of all sorts of things, some of which could keep them up at night. Even when your child is not afraid of the dark, they may start seeing ghosts, monsters, and other eerie creatures, making it impossible to sleep.


4. Your Toddler Is Overtired

When you are exhausted, all you look forward to is when you will slam down and sleep. For a toddler, however, the opposite is true. When the clock says bedtime, they will still be buzzing with adrenaline making it impossible to settle down.

If they nap too late in the afternoon, your baby will have a lot of unused energy, making it hard to catch some z’s at night.


5. Sleep Regression

Sleep regression generally occurs between eighteen months and two years, at the same time, your child is learning to assert their newfound independence.

Besides noticing your little one wanting to control what time they sleep, they will also resist naps and wake up during the night. 


Toddler hysterical at bedtime? Here Are 5 things to do

Toddlers need to learn independence, but using simple tasks such as carrying the cup to the kitchen is better than allowing them to decide their bedtime. Also, avoid stimulation and ensure your child gets enough sleep, so they aren’t overtired at night.

If your toddler is scared, talk to them about it, and maintain a consistent sleep schedule, even during a sleep regression. 

If you have a toddler hysterical at bedtime, then follow these 5 tips…

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1. Encourage Independence

Learning ‘grown-ups’ tasks is exciting and encourages your child to learn independence.

Use simple tasks such as choosing their clothes instead of their bedtime and whether to eat veggies or not. This way, you encourage your child’s development, but with limits.


2. Avoid Over Stimulation

During the first five years of life, kid’s brains develop at a high rate and require stimulation. This does not mean you fill their days with activities, toys, and things to do—instead, a balance between quiet time in predictable places, fun activities, and nap time.

Balance keeps your child growing and ensures they are better prepared for bedtime.

Avoid too much stimulation if you have a toddler hysterical at bedtime.


3. Discuss Fears

Talk to your child about what’s keeping them from going to bed, but don’t force them to talk about it if they aren’t ready. Once you know the problem, don’t build or support it by taking a broom and sweeping the monster away. This will only encourage your child to think the monster does exist.

Instead, use a secure object such as a blanket or toy, or offer companionship through sleeping with their older sibling or a pet. Sleeping with a little light on also helps, or maybe you could use a night light projector soothing music. Avoid scary shows on television and look for activities to build your child’s self-confidence.


4. Use Nap Time

Naps give your child the much-needed rest their bodies and minds need to rest and recharge for the day. Also, they ensure your child is not overtired, which makes nap time that much worse. Toddlers still need at least eleven hours of sleep, so ensure they nap during the day.

If you haven’t been using a sleeping schedule, start a routine that will help your child know when it’s time to sleep. This way, your kid will recognize when it’s bedtime and, thus, not resist. If they have been accustomed to a routine but are now resisting, try a different approach, such as starting the routine a little earlier than usual. 

This way, you can transition slowly to bedtime without being mentally exhausted. If this doesn’t work, your toddler may be experiencing sleep regression.


5. Manage Sleep Regression

Sleep regression usually lasts a few weeks, and while it’s frustrating, the best thing you can do is to maintain a consistent bedtime routine. Also, minimize major changes as much as you can, and inform your child beforehand if you can’t avoid something.

For instance, if you need to rush to grandma’s place, let your little one know as opposed to scooping them up, fastening their car seat, and rushing off.


Frequently Asked Questions

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What do you do when your toddler screams at bedtime?

If you have a toddler who is hysterical at bedtime then you first need to find out the reason. Once you have found the reason, you need to address that! Also, ensure that you reward good behavior. When your toddler goes to bed like a good toddler, reward them!

How long should you leave a toddler to cry at bedtime?

Experts recommend that you leave your child to scream for a maximum of 5 minutes before paying them a visit.

How do I get my toddler to calm down before bed?

I had the same issue as you! I got over it by establishing a good bedtime routine and sticking to it. Kids love a routine, and by establishing one, you are preparing them for bed. Brush teeth, read a book, lay down with some relaxing music on, and they will drift away without hysterics more often than not. Also – you should limit your toddler’s exposure to technology at least 45 minutes before bed.


Conclusion

It’s frustrating when your child won’t sleep on time, but no matter how rough bedtime war maybe, your secret weapon is always to stay calm. If you have a toddler hysterical at bedtime, then the tips on this page will help!

When it’s bedtime, tell your kid in a calm tone that it’s time to sleep without encouraging negotiation. Instead, comfort your little one, reassure them, and put them to sleep anyway.

Good luck!

4 Year Old Bedtime Battles and How to Overcome Them

4 Year Old Bedtime Battles

I think you’ll agree with me when I say it can be really difficult to get a 4-year-old to go to bed at night! I’m sure you can relate to bedtime tantrums and endless stalling tactics to postpone bedtime as long as possible. That may be the case in your household, but I’m here to tell you bedtime doesn’t have to be such a battle!

A child may refuse to go to bed for a variety of reasons, one of the most common being a fear of the dark.

Well, it turns out, there are strategies you can follow to overcome the most common reasons your child is resisting sleep or struggling to fall asleep.


What you will learn from this post:

  • 5 reasons for 4 year old bedtime battles
  • 5 things you can do to help the 4 year old bedtime battles

4 Year Old Bedtime Battles 5 Tips


5 Common Reasons for 4 Year Old Bedtime Battles

There are many reasons why a 4-year-old may refuse to go to bed.

The child may be afraid of the dark which is very common. Another common reason for bedtime battles is a total absence of a bedtime routine.

A child that is overtired will rub his eyes, fidget and cry but won’t concede to the fact that he’s tired. Then again, a child that is experiencing stress at home or at kindergarten may not be able to settle down at bedtime.
And of course, we have our modern-day malaise that is notorious for preventing a good night’s sleep: too much screen time.

Lets take a look at the 5 most common 4 year old bedtime battles.


1. No Bedtime Routine

You know the drill: you are tired from a long day but he’s running around like a cat on a hot tin roof. He’s jumping on the couch and screaming blue murder at the top of his voice.

The one moment he’s watching something on TV and the next he’s emptying your laptop bag. He refuses to sit down and eat his dinner. It’s total chaos and your reminder that ‘it’s bedtime’ falls on deaf ears.

The obvious solution is to create a bedtime routine. It’s not so difficult as you might think as you will see later in the post. All that’s needed is some real commitment from you.


2. Fear of the dark

Fear of the dark is a common reason for little ones not being willing to stay in bed after you’ve put them down in the evening. Not surprising. Think back, were you not also afraid of what or who might be hiding in the closet or under your bed?

Most toddlers have a vivid imagination and when you turn off the light they can become so fearful that they refuse to stay alone in their room. That’s completely understandable. The important thing to remember is that fear is very real for your child.

Whatever you do, don’t dismiss your child fear of the dark!


3. Your Child Is Overtired

When a child starts rubbing her ears, can’t stop fidgeting and cries for no reason at all, you know she is overtired. It is way past her bedtime, she desperately needs to sleep but can’t go to sleep.

Overtiredness often happens when the child has been overstimulated – too many people, too much going on. What’s needed is some time to calm things down.


4. Stress and Worries

Don’t underestimate a child’s stress levels. Children are very sensitive to the atmosphere in the home – they know if mommy and daddy are not talking again.

All manner of things could be playing on their minds and prevent them from relaxing and falling asleep. Maybe the family moved recently, a new baby has arrived, someone got badly hurt or is very sick, a friend has been horrible to them, mommy is very angry with me.

And so the possible list of stressors goes on.


5. Too Much Screen Time

Research all around the world has linked sleep problems with too much digital screen use. This is true for kids as well as adults. Watching TV before bed or using a tablet or a smartphone is not compatible with a good night’s rest.

Young children who are left to watch loads of TV tend to not sleep long enough to get proper rest. They often wake up tired because of poor quality sleep.


5 Ways You Can Overcome 4-Year-Old Bedtime Battles

For each of the above scenarios, which I’m sure you’re only too familiar with, there is a solution. You may be at the end of your wits, but hold on, you can turn bedtime battles into world peace.

First of all, it helps to be firm and resolute about the fact that you expect your child to go to bed and sleep. Children are very smart; if they sense that you are not resolute they will take advantage of your doubt, indecision, or whatever you want to call it and you will have an ongoing battle on your hands.

Let’s have a look at how we can fix 4 year old bedtime battles!

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1. Establish a Bedtime Routine

Make bedtime a priority and set a time aside for it. Also, allocate a certain amount of time to your child’s bedtime routine and treat that time as a special quality time with your child.

The nature of the routine is that it consists of the same activities at the same time. That makes the routine predictable which is reassuring for a small child. A predictable, calming bedtime routine that involves activities like a bath, brushing teeth, finding favorite soft toys, and story time will do wonders to calm your child down.

Why? Because they sense that they have your undivided attention and that is actually all they really want.

Listening to someone reading to you or telling a story is very relaxing and calming. In fact, there is nothing nicer than falling asleep to the voice of someone you love. Do this for your child and you’ll be building a very special relationship.


2. Talk about Fear of the Dark

Don’t dismiss the fear, acknowledge it as real but at the same time let your child understand that there really is nothing to be afraid of and that eventually, the fear will go away. If your child talks about monsters in the closet or under the bed, show the child that there is nothing there.

Turn off the light and leave a night light on for your child. You might also want to consider a night light projector with soothing music. Dim light is calming. Again, a story might help here – your child might very well fall asleep while you’re reading and so the whole issue with monsters in the dark will automatically be resolved.


3. Prevent Over-tiredness

If this happens regularly, you’ll have to take a good look at your lifestyle and daily habits. Is the family too busy and too active, being out until late on multiple weekdays? Is your child missing out on an afternoon nap? Is your child hyperactive because he had too much sugar during the day?

All these factors can contribute to an overtired child that struggles to settle down.

Avoiding staying out too late and having too many activities with no rest in between will go a long way to preventing a small child from getting overtired.

Again, if you have a calming bedtime routine in place, your child will start calming down as soon as she realizes that the usual things are happening before she goes to sleep. You can help your child to calm down by staying calm yourself and just following the same soothing bedtime routine.


4. Acknowledge Stress and Worries

If your child seems unsettled and anxious try to find out what the reason is. You probably have an idea as to the source so don’t shy away from talking about it.

Experts advise that if something serious happened, it’s advisable to keep to the usual bedtime routine as this makes a small child feel safe and in control.

It’s important to acknowledge your child’s feelings and that you let your child know you understand. But don’t go on and on about it. You want your child to understand that life goes on and everything will be okay.

What you want to avoid is that your child goes to sleep in a state of fear, so you need to be very loving and reassuring. That means lots of hugs and kisses.


5. Limit Screen Time

Research has found that the light from digital devices can interfere with the production of melatonin, an important hormone that plays an important role in sleep. The light from these devices can prevent the production of enough melatonin to feel sleepy.

In fact, watching TV or using other digital devices like smartphones and tablets before bed can keep a child wide awake for hours.

Don’t let your children watch TV after dinner and put your phone out of the way. At bedtime, read stories from a book, not a tablet or a phone.


Frequently Asked Questions

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How long do the 4 year old bedtime battles last?

That depends on how you deal with them! By following the 5 tips on this page, they will be over in now time at all. If you allow it to continue, then it could go on for years.

Why does my 4 year old fight sleep?

Because this is the time in life when they want to make their own decisions, and your 4 year old is putting their foot down! These 4 year old bedtime battles need to be fought and won by us!

What do you do when your 4 year old won’t sleep?

If our 4 year old will not sleep, then you need to figure out why. On this page there are 5 tips for overcoming the 4 year old bedtime battles, so use them to make life a little easier.


Conclusion

There are many legitimate reasons why a 4-year-old might have trouble going to sleep at bedtime. But bedtime doesn’t have to be a nightly battle between parent and child. These 4 year old bedtime battles can be bought to an end!

Show your child that you mean it, that you are serious about their bedtime. Slow things down at the end of the day with a simple bedtime routine that’s enjoyable for both you and your child.

You can use this time as a time for you to slow down as well and leave the world and its issues outside for an hour or so.

Remember, what most children crave most is their parents’ undivided attention. Give it to them for a while every night and you’ll have children that go to bed happily.

Good luck!

Addressing Aggressive Behavior In 6 Year Old – Complete Guide

angry 6 year old

Just when it seems that you have got over one stage, along comes another one to challenge you! Now you have a 6 year old who is testing you. What causes a 6 years year old to suddenly lash out and hit other kids, or even their parents? How do you address aggressive behavior in 6 year old kids? Let’s take a look.

What you will learn in this post:

  • Why your 6 year old is showing aggressive behavior
  • 5 Ways to deal with aggressive behavior in 6 year old child

Addressing Aggressive Behavior In 6 Year Old

5 Reasons Why Your 6 Year Old Is Showing Aggression

As kids progress through their early life, they are faced with certain challenges. One challenge in particular is to react to difficult situations correctly.

When kids get angry, they are not reacting to a particular challenge in life the correct way.

There are 2 things that cause this:

  1. A trigger – what caused the feelings that started the angry response?
  2. The anger – is not the correct response

Struggle At School

It is very common for a 6 year old to be frustrated with their work at school.

Schooling gets more and more difficult as your child moves through the years, as it should. Sometimes, the gear shift change between years can cause some frustration.

If you notice aggressive behavior in your 6 year old before and after school only, this could be the reason.


Violent TV/Video Games

Most 6 year old children have started to play computer games and have become more involved in choosing what they want to watch on TV.

Both of these have the potential to be teaching your child the wrong way to act in life.

For every app or TV controller they have access to, you should be looking for the parental control options and adopting them.

Also – it is easy to give in and let your child play games that have been designed for older kids, but the repercussions could be an angry 6 year old!


Learned Behavior

Your 6 year old spends a lot of time at school – do you know who they hang out with? Are they also 6 years old’s who are displaying aggressive behavior?

From this point in life, you almost need to vet your child’s friends to ensure they are not going to be teaching each other bad habits.

Reacting to situations with anger is learned behavior. Your 6 year old could be learning this at school, or at home.


Frustration

6 years old’s want to be more grown-up, but their body is still growing and sometimes, it doesn’t give them what they need. The same for their brain too.

Frustration can kick in if your child is trying to achieve something they are not ready for yet. This is especially true if your child has older siblings… they want to do what their older brothers or sisters are doing, but they are not ready yet!


Behavioral Disorders

Unfortunately, you cannot rule out behavioral disorders just by searching on the internet!

If you think your 6 year is old displaying aggressive behavior due to a disorder, then you will need to seek professional, medical help as soon as possible.


5 Ways To Deal With Aggressive Behavior In 6 Year Old Child

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Calm Down

The first thing you both need to do is remain calm. Easier said than done!

  • You – remain calm during the aggressive episode
  • Your child – needs to learn to calm down quickly

Obviously, this is going to be something that takes a long time to learn, especially for your child. At the moment, this is the way they deal with whatever emotion they are feeling. It is your job to teach them other ways to express whatever they are feeling.


Teach Responsibility

When your child is 6 years old, it is the perfect time to continue teaching them about responsibility.

Discuss with your child that they are responsible for certain things in life, and they are responsible for the way they react in certain situations.

Make them responsible for developing another way to react, removing the aggression. What other reactions are better than aggression?

Although you are teaching your child to be more responsible, it is ultimately your responsibility, but they don’t need to know that!


Reward Good Behavior

Those who have read a few posts on this blog about behavior in kids and toddlers know that I am a huge fan of rewarding good behavior. It is the most effective way I have found to keep my son in check!

Every time your 6 year old hits a trigger but reacts in a way that is not aggressive, it should be rewarded. Build the foundations that this is the correct way of reacting to whichever situation they faced.


Discuss Cause And Effect

Cause and effect is a huge part of any child’s development. If they do not know the effect of their aggressive behavior, why would they change the cause?

A powerful method to teach your child cause and effect is by asking your child to explain their actions.

Using this method will help your child to think out loud. By describing what happened, they will be able to identify better ways to deal with it. During the explanation, it is important that you also ask ‘what happened when you reacted this way?’


Seek Help

There are professional, medical folks who specialize in aggressive behavior in 6 year old kids. If you think your child has reached this stage, then you should absolutely reach out to someone who will help.

It is not up to you to diagnose your child, and please do not use the internet to do it for you! A face to face consultation is the only way forward.


Frequently Asked Questions

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Why is my 6 year old so angry and aggressive?

If your 6 year old is behaving this way, then it could be for a number of different reasons. They may feel frustrated at not being able to complete tasks they see others doing, they could be struggling with work at school, or it could be due to a behavioral issue. If you think this is the case, then please seek medical assistance.

How do you discipline a child with anger issues?

The same way you discipline any child, by rewarding good behavior. It is important for your child to learn the best way of dealing with emotions, and anger is not one of them.

How do you reward a 6 year old?

The reward does not always have to be financial, like money, or a new toy/gadget. Kids love collecting things like stars, or happy faces. They want a visual representation of their good behavior. My son loves a rewards chart. Each day, he checks it to see how many stars he got the day before! It works like a charm!


Conclusion

Controlling aggressive behavior in 6 year old kids is a challenge! Your first job is to find out what is causing it, and unfortunately, there are tons of reasons!

I mentioned above in this post, but I want to re-affirm that aggressive behavior is learned behavior. Control your own temperament and be a role model. You will find your 6 year old copying your behavior.

Whenever you get angry, it is worth explaining to your child the reasons why you are angry, but then explain how you are reacting to it. Your 6 year old will quickly learn to fall in line!

Good luck!

Why Do Kids Have Imaginary Friends – 5 Reasons Why

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I wish I had the imagination of a child! Sometimes, during playtime with my son, I get lost. I can’t keep up with the imagination flowing through his mind, while mine just freezes. Imagination is an awesome thing, right? Part of a child’s development might include an imaginary friend. Usually, this is nothing to worry about. In fact, it means you can get on with some grown-up tasks while your kid plays with their imaginary friend! Why do kids have imaginary friends? Let’s take a look at 5 reasons why…


What you will learn in this post:

  • Why do kids have imaginary friends?
  • When it is time to worry about your child’s imaginary friend
  • Frequently asked questions

5 Reasons Why Kids Have Imaginary Friends

Why Do Kids Have Imaginary Friends – 5 Reasons Why

Why do kids have imaginary friends? Let’s take a look at these 5 common reasons:


More Playtime Fun

Why do kids have imaginary friends? The answer is probably this…

They are fun to play with!

Kids develop imaginary friends as part of their imagination. Not only does it mean they are creative enough to design an imaginary friend, but they also have the imagination to get through an entire playtime with them!

I wish I still had that kind of imagination!


Someone To Blame

I call this one ‘dodging responsibility’. Your child has created an imaginary friend so they can pass the responsibility for when your child is naughty.

After all, you can’t punish someone if it isn’t their fault, can you?

By creating an imaginary friend, your child has backed you into a corner, and you need to be creative to get back out! My favorite trick is to pass responsibility back to your child.

Make them in charge of punishing the imaginary friend, and explain that if it happens again, then you will need some answers from your child as to why their punishment is not working.


Stop Fear

Some children will create an imaginary friend to sit with them when they are scared.

For instance, if they have a fear of the dark, then the imaginary friend will be there with them so they do not feel afraid.

It seems like a good coping mechanism to me!


Lonely

Your child might be lonely, and that is why they have created an imaginary friend.

Let’s face it, in terms of a coping mechanism, it is a very good one. The imaginary friend will be a sounding board for your child.

You should keep an eye on this, especially if your child is feeling very lonely all of the time. Check-in with your child to see if they have any friends, and if they don’t, then make take some steps to get your child more friends.


Help Problem Solving

Why do kids have imaginary friends? To help with problem-solving of course!

As kids progress, they have to improve, it is the way of the world! Homework gets more difficult, and so does life.

Having an imaginary friend to help with problem-solving is an excellent way of dealing with problems.

I don’t know about you, but when I have a problem I discuss it in my head to try and find a solution. That is basically what your child is doing, but out loud.


Is It OK For A Kid To Have An Imaginary Friend?

Having an imaginary friend is usually nothing to be concerned about. This is a part of your child growing up and is a key part of their imagination kicking in.

There are times when you need to question whether or not an imaginary friend is a good thing, so let’s cover those times now…


Imaginary Friends – When To Worry

Here are the 4 times when you need to be concerned about your child having an imaginary friend.


Demanding

If your child has an imaginary friend they are are very demanding, then it is time to raise the levels of concern.

Sometimes, kids can use an imaginary friend to demand things and remove the responsibility from themselves.

Turn that into a positive by handing over responsibility back to your child. Ask them to deal with the demands of the imaginary friend. If they are demanding food, get your child to explain why it is not time to eat yet. If they demand new toys, ask your toddler to explain why they cannot have new toys whenever they want.

If your child has created an imaginary friend to dodge responsibility, then hand it back to them!


Being Naughty

Imaginary friends can be a target for all things bad, and this is a particularly difficult issue to resolve.

If your child has an imaginary friend that is always getting the blame for all things naughty, such as:

  1. Drawing on the walls
  2. Breaking things
  3. Slamming doors

…then you should discuss what is right and wrong alongside your child. Push the responsibility of punishing the imaginary friend onto your child to see how they deal with the problem.


Spending Too Long With Them And Not With Friends

Another concern that you may have is that your child is spending far too long on their own with their imaginary friend and doesn’t like interacting with real kids.

By spending time away from real people, it inhibits the development of their social skills.

You can resolve this by inviting their friends around to play, or arranging play dates.


If They Are Scary

Kids have a tremendous imagination! I have trouble keeping up with my son during playtime… I guess my brain is getting too old. Unfortunately, this wild imagination also has some drawbacks, and this is one of them.

If your child has an imaginary friend, that’s cool. If the imaginary friend is always scaring them, then that isn’t cool.

The problem that you have is you can’t drive on over to the parents of the imaginary friend and discuss it with them, this is all happening in your child’s mind. What you should do, is sit down and break the news that the friend is not real. You should also give your child some ways to cope with the scary imaginary friend.

I’m going to get a bit deep here, but I am a huge fan of NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming). You can use this to teach your child to not fear their imaginary friend. You can begin by getting your child to close their eyes. Guide them through imagining their imaginary friend talking in a funny voice, or dressing up as Micky Mouse, etc. Make it funny, and get them laughing. Tell them to picture their imaginary friend as a very small person. These techniques will help your child to overcome the fear of the imaginary friend.


Frequently Asked Questions

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When do kids stop having imaginary friends?

Usually, kids stop having imaginary friends at around the 7 or 8 years old stage. This is because there is a danger of them become a laughing stock at school if they have one. This is also the stage where they start to develop deeper friendships and the need for imaginary friends is reduced.

Is it OK for my child to go to school if they have an imaginary friend?

It depends on the age of your child. If they are 5 or 6, it is OK. There may be other kids in their class who also have imaginary friends. When your child gets to 7 or 8, it may result in bullying, so you should put a stop to it at around that age.

What do I do if my child blames their imaginary friend for things?

Your child may have created an imaginary friend to remove responsibility for their actions. I would turn that around and hand over the responsibility of punishing the imaginary friend. Then, if they are still blaming their friend, ask your child why their punishment isn’t working. Ask them to control their imaginary friend better, and coach them through it. Hand back the responsibility.


Conclusion

Why do kids have imaginary friends? I have identified the 5 most common reasons why on this page. Also, I have given you a few things to watch out for.

I said it earlier in this post, and I will say it again. Imagination is an awesome thing, I wish it wasn’t so difficult as an adult, but I guess that is our brains naturally slowing down as we age, right? That sucks…

Anyway, if your child has an imaginary friend, enjoy it while it lasts, but make sure it doesn’t last too long and doesn’t get in the way of their development.

Good luck!

How To Get A Toddler To Drink Water – 5 Ways

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Water is one of the most important things on this planet! Without it, there would be no human race. Drinking water is a very healthy habit to pick up, and one that we should absolutely be passing over to our kids as they grow. In this post, you will read about a friend of mine whose water drinking habit has now been passed to the 3rd generation of his family! If you want to know how to get a toddler to drink water, then I will show you in this post, with my 5 top tips!


What you will learn in this post:

  • The benefits for your toddler if they drink more water.
  • How to get a toddler to drink water – and 5 tips.
  • Frequently asked questions.

How To Get A Toddler To Drink Water 5 Ways

5 Reasons Why Your Toddler Should Drink More Water


To Stay Hydrated

You don’t need me to tell you that your toddler needs to stay hydrated!

Being dehydrated will lead to the following:

  1. Feeling dizzy
  2. Dry mouth
  3. Peeing less

You should already be checking for signs to ensure your toddler is correctly hydrated. Use this color chart to keep an eye on the hydration levels.


Maintain Healthy Weight

Drinking plenty of water will reduce the risks of obesity. That is a proven fact!

Childhood obesity is on the increase, despite the obvious health issues that are associated with it, such as:

  1. Increase in cancer risk
  2. Cardiovascular issues

Use water to help reduce the risk of obesity. Raising an obese child will give them health conditions that will last them for their entire life. Start them off with healthy habits, such as drinking water instead of soda and other drinks that are full of sugar.


Reduces Sugar Intake

Drinking more water means drinking less sugary drinks.

As you may know, too much sugar is bad for any of us, not just for your toddler. It can lead to:

  1. Poor dental hygiene
  2. Increases risk of diabetes
  3. Increase the aging process

Cut out the soda and other sugary drinks to develop a healthier habit!


Reduced Fatigue

By drinking more water, your toddler will suffer less with fatigue. I know… it is difficult to imagine a toddler with fatigue, but it really does exist!

Your toddler’s fatigue might show in other ways, such as being argumentative when tired, or their behavior might suffer. They might begin:

  1. Hitting
  2. Throwing
  3. Getting angry for no reason

Flushes Toxins

It is a fact that water flushes toxins out of the body.

kidneys use water to help to rid your body of toxins and waste products. If you do not take in enough water, then your kidneys will not function as well as they can do.


How To Get A Toddler To Drink Water – 5 Ways

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Add Fruit

This first tip is easy! Simply cut some fruit slices and add them to your toddler’s drink.

You can buy cups and bottles that hold fruit inside the cup or bottle to release some awesome flavor into the water.

That way, your toddler gets to drink water, and takes in some vital vitamins from the fruit!

Favorites include:

  1. Strawberries
  2. Black currents
  3. Orange
  4. Kiwi

You could also consider freezing these slices of fruit to add to your toddler’s water on hot days. Your toddler will find it refreshing, and tasty!


Be A Role Model

This is important – if you want to know how to get a toddler to drink water, then the first thing you should do is be a role model and drink more water!

By drinking water yourself, you are subconsciously letting your toddler know that water is nice to drink. You know what toddlers are like, they want to copy whatever adults do! So why not give them something healthy to copy.

Besides getting your toddler to drink more water, it is beneficial to you too, right?


Only Offer Water

Your toddler will get thirsty. If you only offer water, they will drink it.

When your toddler drinks water every day, it becomes a habit. That habit will grow with them.

I have a friend in his late 50’s who has 3 children who are now in their 20’s. Since they were toddlers, they were only given water to drink. That is every time they wanted a drink, and with every meal.

Now they are in their 20’s, they still only drink water with every meal! Not only that, but one of them has a toddler of his own now, and guess what? His toddler only drinks water during meal times!

That habit has grown over 20 years and is now being passed to a brand new generation. All because they were only offered water.


Make It Fun

There are 2 things you can add to the water drinking experience to make it fun.

  1. Fun cups
  2. Fun straws

If you make drinking water fun, then your toddler is much more likely to drink it.

If you have added fruit to the drinks too, then it will be a habit that is even more likely to stick with them!

Basically, it is the same with anything that you want your toddler to do. Make it fun, and they are much more likely to do it.


Create A Competition

This is an interesting take on how to get a toddler to drink water!

There are 2 competitions you can do, and I like both of them. If your toddler is competitive (most are), then give these a go:

  1. Race to drink a cup of water.
  2. Race to get the clearest pee!

Gamification gets things done, in business, and in parenting! The beauty is, you don’t even have to have a prize. The glory of your toddler winning is the most important thing to them.


Frequently Asked Questions

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What do you do when your child won’t drink water?

Make it fun, and make it tasty! Follow the tips on this page if you want to know how to get a toddler to drink water. You should only offer your toddler water, every time. With each meal, the options should be water or water. Cut out the soda, and your toddler will have a very healthy habit.

How do you get a dehydrated toddler to drink?

The important thing is that you don’t rush the drink down your toddler. To start with, you should always get your toddler to take small sips. I learned that the hard way! If your toddler rushes to drink fluids, they are likely to come straight back up again! Also, you should only offer water.

How can I get my 1 year old to drink more water?

Make a game of it! 1-year old’s love to play games, it is something they have only just learned to do, right? Set up a water tea party and get them to drink ‘tea’ (water) from little cups.


Conclusion

If you want to know how to get a toddler to drink water, then the 5 tips on this page will absolutely help you.

The most important thing is that you allow your toddler to develop a habit where they drink only water at each mealtime. I told you about a friend of mine who only gave his toddlers water to drink, and now they are passing that to the next generation!

That is one very healthy habit! If that decision is passed on to yet another generation in 20 years time, then what a gift to have given. I hope I can leave that kind of legacy to my descendants.

Good luck.

7 Easy Ways To Help Toddler Night Waking Separation Anxiety

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Toddlers require anywhere from 11 to 14 hours of sleep per night. It would be excellent for parents if that meant they’d go right to sleep around 8 pm and then stay asleep until morning. However, it does not work that way, unfortunately. Your toddler sleeps typically well in the crib or bed. However, he or she is bound to begin a phase of waking up in the night. Even if it is just one time. Perhaps your toddler may wake up two or three times a night, screaming! This is part of the whole toddler night waking separation anxiety phase they go through.

The only way to get your toddler to stop screaming is by having to lull them back to sleep. And this begins to remind parents of how they were as newborns crying every few hours in the night for a feeding or a diaper change.

The longer this phase goes on, the more sleep-deprived the parents and the toddler will be, which is a toxic combination. Parents also need to be reassured that this phase will just be that, a phase, and not last forever.

They also need to understand why their toddlers are waking up in the night crying.

7 Ways To Help Toddler Night Waking Separation Anxiety

Why Do Toddlers Wake Up In The Night Crying?

There could be several reasons that your toddler is waking in the night screaming. Let’s look at some of the possible reasons, and then discuss the culprit that is likely to be the cause for this.

  • Your toddler is sick or growing in molars – Do you remember when he or she was a teething infant? And more specifically, do you remember that as soon as your teething infant at the time had just begun sleeping through the night? And then regressed with that due to teething pain? That could potentially be a case of deja vu as your toddler may be unable to sleep due to the teething pain as the molars grow. Or, your toddler may be unwell. Sickness will get into the way of sleeping.
  • Obstructive sleep apnea – If your toddler snores and is all of a sudden jolted awake from it, then that is obstructive sleep apnea. The cause for that is large adenoids or tonsils. If this keeps happening, then it is time to get a referral to a pediatric ENT by the pediatrician.
  • Separation anxiety and fear – Toddler night waking is commonly due to separation anxiety. Separation anxiety in older babies and toddlers is normal and a good sign because they are at a point where they are forming bonds with their parents or caregivers. However, they still are at a developmental phase where they think their parents or caregivers are not anywhere near them if they are not in sight. That is what triggers the anxiety. They fear their parents or caregivers just disappeared. Then they cry and can throw tantrums as a result of the separation anxiety. They may also have fears caused by other types of stress if significant changes are happening, such as potty training, the arrival of a new sibling, a move, a new babysitter, and so on.

7 Ways To Help You Through The ‘Toddler Night Waking Separation Anxiety’ Phase

However, let’s focus on our toddler waking at night due to separation anxiety. And let’s now talk about the 7 ways to help with the situation so that your toddler and you can get the right amount of zzzzz’s!

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1. Bedtime Routines Are Extremely Helpful

If you don’t have a regular bedtime routine for your toddler, the best way to help combat this problem is to have one established. Routines provide a sense of security for your toddler as they are predictable (which is exceptionally reassuring) and consistent.

Routines will help the toddler feel safe. An example of a routine is giving your toddler a soothing bath each night. After the bath, that is when it is time to go into the pajamas and for teeth brushing. And then it will be bedtime. Read a calm and fun bedtime story that will make it enjoyable for your toddler.

Another essential thing to keep in mind is not to allow your toddler to watch TV around two hours before bedtime. TV is too stimulating, and if they watch something scary, that increases the chances of having a nightmare, or night terror.

Therefore, limiting TV time at night is another thing to add to the routine.


2. Stay Calm

If your toddler is up in the night crying due to separation anxiety, you may become upset and stressed. The worst thing to do is give off a frightened expression and cry along with the toddler.

Many parents do that without even realizing it. It is quite startling and tiring when you are jolted awake due to your toddler screaming at 2 am. But it is important to remember that if you are visibly upset, then that only sends the message to your toddler that bedtime is scary.

It is critical to stay calm, relax, and confident. That is what will help keep your toddler calm in the end.


3. Never Sneak Away

You may be tempted just to sneak away once your toddler becomes drowsy again. However, this is not a good idea. You have come into your toddler’s room to calm them down, and then the next thing they know is that you’re not present after looking around again. That will only add to further uncertainty and fear.

What your toddler will believe is that you will vanish if he or she looks the other way. The best thing to do is tell your toddler goodbye lovingly as you walk out of the door while your toddler is looking at you.


4. It Is Important To Comfort Your Toddler

You may be exhausted and bleary-eyed when your toddler’s wailing jolts you awake at 2 or 3 am. Therefore, all you may want to do is quickly go into their bedroom to show your toddler that you have not disappeared and then walk away afterward. You aren’t in the mood to be overly comforting, but you must comfort your child.

Your child is scared because of fear that you may have abandoned him or her. Rub your toddler’s back. Whisper to them. Your child needs the reassurance that you have not vanished.

It can happen quickly. You are not likely going to need to spend the rest of the night comforting your toddler. Once your toddler is tired again, you can then go back to bed.

However, as it was discussed in the point before to leave in front of their eyes. It is also essential to go to your toddler’s side quickly because that shows that you are nearby.


5. Don’t Create Bad Habits

You know it is crucial to run over to your crying toddler in the night as quickly as possible. However, do not start reading bedtime stories or start playing with him or her either. That will only create some bad habits, and you can imagine how much your toddler will love it. Then the next thing you know, he or she will no longer cry in the night due to separation anxiety. Your child will wail in the night because of wanting to play or to listen to a story.

If that happens, you can say goodbye to having a peaceful sleep for a long time.


6. Make Sure That Your Toddler Has A Favorite Soft Toy To Keep In Bed

Putting toys and blankets into the crib is dangerous for an infant as any object in a crib is at risk for blocking the baby’s airways. However, toddlers can bring in soft toys and blankets into their cribs or beds. That is because they can move around perfectly fine, whereas infants under four months of age can not. Therefore, if you are worried about your toddler bringing his or her favorite soft toy to bed for that reason, there is no need to be. That is unless your child has a disability that can pose a risk.

Your toddler’s favorite soft toy in his or her bed may provide enough reassurance that it can make separation anxiety more bearable. That does not mean that he or she will not cry in the night for you. However, after you comfort your child and are ready to go back to bed, remind him or her that the toy is there to make all fear go away. Your toddler will likely be able to calm down quickly and then go back to sleep as well.


7. Talk To Your Toddler’s Pediatrician

If your child keeps crying at night due to separation anxiety after trying these tips, then you will want to book an appointment with your toddler’s pediatrician. If nothing is helping him or her ease the fear, then the child may have some sort of anxiety disorder that will need treatment by using specialized techniques. And these techniques would be given by a pediatric psychologist.

However, more often than not, these tips will help ease your toddler’s separation anxiety at night. And remember once again, the night waking due to this issue is a phase that will not last forever. Once your toddler understands that you are not in front of them, it does not mean that you vanished, then this issue should end.


Frequently Asked Questions

frequently asked questions for toddler night waking separation anxiety

How long does separation anxiety last in toddlers?

Separation anxiety can last a few months. Usually, it is a phase that your toddler is going through. Your job is to keep reminding your toddler that they are absolutely fine in bed alone.

Why does my 2 year old wake up so much at night?

It could be for a number of different reasons. Your toddler might be scared (from a nightmare), or they could be in pain, or they could be going through the ‘toddler night waking separation anxiety’ phase.

Should I ignore toddler crying at night?

I always check my son when he cries, because I want to know if he is OK and not in pain. If your toddler is crying in an attempt to get your attention, it is OK to let them cry for 5 minutes. I would not leave it longer than that.


Conclusion

If you are are struggling with toddler night waking separation anxiety, then these 7 tips will absolutely help you through it!

These tips will help your toddler to stop crying in the middle of the night. Some toddlers always wake up crying in the morning, which is very similar to this situation but can be caused by different things.

Good luck!

My Toddler Doesn’t Eat! 5 Tricks To Help

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You’ve got to love the toddler years! They are full of little gifts like hitting, screaming, and even licking! These little folks can give you some problems to deal with, can’t they? In this post, we are going o look at the ‘my toddler doesn’t eat’ phase. Because if you are not going through that at the moment, you will be soon!

Getting a toddler to eat is a battle that every parent will (probably) face at some point, but when they are consistently not eating, it can start to become worrying.

Here are some helpful suggestions and tips to put your mind at ease.


What you will learn:

  • 5 common reasons why your toddler doesn’t eat
  • 5 things you can do to help

My toddler doesnt eat

My Toddler Doesn’t Eat! Why? Here Are 5 Reasons

This page is no replacement for medical advice. If you think there is a medical reason why your toddler doesn’t eat, then you should seek out a face to face consultation with a pediatrician, or a dietician. Whilst the internet is an excellent source of info, it is no replacement for medical advice where needed.

If you are going through the ‘my toddler doesn’t eat’ phase, then these 5 non-medical reasons might be the reason.


Toddlers Don’t Grow As Much

Babies grow quickly, but when your child reaches 2-3 years old, their growth slows down, meaning they don’t need as much to eat as they used to.

This is a common reason why toddlers eat less or refuse food altogether. Once they reach school age, they will start to grow more steadily, and their appetite will return.


Food Doesn’t Hold Their Interest

Your toddler is very interested in the world and everything that is going on around them. So expecting them to sit still and eat their food for the duration of meal times is a big ask.

They will become bored very easily and stop eating so they can go off and explore. At this age, food just isn’t that interesting to them.

Some parents will put the TV on to encourage them to eat, but this may just distract them even more. It certainly distracted my son when he was going through this phase!


They Are Picky With Their Food

The toddler years are the most common for kids to become fussy eaters.

They are sensitive to taste, smell and how a food feels, so they will reject any new food you try to give them, often without even trying it. Remember, the first bite is with the eye!

Worst of all, they have just started finding their voice, and have learned the word “no”, which they will often use at mealtimes, bedtime, bathtime, and just about every other time in fact!


They May Be Snacking Too Much

Toddlers have quite small stomachs, so don’t need to eat as much as older kids or adults. If your child is refusing to eat at meal times, then try and observe what they eat during the rest of the day.

It could be that they are eating lots of snacks in between meals, so just aren’t hungry when you serve up their main meal.


They Could Be Ill or Just Tired

If your toddler stopped eating for no apparent reason, it could be that they are just under the weather. Even a cold or temperature will be enough to put them off their food. You know what that is like, right?

As long as they are staying hydrated, their appetite will return soon. If it’s mainly a problem with their evening meal, then they could just be tired and will make up for the food they don’t eat at their next mealtime.


5 Ways You Can Get Your Toddler To Eat

Along with these 5 tips, you should always set a good example to your toddler when you are eating. If your toddler sees that you do not eat your meals, they will follow. If your toddler sees that you always finish your meals, they will also look to finish meals! If you are asking the question: my toddler doesn’t eat, what can I do? then you can follow these 5 tips…

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Don Not Pressure Them To Eat

The more you try to get your toddler to eat, the more they will refuse to do so. Dragging out dinner time, until they have eaten one more spoonful, will just stress everyone out and make them dread meal times all together.

It may be difficult, but try to let your toddler eat what they like from their plate. Praise them when they eat something, and it’s more likely they will continue.

If they don’t eat much, they will make up for it later on. Toddlers do not go hungry for too long without letting you know!

Remember that toddlers have small stomachs, so don’t expect them to eat lots of food.


Set Meal and Snack Times

Regular meal and snack times can let toddlers know when it’s the right time to eat and the right time to play.

Give them opportunities to eat around six times a day, so they can get the food they want at regular intervals, and won’t go hungry.

Try to leave no more than 3 hours between eating times. Give them a little nudge when mealtime is coming up too, so that they know that it will soon be time to eat.


Let Your Toddler Pick Their Food

You’ll want to introduce your toddler to new foods, and you’ll want them to be healthy.

Select something from all the food groups (dairy, fruit, vegetables, protein, etc) and just let them eat what they pick.

Vary the foods, but stick to the food groups, and learn what your toddler likes and doesn’t like. Don’t worry if they don’t finish everything on their plate.

They will eat enough to keep their tummies full.

Also try not to give them too much milk, as this will fill their stomachs and replace food.


Learn To Be Patient

Just because your toddler refuses to eat something once doesn’t mean they will never eat it. If they leave something on their plate, and it’s obvious they haven’t even tried it, give it to them again a week or so later. It might take a few tries, but they will eventually try the food, and may even like it.

Just keep persevering.

It’s also a good idea to let them feed themselves. Yes, they might make a mess, and they might take a while to finish a meal, but if you can give them food that they don’t need help with eating, then it will make mealtimes a bit more interesting for them. They will also feel less pressure to eat.


Don’t Be Afraid To Ask For Help

If you feel you’ve tried everything, and you fear your child might be losing weight, then don’t feel ashamed or worried about asking for help.

Dieticians and medical professionals are there to give you some professional advice or see if there’s a reason for your toddler’s fussy eating, such as a food allergy.

If there isn’t, then it will put your mind at rest, and you’ll know you just need to give your toddler a bit more time to figure out their eating habits.


Frequently Asked Questions

frequently asked questions

What do you do when your toddler won’t eat?

If you are going through the ‘my toddler doesn’t eat’ phase, then you can try the tips on this page. do not pressure them, set consistent meal times, let your toddler choose their food, rein in the snacking, and ask for help if needed.

How do I stop my toddler from refusing to eat?

Always make sure that your toddler is hungry when it comes to mealtimes. If your toddler is not hungry, they will refuse to eat. If your toddler is hungry, they will (hopefully) eat. There are a few exceptions, for instance, if your toddler is sick.

Do toddlers go through a stage of not eating?

Yes – this is a very common phase for toddlers to go through. As phases go, it is one of the easiest to fix, because they will get hungry if you cut back on their snacking! Usually, that is the end of the ‘my toddler doesn’t eat’ phase.


Conclusion

So if you’re sitting there thinking “my toddler doesn’t eat”, or your toddler stopped eating suddenly, then give these tips a try.

Remember that the majority of toddlers will go through a period of fussy eating, and there are reasons for it.

So just relax, be patient, and let your child pass through this phase.

They will be eating you out of house and home before you know it! the ‘my toddler doesn’t eat’ phase will be a distant memory…

Good luck!

Why Is My Toddler Licking Everything? 5 Reasons

Why Is My Toddler Licking Everything

Toddlers have a ton of weird behavior that we as parents need to deal with, don’t they? I have found myself apologizing on behalf of my toddler son on more than one occasion. Sometimes, I just shrug… because I have no words to explain what we are watching. Like the time he was licking his leg in front of everyone in a store. It wasn’t just his leg, over the next few months it was everything. Why is my toddler licking everything? In this post, I am going to give you the info I learned at the time.


What you will learn in this post:

  • Why toddlers lick everything.
  • What you can do to stop your toddler licking everything.
  • FAQs

Why Is My Toddler Licking Everything 5 Reasons

5 Reasons Why Toddler Is Licking Everything


Sensory

Your toddler might be licking everything because they enjoy the sensory experience.

You know what it is like being a toddler (if you can remember that far back!) Everything is new. Somewhere, they got the strange idea that they can learn more about their environment by licking things!


Comfort

Licking things may be giving your toddler some comfort.

This reminds toddlers of the time when they were comforted during breastfeeding.

The toddler years are very close to the baby years, and they probably still have memories of being breastfed, and the comfort that brings.


To Get A Reaction

This is the time when kids push your buttons. They want to see how you react to their behavior. It is a vital part of their learning to be a fully functioning human being (although licking stuff is slightly outside of that, right?).

Your toddler might be licking stuff because they want to get a reaction from you.


Mimicking Pets

Do you have a cat or a dog? Your toddler could be mimicking their behavior, thinking that it is something that humans also do.

A good friend of mine had a dog, and her toddler used to spend a lot of time walking on all fours mimicking whatever the dog was doing. He even went as far as barking at anyone getting close to his home!

Toddlers mimic other living things. Just be thankful they haven’t peed up a street light!


Just Something They Do

You have a toddler. They lick stuff. You may not like this reason because it is a classic ‘catch-all’ statement, but it might just be a phase they are going through!

Going back to the dog-child above, this phase lasted 2 months before he simply stopped doing it. Once he stopped, he hasn’t done it since.

This is a clear sign that it was a phase, and nothing more. This is the most likely reason why your toddler is licking everything. You just need to distract, ignore, or give them a reminder every time they do it. Eventually, they will stop.


5 Ways You Can Stop Your Toddler Licking Everything

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Analyze Things In A Different Way

If your toddler is licking because they are exploring their environment, then you could spend some time exploring other ways they can do this.

Consider asking your toddler to explain what they see. Pick up an object and ask them to explain what they can feel. Get your toddler to sniff objects (this is what I used to do as a toddler!)

These are different ways that you can get your toddler to explore their environment.


Distraction

This is a classic technique that you should already be highly skilled in doing!

Distraction… when you see your toddler licking something, distract them. This can help to stop them from doing it while they move through this phase.

Distraction works for toddler behavior of any kind, so if you don’t have the skill, it is worth up-skilling very fast!


Chewing Toys

If your toddler receives comfort from licking everything, you should consider purchasing some chew toys instead.

Every time you notice your toddler licking something, simply hand over the chew-able toy and get them to lick that instead.

This works if they just straight up like licking things! It can also work if your toddler is licking everything for comfort.


Ignore

Ignoring behavior can be a challenge. It has pushed my chilled out nature on more than one occasion!

As this is most likely to be a phase your toddler is going through (there is that phrase again!), ignoring the problem until it goes away seems to be a good idea.

Obviously, if your toddler is going to lick something that is dangerous, then you do not ignore it. Use your common sense here.


Reminders

Constant reminders worked for me when my toddler was exhibiting strange behavior, like screaming for instance.

When you notice your toddler licking something, give a little reminder for them to stop it.

Sometimes, your toddler will get caught in the moment. They will be licking something even though they are not aware they are doing it!

If you find your toddler licking everything, you could consider taking them out of that situation.


Frequently Asked Questions

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Is it normal for toddler to lick things?

Yes, it is absolutely normal. In most cases, this is a phase they are going through. It is up to you to simply ride it out until they find something just as annoying to put your through! Don’t worry, give them time and they will have an equally annoying habit for you to be concerned about!

Why does my toddler keep touching his tongue?

Toddlers touch their tongue because they have an interest in it. Let’s face it, a tongue is wet and feels pretty funny. To a toddler who is learning about their body, it is interesting. It may also be a sign that they have a bit of pain in their tongue. You should check your toddler’s mouth and tongue for anything obvious.

How do I stop my child from licking his lips?

Licking lips is a natural reaction when your lips are dry. I do it, you probably do it too. This usually happens during the colder months of the year. You should seek out some lip balm that can be used on a toddler. Apply it regularly to stop the dryness. Be wary of flavored lip balm, because it might result in your toddler licking their lips even more!


Conclusion

If you are asking yourself the question ‘why is my toddler licking everything?’ then the 5 reasons on this page will guide you.

I have also added 5 things that you can do to help stop your toddler from licking everything.

This post is not intended to give medical advice. It is worth noting that a toddler licking everything can possibly be a sign of autism. If you think this might be the case, then you should speak with a medical professional who specializes in this field. It is important to get the right level of help for you both from the correct source.

Ultimately, it is like to be a phase that your toddler is going through and is nothing to worry about. That being said, it is frustrating, and sometimes embarrassing. I said it above, and I’ll say it again, your toddler will develop a new and annoying habit that will replace this one!

In the future, you might be wishing that your toddler licking things was the only annoying habit they have!

Good luck!

What To Do When Your Child Has No Friends

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One of my worse fears as a dad is seeing my son lonely. It’s gut-wrenching. To think of him without friends to share life experiences with, it is a heart breaker. When a child has no friends, it can result in lonely adult life too. In fact, studies have shown that if a child has no friends, they are twice as likely to suffer from mental health issues in the future. If you are wondering what to do when your child has no friends, then I have you covered in this post.


What you will learn in this post:

  • Why your child has no friends
  • What to do when your child has no friends
  • Answers to frequently asked questions

what to do when your child has no friends

5 Reasons Why Your Child Has No Friends


Introverts

An introvert is someone who is reserved, and someone who thinks more without speaking a lot.

Sometimes this can be seen as ignorance and may be the reason why your child doesn’t have any friends.

Those who are introverts like to make friends with an extravert (someone who is enthusiastic, and talkative) because it allows the introvert to operate more in the background whilst someone else takes the stage.


Shy

This is very similar to being an introvert and is actually one of the many personality traits of an introvert.

If your child is shy, it could be the reason why they do not have any friends. Shy folks usually wait until they are approached before having a conversation. Human interaction is rarely initiated by someone who is shy.


Fear Of Rejection

Your child may have a fear of rejection that is stopping them from approaching people to get to know them better.

If your child fears rejection, then they may be too fearful of approach others to make friends.

There are some things that you can do to help your child overcome their fear of rejection.


Sensitive

Some people can be very sensitive. That means they regularly fall out of friendship with people who have upset them in some way.

Unfortunately, that means that others do not enter into friendship with them because they are easily offended.

Having a friend who is sensitive is a lot of hard work. Not only does it take a lot of energy to communicate without causing upset, but making up with them is up to you too. It takes up a lot of mental capacity.

Some people think that it is better to avoid sensitive folks for the reasons above.


Health Issue – Personality Disorder

It’s not easy to think about, but is it possible that your child has a personality disorder?

Some people with these health issues may be described as ‘toxic/intense’ and could result in them having no friends in life.

You cannot confirm this (unless you are a qualified medical professional), so it is very important that you seek the correct medical advice if you think this is the case.


5 Ways To Increase Your Childs Circle Of Friends

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Discuss It

If you want to know what to do when your child has no friends, the first thing you need to do is talk to your child. You could get the answers you are looking for if you listen. The conversation needs to be you asking questions without judgment. It’s not going to be easy, but it is something that you need to do right at the beginning.

Ask your child important questions such as:

  • What happened when you fell out with your last friend?
  • What do you think friendship means?
  • How do you make friends?
  • Who do you like most at school?
  • How do you think you are treated by the other children at school?

The answers to these questions will help you understand why your child has no friends.

Oh, and yes, I know this is not going to be easy! Getting answers from a child is never easy, especially when it is about something as sensitive as this. Unfortunately, it is your best tool to get your child some friends.


Find An Interest

Unless you live in the middle of wilderness, you are likely to have local clubs in your local area.

Figure out what your child enjoys doing. Are there any sports they are interested in? Do they enjoy playing specific games?

Look for clubs in your local area and suggest attending them with your child. Always watch your child as they interact with others. This is an excellent way of picking up on clear markers to see why your child has no friends.


Coaching

It is your job as a parent to coach your child through life. Coach them on how they should be reacting in certain situations.

If your child is sensitive, you need to coach them to help them deal with an upset in a much more positive way.

Do not approach this as a bossy teacher. Instead, you should be asking your child to come up with ways they can improve.


Work On Communication

Your child may need some help in the way they communicate. Let’s face it, most kids need help in the way they communicate!

This is very similar to the coaching tip (above) but is slightly different. This also includes the way your child asks questions, answers questions, or just the way they vocally communicate with other kids of a similar age.

Children like to spend time with other kids who are easy to speak with. So, watch your child as they communicate with other kids and find ways they can improve it. Run through your findings with your child and ask them how they think it went.


Rule Out Medical Conditions

Visit a medical professional to rule out any medical condition that your child might be suffering from.

If this is down to a medical condition, it is good news that it has been identified. Once a medical professional has identified any medical conditions, then you can begin to address them with either behavioral therapy or medicine.

If your child needs medical intervention, then it goes without saying that they need your support through this.


Frequently Asked Questions

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How do I help my lonely child make friends?

First, you need to understand exactly why your child has not been making friends without your help. It could be for a number of reasons, such as; being introverted, being shy, being sensitive. Once you understand the reason, you can help them to make friends. You could suggest going to local clubs, or sports clubs so that your child can meet other kids with a similar interest.

Why is my child not making friends?

There are a number of reasons why your child is not making any friends, and you need to speak with your child to understand why. In this post, there are a number of questions that you can ask your child to help find the reason why they are struggling to make friends.

Is having no friends bad?

Having no friends can have implications for your mental health. A study showed that the more isolated a person is, the more it affects their mental health. Some people just like their own company more than they like other people’s company, and that is ok, but they do need friends around them who understand and respect that.


Conclusion

If you are wondering what to do if your child has no friends, then the 5 tips on this page, along with the 5 reasons why, will help you.

You have to remember that everyone is different in life. Some people like to be around friends all of the time, whilst others prefer their own company. Some people like to think internally a lot, and some like to think out loud.

It is important to understand, and respect the way that other people work. If you do not respect this, then it could lead to frustration, both for you, and your child.

Do not force your child to make friends with other kids. Instead, you should get your child used to the positive feelings of having friends and having someone to share life experiences with.

Good luck!

Why Do Toddlers Move A Lot While Sleeping?

Toddler Moves A Lot While Sleeping

If you are anything like me, then a toddler who constantly moves during the night results in a lack of sleep for you! I suffered from this when my son was a toddler. He would move constantly for the first few hours of sleep, but then he would settle down. It just meant that I couldn’t relax during the evening adult time! Why do toddlers move a lot while sleeping? In this post, we are going to take a look at the common reasons for this particular sleep disturbance.


What you will learn in this post:

  • Why toddlers move a lot in their sleep.
  • Things you can do to help them move less during sleep.

5 Reasons Why Toddler Moves A Lot While Sleeping

5 Reasons Why Toddlers Move A Lot While Sleeping

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Too Hot

You know this for yourself! When you are too hot, you tend to move about a lot more while you are sleeping.

You do this in a desperate bid to find an area of your pillow or duvet that is cold!

Your toddler might move a lot while they are sleeping because they are too hot. Check to see if they are sweating, and try getting your toddler to sleep with fewer clothes, or improve the air circulation if this is the case.


Dreaming

You could have a toddler that just dreams a lot.

When a person dreams, it is usually only a mental activity. Movement of limbs and other body parts does not happen. That is not the case 100% of the time though.

People can have dreams where they are moving in ‘real-life’ I know for a fact that I have been known to suffer from this!


Restless Leg Syndrome

Speaking of things that I have suffered from in the past, here is another one of them!

Restless leg syndrome is a disorder that gives you the overwhelming urge to constantly move your legs. If your legs are not moving, it feels like there is a huge build-up of energy that can’t be released!

If you are wondering why your toddler moves a lot during their sleep, you can’t rule out restless leg syndrome!


Night Terror

Night terrors used to scare the hell out of me! When my son started to have these, I didn’t know what to do. He was thrashing around in his bed, sitting up, looking petrified into space. Needless to say, it was very, very alarming!

Night terrors are very common though, which is reassuring.

When my son has a night terror now, I usually just pick him up and whisper reassuring words in his ear. It seems to work… they are a lot less violent these days!

The good thing is that the more you are used to night terrors, the better prepared you are. I know when one is starting now, which is cool. It doesn’t stop my son from moving around in his sleep though!


Needs The Toilet

If your toddler is moving a lot while they are sleeping, it could be due to the fact that they are uncomfortable because they have a full bladder!

If your toddler is out of diapers, you should wake them up before you go to bed so they can use the toilet. Some toddlers are not out of diapers yet, but the fact that they are moving a lot during sleep could mean they are ready to take the plunge into life without a diaper! Embrace it…


Medical Reasons

There are also some medical reasons why toddlers move a lot while they are sleeping. If you think the cause is due to a medical reason, then you should get your toddler checked out by a medical professional.

  • PLMS – Periodic Limb Movement Disorder: Where the limbs move on a regular basis during sleep. This may result in your toddler being very tired the next day.
  • Parasomnia: A sleep disorder when regular abnormal movements are present. These movements can occur at any time during the sleep stages.
  • Sleep Apnea: Where breathing stops multiple times during the night. This can be serious.

Again – I urge you to seek medical advice to get these checked out.


What Can You Do To Stop Your Toddler Moving While Sleeping?


Toilet Visit

Part of the bedtime routine should already include visiting the toilet. If it isn’t, then you need to get your toddler to go before going to bed.

If this is the cause of your toddler moving a lot while sleeping, then it could be a very easy fix!


Consider A Change In Clothes

If your toddler is getting too hot during the night then it is also a very easy fix.

There are a few things that you can do to help cool your toddler down, such as:

  • Change bedclothes
  • Improve the airflow
  • Change the air-con settings

Change Schedule

A bedtime schedule is vital for a successful night’s sleep, both for you and your toddler.

If your toddler is constantly moving, then a small change to the sleep schedule could improve matters.

As I mentioned in the intro, my son was very restless during the first few hours of him going to sleep. This was also prime time for a night terror or two. I adjusted his schedule to put him to bed 30 minutes later, and that worked well! Why? I have no idea, but part of me thinks it could be the extra 30 minutes where his blood sugar can settle. Some research suggests that toddlers struggle to settle down if they are put to bed too early after eating. This is backed up by my experience.


Visit A Medical Professional

Why do toddlers move a lot while sleeping? The reason could be a medical one…

None of this post is offered as medical advice. If you need medical advice about your toddler’s sleeping habits then you should visit a medical professional.

You can find tons of information about all sorts by using the internet, but it is not a replacement for having a face to face meeting with a Doctor!


Frequently Asked Questions

Is it normal for toddlers to toss and turn all night?

Yes – it can be normal, but it could also be a sign of a medical condition. It is best to get these things checked out by a medical professional.

Why is my toddler so restless at night?

Your toddler can be restless at night for a number of different reasons. They may have a full bladder, they could be dreaming, it could be a medical reason, or it could be the result of some food they ate. It could also be the result of separation anxiety.

What helps restless leg syndrome in toddlers?

I find that it helps to disperse tons of energy before bed. When I suffered from this, I did a few star jumps and squats before bed. I have been known to leap out of bed and crack out some squats if I get RLS even now! If your toddler has this, you could try similar exercises.


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Conclusion

Why do toddlers move a lot while sleeping? In this post, I have identified 5 common reasons that will help you understand this weird toddler phenomenon!

I’ve said it a few times on this page, but I’ll risk sounding like a parrot by repeating it here too. If you think this is a result of a medical condition, you must get it checked out by a medical professional.

Good luck – and I hope you get some awesome sleep soon!

How To Help A Child With Anxiety About School – 5 Ways

Child With Anxiety About School

The thing about being a parent is that it is rarely stable. There is always something just around the corner that brings you right back to the drawing board. For me, it was when my son started school. I didn’t like it, but thankfully he took to it like a duck to water! I was impressed! There are times when he doesn’t want to go to school though. This is usually after a long period of absence, like summer. He tends to get anxious after a long time away from school. If you want to know how to help a child with anxiety about school, then read the 5 tips on this page!


What you will learn in this post:

  • Common reasons why your child has anxiety about school.
  • 5 things you can do about it, aside from asking them about it!

How To Help A Child With Anxiety About School

5 Reasons Why Your Child Has School Anxiety


Bullied

This reason gets my blood pumping! I remember when my son first went to school and he came home with a scratch on his face. I wanted revenge and I wanted it now. I calmed down a bit when I was reminded that it was a 4 year old that scratched him.

Luckily, it wasn’t bullying, and that was the last time it happened.

Bullying is the biggest cause of anxiety when returning to school. If you want to know how to help a child with anxiety about school, you should first figure out if they are being bullied.

If they are, then you should speak with the teachers so they can address it.


No Friends

Having no friends must make school pretty bad, I must admit. The only way that many kids can get through school is by having a decent number of friends they can hang out with.

If your child has no friends, they will absolutely get some form of anxiety about school. I know I would!


Work Too Difficult

School work is tough. As my son progresses, I notice the homework is getting tougher and tougher.

Kids are learning all of the time, and as they go through school, the work also gets tougher and tougher.

Some kids get anxious because they struggle to complete or understand the work. This is where the teacher should step in at school, and you should step in at home.


Separation Anxiety

Your child may have separation anxiety, and this could be the reason with they are anxious about going to school.

It is very common, and it is relatively easy to get over it. It takes time to resolve though, along with most other issues!


Low Self Confidence

Speaking of things that take time, if your child has low self-confidence or low self-esteem then it will take a long time to fix this.

Some folks suffer from low self-confidence regularly in life. It is a constant war where some battles are won, and some battles are lost.

As a parent, it is your job to teach your child how important they are, and how good they are. Take some time to set some achievable goals together. That way, they get used to achieving these goals, and the result is a child with awesome self-confidence!


5 Things You Can Do To Help A Child With Anxiety About School

Apart from talking to your child to see why they are anxious, there are 5 things you can do below that will help.

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Address Concerns With Teachers

The first thing you should do is speak to your child’s teachers about the anxiety of going to school. This might be the quickest way to get an answer as to why they are anxious!

Also – teachers have vast experience with dealing with kids and anxiety toward school. They can use this experience to help your child.

Ultimately, if you want to help a child with anxiety about school, you should begin by speaking with the teachers!


Join Local Clubs

If your child struggles to find new friends or is being bullied, it is a good idea to get them to go along to clubs outside of school.

That way, they can make friends and practice hanging out with other people outside of their family life.

Depending on the age of your child, this could also help with any bullying issues they are facing. It helps with young kids a lot, but for older children, they may not appreciate going to clubs because of their bullying issues.


Prepare Learning

To stop your child from being anxious about going to school, you can prepare them before school by running through some of the subjects they are due to learn. That way, you can pick up on any pain points.

If they are anxious because they are struggling to keep up or understand what they are learning, you could speak to the teacher about potential reasons why. It could be that your child needs a little extra help.


Teach Anxiety Control

Anxiety is something that we all have to deal with in life. Your job as a parent is to teach your child how to deal with those moments where anxiety is a problem.

Some folks tell their child to avoid situations where they feel anxious. I think this is a total waste of life! Kids should be taught how to deal with anxiety so they do not fear it!


Positive Reinforcement

You should always send your kids positive messages when they do something well. This includes anything good they do at school, or kindergarten (if they are still young).

When passing your children positive messages, you are building their confidence, and you are also telling them they can do well.


Helping a Child Anxious About School Takes Time and Patience

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One thing you have to remember is that if you want to help a child with anxiety about school, it is going to take some time!

The worst thing you can do is rush through these tips. It will cause additional frustration for you and your child. By rushing your child, you may also be setting back any progress they may have made too.

Don’t rush it! Take your time.


Frequently Asked Questions

What helps with school anxiety?

First, you should try speaking to your child. This isn’t going to be easy… nobody said parenting was easy! If you don’t get to the reason why your child has school anxiety, then you should speak with the teachers to see if they can help. Not only will they have ‘inside eyes’ but they will also have tons of experience in dealing with these kinds of issues.

How can I help my child with back to school anxiety?

First, you need to find the reason for the anxiety. It is only then that you can address it. Most school anxiety becomes apparent after a long time away from school. It takes a while to get used to it again. You should also check that your child is not being bullied, and has a strong friendship structure at school to help.

What are signs of anxiety in a child?

Children exhibit anxious symptoms such as; irritability, concentration issues, eating problems, sleep disturbances, among other things. If you think your child is exhibiting signs of anxiety then you should seek professional advice straight away. You should also learn how kids should deal with anxiety, so you can teach them how to cope with it.


Conclusion

If you want to know how to help a child with anxiety about school, then the 5 tips on this page will absolutely help you!

There are a few things that you need to be aware of. It isn’t something that you will enjoy reading, but anxiety could be the result of other things going on in your child’s life. Here are some valuable resources if you need them:

This post is no replacement for professional, medical advice. If you need to speak to a medical professional, then you should do it straight away.

Good luck!

5 Punishments For 5 Year Olds That Work

5 Punishments For 5 Year Olds

The older kids get, the more clever they become. That is excellent… but it means you have to keep on the front foot when it comes to ensuring their behavior is good! Gone are the days of the terrible twos, and your kid is probably past the stage of hitting for no reason, and even screaming! But… now you have to re-think your discipline strategy. You need some punishments for 5 year olds that work! In this post, I am going to give you 5 of the best!


What you will learn in this post:

  • What drives a 5 year old to act up.
  • 5 punishments for 5 year olds.

5 Punishments For 5 Year Olds That Work


5 Reasons Why You Should Change Punishment For Your 5 Year Old


Pushing Limits

As your child gets old, they continue to push the limits to see what they can and cannot get away with.

You have to remember that your 5 year old has more experience than before, and they have interacted with more kids. That means they have watched other kids’ behavior and will replicate their attempts (monkey see, monkey do!) at pushing limits. They have seen what other kids get away with.

It is what happens, so you need to improve for every year!


Valid Points

They have valid points, and they like you being dismissive. Especially if you just don’t listen.

For me, this is the worst reason. They actually have a point! Their arguments make sense.

The problem is that this invokes a different reaction from you. One that you are not used to. Sometimes us parents can dismiss any disagreements with our kids out of hand. Now your kid is making a valid point, and being dismissed leads to frustration.

This doesn’t call for any punishments for your 5 year old, it is more of a change to the way that you deal with this change.


Wants To Be Treated Like An Older Child

Your 5 year old is getting older now, and as the year’s progress, they want to be treated more like an older child.

The problem is that their behavior doesn’t justify the change from your perspective, right?


Lying

Your 5 year old is starting to use their brain a bit more. That is a good thing, and a bad thing all at once!

Why is it a bad thing? Because now they are honing their lying skills. They know that they are able to falsify a situation to get themselves out of trouble, or to get someone else into trouble.

It is more of a challenge to catch out a 5 year old than it is a younger kid.


Good Ideas

Sometimes when kids talk, you don’t listen, right?

This is mostly true because you are right in the middle of doing something when your kid is constantly talking to you about something.

They have some good ideas, but you might be dismissive because of the volume of words that leave their mouth on an hourly basis!

This could lead to frustration.


5 Punishments For 5 Year Olds That Work

When your kid gets a little older, you need to change the process for corrective behavior!

Here are my 5 top punishments for 5 year olds:

5 Punishments For 5 Year Olds That Work Infographic

Positive Discipline

I’ve said it a ton of times on this page, but positive discipline is much better than negative discipline!

Rewarding good behavior builds strong foundations for continued good behavior.

When your kid comes up with a good idea or resolves an issue themselves, they should be praised.

That way, they will be more inclined to solve problems themselves rather than get you involved every time.

Positive discipline is not just a good punishment for 5 year olds, it is a complete behavioral management technique that works into adulthood and beyond! Think about it… you even get reviewed in your job, right?


Consequences

Your 5 year old now has a good understanding of the consequences. They know that being bad leads to punishment, and being good (hopefully) leads to positive praise.

Give your 5 year old a clear consequence for bad behavior. The most important thing is that you make the consequence believable, and something that you will 100% go through with. Empty threats will only backfire on you, don’t do it!

Genuinely think about a consequence that you will carry out, and tell them straight what it is. If your 5 year old misbehaves, carry it out.


Get Them To Justify Their Actions

Another awesome discipline technique for 5 year olds is getting them to justify their actions.

Let’s say they threw a toy because you asked them to get dressed (common for a 5 year old). Sit them down and ask them to explain why they threw a toy.

Listen to the response. Don’t give up until you get a response. This forces your 5 year old to think about their reaction. Hopefully, they come up with the answer ‘oh… throwing a toy only got me into more trouble. I had better learn from that’.


Ask How They Would Deal With It

This is one of my favorite responses to bad behavior. I ask my son the following:

If one of your friends behaved like that, how would you explain to them that it was bad behavior?

At first, I didn’t get much of a response, other than more anger! I quickly learned that this only works when my son was not angry anymore.

It is a good technique because it put my son in my position, and he figured out for himself what the punishment should be.


Remove Favorite Toys

This is always my default fall back punishment for 5 year olds!

The positive news is that your 5 year old is probably now getting heavily into one set of toys. That gives you a punishment that is a direct strike on bad behavior.

Think about what your kid plays with the most. Explain that bad behavior means that you will remove that toy for 1 day. It will increase with further bad behavior.

Now that your 5 year old understands consequence, it works! Not every time… but most of the time it works.


Frequently Asked Questions

frequently asked questions

Do 5 year olds understand consequences?

Yes, absolutely. A 5 year old has a good understanding of consequence, especially if you have not been making empty threats for the last 5 years! Some folks run through threats that never get carried out. That only teaches kids that they can do what they want without consequences. By carrying out threats, it builds their understanding of the consequences.

How do you discipline a 5 year old who doesn’t listen?

Will they listen to positive praise? Instead of only disciplining your child when they are bad, try doing it when they are good. Offer them a ton of praise when they do well. Explain the concept of a reward system. See if they listen to that! If they do, slip in some consequences of bad behavior, such as removing toys, reducing playtime, screen time, etc.

How do you punish a 5 year old for bad behavior at school?

First, you must attack the problem together with the teachers. It is not good enough to rely on teachers to deal with the problem at school. Ask what punishments they give your 5 year old at school and replicate them at home. Tell your 5 year old that you will ask their teacher every day how their behavior has been. Tell them the consequences of behavior, good or bad. Most importantly, follow up on punishments! Empty threats only make it worse for you all in the long-run.


Conclusion

On this page I have given you 5 punishments for 5 year olds that WORK!

One of them may not work for your 5 year old, but with all 5, you have tons of tools in your arsenal to deal with this new mini human.

5 is a fund age, because kids really do start to justify things they do, and they start to behave more like a human than they ever have before. That means you need to change your discipline techniques to account for the new behavior!

They can’t rule the roost yet, can they?

Good luck!

Why Do Kids Hit Themselves? 5 Expert Reasons

Why do kids hit themselves

Kids are strange. Just this morning I was watching my son dance in front of a TV that wasn’t even on. I’ve no idea what was going on inside his head! There are some things that kids do that we don’t fully understand. Screaming, throwing things, and hitting themselves are just 3 things they do. Why do kids hit themselves? In this post, we are going to take a look at 5 common reasons why they hit themselves, and 5 things you can do that will help.


What you will learn from this post:

  • Why do kids hit themselves?
  • 5 things you can do to stop your kid from hitting themselves.
5 Reasons Why Kids Hit Themselves

Why Do Kids Hit Themselves? 5 Common Reasons

Why Do Kids Hit Themselves? 5 Common Reasons Infographic

Anger

Why do kids hit themselves? The answer is likely to be the most common reason, your kid is angry!

Various stages of a child’s progress involve learning to deal with emotions. Anger is high on the agenda.

Humans aren’t born with the ability to deal with anger, so it is up to you to teach them how to deal with it.


Excitement

This is more for younger kids. When they get excited, they can get into a habit of hitting themselves.

The reason is down to a build up of energy that needs to be released. This could result in your kid hitting themselves.


Attention Seeking

Why do kids hit themselves? It could be because they want more attention.

Have you noticed other attention-seeking habits that your kid has? It is worth considering that your child is doing this because they want some more of your attention.

You know kids, they are constantly seeking your attention, right?


Punishment

Your kid might feel the need to punish themselves for something. This is a very common self-abuse tactic. It very common amongst those who have suffered abuse.

If your kid is hitting themselves as punishment, it could be a sign of a mental health issue that needs to be resolved, so seek help.

It may not be a sign of a mental health issue though. Your child may be hitting themselves because they have seen someone be physically punished for misbehaving.


In Pain

I used to do this when I was in pain! For some reason, I thought it was a good idea to hit myself in an attempt to reduce the pain I was in. This could be because I had just hit myself against a piece of furniture, or I may have just fallen over.

Maybe it was a placebo affect, but it did make it feel a little better. Maybe your child is doing the same, it is very common.

There is a thought that the hitting draws more blood to the area to fix any issues.

Also – pay particular attention to your kid hitting themselves near their ears. This could be a sign of an ear infection.


How To Stop Your Kid From Hitting Themselves – 5 Steps

First and foremost, if you think this is a mental health issue, or you are unsure, please seek professional advice.


Stop It Every Time

If your child hits themselves, then tell them to stop it.

Some kids do it that regularly that it forms a habit. They do not even know they are doing it.

Simply bringing it to their attention may be enough of a prompt for them to understand


Discuss Why

If your child is old enough to tell you why they are doing it, the best thing you can do it ask them why they are hitting themselves!

If they are doing it because they want your attention, either in general or about something specific, then this is what they wanted to achieve.

They could also be in pain. If they are, then you can find out and do something to alleviate it.


Teach Stress Relief

It is your job as a parent to teach your kids what to do when they face a stressful situation.

Hitting is not something they should be left to do as a stress relief tool!

As it is your job, you must teach your kids some tools to help with stress relief.


Give Alternative Response

Is your kid hitting themselves because they are excited about something? Are they doing it because they have a lot of pent up energy that needs to be release?

If this is the case, then you should be teaching your kid how to release this energy.

Turn it into something positive like showing them some workouts they can do. Push-ups, sit-ups, running on the spot, these are all things you can do to release energy. They are all good for you too!


Reward Good Behavior

Rewarding good behavior is so much better than punishing bad behavior!

I will always reward my son when he does something good. Every time.

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t go out and buy him a toy just because he cleaned his room, but I will give him some positive praise. Kids love that, it builds the foundations of a good person.

If your kid gets frustrated, angry, or excited, and they DON’T hit themselves, reward that as good behavior.


Frequently Asked Questions

frequently asked questions

Why does my toddler hit his head?

Your toddler could be hitting his head for a number of different reasons. It could be anger, frustration, or it could be an ear infection that hasn’t started to hurt yet. Try asking your toddler why he is hitting his head.

Why does my toddler hit himself when angry?

Because he hasn’t learnt how to deal with anger yet. Kids are not born with knowledge on how to deal with anger, this is something they need to learn. It is your job as a parent to teach your toddler how to deal with situations where they find themselves angry. Sure, it is tough teaching breathing techniques to a toddler, but eventually they will learn!

What does it mean when a child hits themselves?

It could mean your child is angry, frustrated, in pain, or it could be happening because of a medical condition. I would begin by ruling out other reasons before moving to a medical reason. If you need to seek professional help, do not feel bad about speaking to a professional.


Conclusion

Why do kids hit themselves? In this post, I have given you 5 reasons why, and 5 things that you can do to help them.

Here is one thing that YOU MUST DO:

If you haven’t got to the reason why your kid is hitting themselves, it could be the result of a medical condition. It is your job to seek medical help. Consult a pediatrician to get some answers. It could be something small, but you also need to rule out anything serious.

Good luck!

When One Parent Undermines The Other, Frustration Reigns

5 Tips If One Parent Is Undermining The Other

Being a parent is difficult enough! Here we are, learning as we go, passing tips out when you eventually figure some of it out. But… what makes parenting a ton worse is when you as parents are not pulling in the same direction. In this post, we are going to take a look at what you can do when one parent undermines the other. The result is frustration, for both parents, and the kids!


Here is what you will learn in this post:

  • Reasons why parents undermine each other
  • 5 things you can do to stop it

When you have one parent constantly undermining the other, it can lead to some challenging situations. Situations like your child having a preference for one parent, or maybe they will begin to act out more for one over the other.

That is why you need to work together as a team.

When One Parent Undermines The Other

5 Reasons Why One Parent Undermines The Other

When one parent undermines the other, the result is that it stays with your child for the rest of their lives. They may develop the same inconsistency, and they may also have problems with authority. These are two huge reasons why you need to stop this inconsistent parenting approach and tackle the problem on the same team.

Here are some of the most common reasons why parents undermine each other when it comes to discipline and requests.


Can’t Do Discipline

  • I can’t tell them off.
  • I don’t like telling them off.

These are 2 comments I have heard a lot. None of them make sense to me.

How can you be a parent if you are not willing to discipline your child? What kind of child do you expect to raise?


Wants To Be A Friend

This is probably the most common reason. One parent always undermines the other one because they want to be seen as more of a friend than a parent.

You can be a good friend to your child, by disciplining them correctly and bringing them up to be a good person. Rewarding your child for good behavior is much better than punishing them for bad behavior.


Easily Exploited

The other parent might just be easier for your child to exploit!

Kids are forever pushing buttons and boundaries to see what they can get away with. If you or the other parent is easily exploited, then you are going to be unwittingly undermining the other.


Lazy

I love people watching. One of the things I have learned is that parents will undermine each other because they are too lazy to actually think about what they are doing.

This one time, I was at a cafe. I watched as a dad mindlessly scrolled through his phone. Mom was busy with a baby, and a child (probably about 6) asked for a bit of mom’s drink. Obviously (I am guessing it was coffee), mom said no. He went straight to dad. ‘Dad, can I have a bit of mom’s drink?’

Without hesitation, dad said yes. I am pretty sure he didn’t even listen to the question.

That is lazy parenting and totally undermines what mom has just said. Bad dad…


Insecure

Insecurity is another reason why one parent is always undermining the other. One parent feels like they should not be giving any discipline, maybe because they think they are not good enough, or because they always make mistakes, they don’t want to pass that on.

This is probably the most challenging to fix. If you have identified this as a reason, you will need some long term work to get around these feelings.


One Parent Is Undermining The Other

5 Tips If One Parent Is Undermining The Other

5 Tips If One Parent Is Undermining The Other Infographic

Stop Arguing

First things first, stop arguing in front of your child. In fact, stop arguing full stop and start talking instead. I know it is easier said than done, but your child will respect both of you more, and will also learn that issues get resolved by talking, and not shouting.


Discuss The Ground Rules

Now that you no longer argue in front of your child (and that includes in another room, but still loud enough for them to hear), the next step is to set ground rules.

You need to talk about what is the acceptable discipline for your child. When you have agreed on this, agree that you will both rein your child in if they overstep the mark.


Discuss The Fallout Of Inconsistent Parenting

If you are giving inconsistent parenting, your child will not know what to expect in life. You need to remain consistent.

If you keep being inconsistent with your parenting, then you will raise a child with consistency issues. They will not know what to expect whenever they act out.

Consistency is key. I cannot emphasize that enough.


Improve Self Belief

The parent who is undermining the other should take some steps to improve self-belief.

One of my favorite techniques is to set achievable goals in life. Each time you achieve one, your self-confidence grows. Not only that, but your child will also have more confidence in your ability, which in turn raises your self-confidence!

It is like a huge snowball of self-confidence!


Discipline Together

If your child acts out, pull in the other parent into the room so you can discipline them together. Your child will learn that you are attacking this problem on the same side.

Two parents together have much more control than two warring parents. If parents are at war, your child will 100% take advantage!


Frequently Asked Questions

frequently asked questions

What happens when one parent disciplines?

When one parent disciplines and the other doesn’t, it could lead to consistency issues in later life for and child who is affected by this. Not only that, but they could also grow up with authority issues. Also, in your relationship tensions will grow, and deep frustrated feelings will boil over, eventually leading to relationship issues.

Is it good to be a strict parent?

It is good to have a certain level of strictness, but the stricter you are, the worse it could affect your child as they grow. If you a strict enough to make all decisions for your child, they will grow up with a lack of confidence in their own decisions. Also, if you do not let them do anything in life, they will eventually rebel. Then, all hell will break loose!

How do you make up a bad parent?

First things first, you have to admit to your partner and your child that you have been a bad parent. Everyone is allowed to make mistakes in life, and your child will learn a lot more from you if you accept responsibility and set some steps to improve. That is a huge, important lesson that your child will learn.


Conclusion

When one parent undermines the other, it poses a difficult parenting situation that takes time and teamwork to resolve.

The key thing is that you start to work as a team as soon as you notice this happening. You cannot, and must not let it continue.

The longer it continues, the longer it will take to resolve.

So, grab the same team colors and deal with your children consistently. It is key to bringing up an awesome person!

When you are on the same team, you suddenly become a force that your child is not used to. Watch them suddenly fall into line… hopefully.

Good luck!

Why Do Toddlers Act Out More With Mom Than Dad?

5 Ways You Can Stop Your Toddler Acting Out For Mom

Toddlers. They can astound us and frustrate us all within the same breath, right? Sometimes, their behavior leaves a lot to be desired, especially if their behavior is different depending on which parent is in charge. Why do toddlers act out more with mom than dad? In this post, we are going to provide an answer to that question and give you 5 things you can do to improve it!

After all, we need to preserve mom’s sanity, right? And you don’t want your toddler preferring dad over mom… it should be equal!


What you will learn:

  • Why your toddler acts out more with mum
  • What you can do to improve it!

Why Do Toddlers Act Out More With Mom Than Dad

5 Reasons Why Toddlers Act Out More With Mom Than Dad


More Comfortable With Mom

Ok, I am not generalizing here, but it is a fact that moms spend the most time with a toddler. It first started when your baby was born.

Yes, there are definitely exceptions to this rule!

As toddlers are likely to spend more time with mom, they are much more comfortable around her. That means they are more likely to express their emotions without embarrassment.

I guess that is kind of a good think mom, right?


Mom Is With The Toddler The Most

Ok, it might sounds like exactly the same as above but it isn’t. Trust me.

When a toddler spends more time with one person, it might seem like they are acting up more, but it might be due to the fact that mom has toddler more, which means there is much more time for a toddler to act up.

Sometimes in life, we only remember the bad things. If a toddler spends 10 hours a day with mom, and 4 hours with dad, there is so much more time for a toddler to act up more with mom than dad.

It is also worth considering that your toddler only gets to spend a few hours every day with dad, so they may not want to ruin it by acting up.


Feels Safe

Your toddler might just feel safer with mom, and that means they do not have any issues with acting up in mom’s company.

Sometimes, us dads can be a little bit intimidating… what with our deep voices, etc. Toddlers may simply feel safe enough with mom to act up.


Frustration

Your toddler may be getting frustrated. We are humans, not robots. That means we make mistakes, and sometimes we do not communicate well. This is especially true when communicating with a toddler!

Mom may frustrate your toddler. It could be something simple like mom doesn’t give in to demands, which frustrated poor old toddler into acting up.


Attention Seeking

Being a mom is tough! If mom has a job, then she has a difficult balancing act to do. Even if mom does not have a job, there is still plenty of other things that they need to do, right?

When these other jobs are being completed, your toddler just doesn’t get the attention they constantly demand!

This is slightly different from a working dad. When dad is home, he gets to spend uninterrupted time with your toddler.

This may result in your toddler acting out more with mom because they want more attention.


Why do toddlers act up more for mom than dad

5 Ways You Can Stop Your Toddler Acting Out With Mom

5 Ways You Can Stop Your Toddler Acting Out With Mom Infographic

Let Them Release

The first thing you should do is to make sure they have a good way of releasing any energy or tension. Especially if they have been in kindergarten all day.

This may involve taking your toddler out for a walk, or to the local park to burn some toddler energy off.

Basically, you should make them too tired to act up! Having said that, toddlers to act up when they are tired…

Either way, less energy means less acting up for mom. Plus you get to give them a ton of attention, which also works.


Hand Them Over

During times when both parents are available, you should work together to spend time with your toddler.

If dad is around this weekend, suggest that your toddler spends the day with dad. During this time, you should watch how they interact to see if you get any clues as to why your toddler acts up for mom more than dad.


Check Your Own Behavior (Consistency)

Are you tougher, or more easy going?

Do you give in to constant demands? Do you think your toddler respects the way that you parent them?

Mom could unknowingly frustrate or annoy your toddler. This is unlikely to be the fault of mom, by the way! This is most likely to be caused by your toddlers struggle to communicate effectively.

Either way, it is worst checking to see if mom can improve to reduce the times when your toddler acts out. Always be consistent when communicating with a toddler! This is a message for mom and dad.


Check Your Partners Behavior (More Lenient?)

Why do toddlers act out more with mom than dad? It could be because dad is more of a pushover or confusingly, less of a pushover!

You must spend some time watching the way your partner and toddler interact.

Parents should act as a team when raising a child. If one parent is much more lenient or gives in too easily, then your toddler will begin to prefer one parent over the other.

If dad is more lenient and gives in more easily, your toddler will prefer him. However, if he is much more strict, then your toddler may respect him more so they do not act up!

Your job is to figure out any behavioral changes in the way you both parent to stop this.


Talk To Them – Reward Them

This is the magic bullet when it comes to toddler discipline!

Rewarding your toddler is key to successfully raising a well behaved child!

If your toddler goes 1 hour without acting out, give them praise. Then expand it to mornings and afternoons. Finally, you should give praise if your toddler goes a whole day without acting out for mom!

Start a reward chart where they get a star or a smiley face each time they are praised. Kids love praise, and rewards. Use it to your advantage.



Frequently Asked Questions

frequently asked questions

Why are toddlers worse for their parents?

Toddlers tend to act up more for their parents because that is who they are most comfortable with. It may also FEEL like they are acting up more because that is who they spend most of their time with.

Why does a child prefer one parent over the other?

For a number of different reasons. Your toddler may feel more comfortable with one more than the other, or the other parent may just be easier for your toddler to manipulate!

Why does toddler cry when mom comes home?

This is mostly because your toddler is full of emotion that mom has returned home. A bond between mom and toddler is usually very very strong. When mom is not around, your toddler is likely to miss her very much! When mom returns, your toddler’s emotions bubble over and they may end up crying.


Conclusion

Why do toddlers act up more for mom than dad? It is a difficult question to answer, but on this page, I have given you 5 reasons, plus 5 things that you can do to improve it for poor mom.

Ultimately, you need to work together as a team to fix this before it gets too out of hand!

Communication is key! I mentioned a few times in this post that the way you toddler is dealt with may frustrate and anger them. It is worth considering a change in your behavior before you can expect your toddler to fall in line.

Good luck!

Separation Anxiety In Toddlers At Bedtime – 5 Step Guide

Separation Anxiety In Toddlers At Bedtime

It is the time when you start to get your adult life back again! That magical time of the day when your toddler is asleep, and you can get some adult stuff done. All of a sudden, your toddler doesn’t want to go to sleep without you. How did that happen? Now you’ve got to spend 30 minutes of your precious time settling your toddler until they are asleep! What you need, is to understand separation anxiety in toddlers at bedtime. In this post, we cover that topic.

Not only does this affect your toddler going to sleep but there are also other signs of separation anxiety in toddlers, such as the following sleep disturbances:

Dealing With Separation Anxiety In Toddlers At Bedtime

5 Reasons Why Your Toddler May Have Seperation Anxiety At Bedtime


Growing Bond

Separation anxiety in toddlers at bedtime can be good news! It means that your toddler is beginning to feel a very strong bond between you both.

A strong bond is very important between a parent and a child.

The fact that the bond is getting stronger between you both means they are less likely to want to let you go. Especially at bedtime!


Dependency Highlighted

Another reason for this nighttime separation anxiety is that your toddler may have started to realize how important you are to their life.

They rely on you! They have done since birth, they just didn’t realize it.

Now, they realize that they are entirely dependent upon you, and it may result in them wanting to be around you all of the time.


Life Changes

Has your toddler recently start kindergarten? Have you changed their babysitter? Is someone new looking after them?

These are huge life changes for a toddler. It may increase your toddler’s separation anxiety because you are now leaving them at kindergarten, or with someone new.

The good news is that it doesn’t take long for a toddler to get used to the changes. You just need to ride it out.


More Scared

Now that your little one is a toddler, they start to get more interested in things that you are doing, or watching.

Gone are the days when you could put anything on TV and they wouldn’t understand, or care what was happening. Now they pay attention!

Depending on what you watch, your toddler may begin to experience fear of other things for the first time! Experts suggest that we are born with only two fears, falling, and loud noises. Fear of other things is learned behavior.

This new fear could be the cause of separation anxiety in toddlers at bedtime. If your toddler is scared, then you should address this.


Pushing Limits

It could be that your toddler is just pushing your limits! You know what these toddlers are like, they are forever seeing how far they can push you before you explode!

If it is this, you simply need to stay firm!


5 Step Approach To Resolving Toddler Separation Anxiety At Bedtime

5 Step Approach To Resolving Toddler Separation Anxiety At Bedtime Infographic

Establish A Routine

The first step is to establish a bedtime routine! Without this, you are fighting a losing battle.

Make the routine relaxing, and always make sure they have their ‘comforters’ close to hand. These comforters can include toys, blankets (my son has a blanket), or other objects.

Before you even begin to battle the separation anxiety, you must first have a routine. Kids love a routine!

I find that using a night light projector (with music) is a great part of the routine! I switch it on just before I leave the room now.


Set Expectations

  • Sit your toddler down.
  • Explain that you are on a journey that ends in them falling asleep without you being there. Make it fun. Make it a story.
  • Tell your toddler that this is a fun journey, and is part of growing up.
  • Tell your toddler it is OK to fail every now and again, as long as you both achieve the goal.
  • Drive home the point that they will eventually be falling asleep on their own.

That will set your toddlers expectations. Your job is to ensure that you do not deviate from the plan!


Withdraw Slowly

If you have been present when your toddler falls asleep, then that is what they are used to. If you stop this without warning, it will only result in huge meltdowns and broken sleep for all of you. Don’t do that. Instead, you should withdraw slowly.

When my son started to have separation anxiety at bedtime, it was straight after a vacation where he slept in the same bed as us for two weeks. We got back home, and he was no longer able to fall asleep on his own.

I stayed in his bed for 4 nights, before moving to the floor next to his bed. Then, I moved outside his bedroom where he could still see me through the door. Then I moved away from his view but was still there for him to speak to me if needed. After this, I put him to bed alone, said goodnight, and left. There were times when he wasn’t happy still, but I stuck to the plan and it worked eventually.


Say Goodnight

You need a process for saying goodnight. You should not simply say goodnight and leave, it has to be more specific.

Here is the process:

  • Let your toddler know that you will read a story, then you will say goodnight and will leave.
  • Read a story, say goodnight, remind your toddler about something you will both do in the morning, then leave.

By reminding your toddler about something you will do with them tomorrow, it leaves them with the thought that you will be together again in the morning. Something simple like ‘hey, when you wake up in the morning we can have breakfast together’.

Don’t forget to smile and be happy when saying goodnight. If you look upset, scared, or unhappy, it will remind your toddler that being alone at bedtime is upsetting.


Follow Up

This is the final step and one of the most important steps you can take in any discipline. You MUST reward good behavior.

By rewarding good behavior, you are embedding that good behavior as something positive. It doesn’t have to be financial like ‘we will get you a new toy’. It can be something simple like a star on a chart every time your toddler falls asleep on their own.

Kids love to be rewarded! It is your job to use it to your advantage!


Frequently Asked Questions

How long should you leave a toddler to cry at bedtime?

It is a difficult one, because the longer you leave it, the worse their bedtime memory becomes. On the other hand, you can’t be seen as someone who goes to check on them every minute. They will take advantage! I would go in every 5 minutes, but I will only stay for around 20 seconds. Settle quickly, then leave.

Is it OK to let toddlers cry themselves to sleep?

I prefer not to do this because it will make them anxious for every bedtime. You should find the reason why they need to cry before going to sleep. Is it separation anxiety, or another reason? Find out, and then address that problem. Make bedtime fun! Don’t forget to smile! Parenting is fun…

How long does separation anxiety last in babies at night?

Usually they separation anxiety ends by the time your baby is 2 years old however, everyone is different! If you feel like it is becoming a problem, then you should follow the steps on this page.


Conclusion

Dealing with separation anxiety in toddlers at bedtime is a challenge that takes time, patience, and reward when they get it right!

It is important taht you stick with it for your own benefit, and for theirs too.

Anxiety is something that many people have to deal with in life. It is a challenge for grownups to deal with it, let alone for a toddler. During this transition, your toddler will need your love and support… as if you weren’t going to give them that anyway!

Good luck!

How To Deal With An Angry Disrespectful Child

How To Deal With An Angry Disrespectful Child 5 Steps

Kids are a massive challenge, but I am preaching to the choir here, right? If it isn’t your kid refusing to eat, refusing to sleep in their own room, terrible twos… it is behavioral problems like hitting, screaming, toddlers biting or generally doing anything to test your own anger management technique. Here, we are going to take a look at how to deal with an angry disrespectful child.

When you are a parent, there are a bunch of things that your child can do in public to act up and show you up. For me, there is nothing worse than disrespectful behavior, because it shows up your parenting skills!

Let’s take a look at how you can deal with disrespectful behavior.

How To Deal With An Angry Disrespectful Child

5 Reasons Why Your Child Is Angry And Disrespectful

First, you need to understand what is causing the disrespectful behavior. Contrary to what you believe, it is unlikely to be because your child simply doesn’t like you!

Here are 5 reasons why your child is angry and disrespectful.


Testing Limits

During their short lives as kids, they spent far too much time pushing limits! They push and push see how much you will take before your head goes pop and you unleash a torrent of bad words into the open.

Don’t do that. I know it is tempting, but you are only teaching them to deal with stress in the same way.

Nobody said parenting was easy.


Learning Emotions

Your child might just be learning how to deal with emotions. You might have just rejected a request for candy, or a toy. The only way they can deal with anger (at the moment) is by being disrespectful and angry.

We know that it is not the correct way to respond, but they don’t. It is up to you to show them how to.


Anger Issues

It sucks, but your child might have anger issues. Some folks have a short fuse, and that is fine if you both know how to deal with it correctly.

If the anger is too much, it might be time to call in an expert, so use your own judgment here.


Learned Behavior

Are you disrespectful and angry? When confronted with conflict, do you deal with it in the correct manner?

Kids learn from their parents, so one of the most important things you can do it take a look at the way you deal with things. Approach this with an open mind. If you truly want to stop your child’s disrespectful and angry behavior, you will have no problems questioning your own.


Your Child Does Not Respect You

It could be that you are simply not respected by your child or children. This is very dangerous because your child will see you as a target and they might begin to bully you too. If that happens, it is difficult to pull back from.

If you think that your child does not respect you, it is time for some serious changes in your life! Otherwise, it could lead to you being rejected by your child.


5 Ways To Deal With An Angry Disrespectful Child

5 Ways To Deal With An Angry Disrespectful Child Infographic

Dealing with disrespectful behavior in a child is not easy, and it is definitely not going to be a quick thing! You need to take your time, and be persistent. The first steps are the easiest, but keeping the momentum going is the challenge here.


Set Boundaries

First step: Set boundaries. You need to sit your child down and tell them what you expect from them.

Bad behavior is not tolerated. Disrespectful behavior is not tolerated. Anger is not tolerated.

Adhering to these rules will result in rewards, and adulation!

Failure to adhere to these rules will result in punishment. Tell your child what the punishment will be.

If your child is already disrespectful, their reaction will probably be to scoff your new rules. This is only the start. all you need to do is set the rules. Job number 1.

Ignore the scoffing! You are the boss now.


Stick To Your Boundaries

When the rules are adhered to, then you should reward your child. Every time. Make a fuss. Sit down and explain that the way they have behaved makes you happy, and proud.

When the rules are broken. Call it out as bad behavior. Do not ‘let it slide’. If you let your child be disrespectful, they will respect you less.


Follow Through With Punishment

Should the rules be broken, your job is to follow through with the punishment you clearly set out at the beginning.

Failure to follow through with the punishment will result in less respect.

I hear parents making empty threats too many times! Threats like this at the airport:

If you carry on, we will not go on vacation!

Like you are going to throw away an entire vacation! Your child KNOWS you won’t. It doesn’t mean anything. It is an empty threat. Do not be one of those parents.


Be Respectable

If you give the impression that you are a walk-over, then you will be walked over.

Failure to punish your child will result in further disrespectful behavior.

If you do not respect yourself, you will not be respected. This will result in your child being disrespectful!

It is time that you learn to respect yourself.


Teach Correct Behavior

You are the parent. As a parent, one of your key responsibilities is to teach your children, right?

Now is the time to teach your child how to behave. It is time to teach your child the correct response to any situation that makes them angry.

You should lead by example. If you respect yourself, and others, they your child will learn from you and will be more respectful.


Frequently Asked Questions

frequently asked questions

Why is my child rude and disrespectful?

Your child is being rude and disrespectful for a number of different reasons. They may be testing your limits or learning how to deal with emotions. It could also be that they straight up don’t respect you! It could also be learned behavior, which is why your need to consider your own actions.

What causes a child to be disrespectful?

Your child may just be going through a phase where their disrespect is at an all time high, it happens. Your job to to teach them how to respect people. Begin by respecting yourself.

What are disrespectful behaviors?

Arrogance, anger, threats, shaming, insulting. These are all examples of disrespectful behavior. It is important for you to learn what they are so that you can address them as and when they happen.


Conclusion

The 5 tips on this page will help you if you need to know how to deal with an angry disrespectful child.

One of the most important things that you can do is show that you are someone who needs to be respected! Follow through on threats of punishment, get stuff done around the home. It is easy for a child to disrespect someone who doesn’t respect themselves.

Improve yourself to improve your child’s behavior!

Be consistent too! When you start to call out your child’s behavior, it is the start of a long journey that you must not deviate from. If you let disrespectful behavior slide just once, then it will take 5 corrections to make up for it. Every correction is a little win.

Over time, the behavior will be better for longer periods of time, with fewer signs of disrespect.

Good luck.

How To Deal With A Toddler Hitting – 5 Easy Tips

How To Deal With A Toddler Hitting

So, your toddler is practicing their MMA skills at the moment (by the way, teaching your toddler self-defense is actually a great idea!) Whilst these punches won’t hurt you (unless perfectly landed in certain places), it will hurt others they choose to attack. With that in mind, you need to stop it from happening. How do you deal with a toddler hitting?

To understand how to deal with a toddler hitting, you first need to understand WHY they are hitting, so let’s take a look at that first.


What you will learn:

  • How to deal with a toddler hitting
  • 5 reasons why toddler hit

How To Deal With A Toddler Hitting - 5 Tips

5 Reasons Why Toddler Is Hitting


Angry

This is the most common reason why your toddler is hitting. They are angry, and they want to lash out. If you want to know how to deal with a toddler hitting, then you need to know how to deal with an angry toddler!

When dealing with anger, many people resort to physically hitting people or hitting other things. This is also true for your toddler.


Excited

Hitting something can be a release of emotion. It doesn’t have to be a negative emotion either, it can be a positive emotion like excitement or happiness.

This is shown when sports stars score, or win a game. Fists hit their air, which is a release of a sudden rush of positive emotion.


Frustrated

This is very much the same as anger, only this time it is a release of frustration so your toddler can reset and try whatever they are doing again.

Sometimes, when we are trying something difficult which needs a steady hand or concentration, we need to release pent up frustration before trying again.

Your toddler might be punching to release frustration.


Learned Behavior

This is a very common reason, and one that is difficult to deal with unless you are also dealing with the source of this learning.

Toddlers can learn about punching from folks around them, or even from the TV, or online.

Be wary about what your toddler watches on TV and on YouTube. Also, discuss your toddlers hitting habit with folks who are also going to be looking after them, such as preschool staff or baby sitters. They need to keep an eye on other kids to see if they are hitting too.


Attention

Your toddler might be hitting out because they feel like they are not getting enough attention. We all know that toddlers have a tenancy to constantly demand your attention, and this may be something they do to try and get it.


How To Deal With A Toddler Hitting – 5 Tips

How To Deal With A Toddler Hitting - 5 Tips Infographic

Explain Why It Is Wrong To Hit

The first thing you need to do is explain that it is wrong to hit out. There is no good reason to hit. Period.

Your toddler needs to understand that. It is not going to sink in immediately, there will be times when your toddler hits out again, but repeat until the message gets through.

Talking To Toddlers is an excellent program designed by an NLP Practitioner that will help you discuss these issues in a way your toddler will understand!


Teach Alternative Responses

If your toddler is angry, or frustrated, they need to learn how to deal with these emotions in a much better way. This is something that you should be teaching them.

Kids are not born with the knowledge on how to deal with emotions, they need to be taught. The best thing to do when dealing with anger or frustration is to take time away from the situation and take long, deep breaths. When your toddler needs to do this, you should support them.


Stop Them Immediately – Every Time

When your toddler hits out, stop them.

Every time.

It doesn’t matter if you are out with friends, family, or on your own, hitting cannot happen. If you see it happening, stop it.

If you see friends of family hitting, stop that too, otherwise it will look like you are only stopping your toddler from hitting. To your toddler, this will seem unfair.


Reward Good Behavior

When disciplining a toddler, the best thing you can do is reward the good behavior.

If you see them getting angry, and they deal with it in the correct manner, praise it. Reward it.

Get a reward chart for your toddler and add stars, ticks, or whatever will make your toddler happy and feel rewarded. When they get to a certain number of rewards, it is time for the big reward like a day out or even a new toy.


Withdraw Attention

If you want to know how to deal with a toddler hitting, then you need to understand that they might hit out because they want your attention.

There are two ways to deal with this:

  • You should question whether or not you are not giving them enough attention, and change.
  • Withdraw attention when your toddler is hitting.

If you flip out when your toddler hits, you are giving them attention. If you sit your toddler down and tell them off for 20 minutes, you are giving them attention.

Withdrawing attention will give them a message that hitting is not the way to get your attention. Good behavior is the best way!


Frequently Asked Questions

Is hitting normal for toddlers?

Many toddlers will go through a stage of hitting out. Let’s face it, kids are not born with ways to cope with increased emotions. They need you to teach them how they should be dealing with anger and frustration. These are the two most common reasons why your toddler is hitting.

How do you react when a toddler hits you?

It depends how many times your toddler has hit, and whether or not you have got to the root of the problem. If your toddler is hitting because they are angry, you should teach your toddler other ways to deal with it. If your toddler is hitting because they want your attention, you should withdraw attention.

How do you punish a 2 year old for hitting?

First, you should get to the bottom of why your toddler is hitting. Toddler discipline is a tricky subject, but not impossible. Especially when you know what the cause is. Firstly, you should be talking to your 2-year-old about why they are hitting. Explain that it is wrong to hit, and set up a reward system for times when they deal with their emotion correctly.


Conclusion

The 5 tips on this page will help you if you need to know how to deal with a toddler hitting!

The most important thing is that you speak to your toddler to figure out what is going on, and why they are hitting. Once you find out this info, you will be in a much better place to address it.

Rewarding good behavior is better than punishing bad behavior. Your toddler will learn that they will only get your attention if they are behaving well.

Toddlers can also hit others for no good reason, you will need to learn how to deal with that too.

Good luck!

How To Stop Your Toddler Escaping From Car Seat

5 Ways To Stop Your Toddler Escaping From Car Seat

It sends shivers down my spine just thinking about it! I tend to think of the worst-case scenario. It means that I prepare for it, and that’s a good thing, right? Imagine your toddler escaping from their car seat, you are distracted by it, your car swerves. Do I need to go on? Do you want to know how to stop your toddler from escaping a car seat? If yes, then read on…

Going on a road trip with a toddler can be fun. But not when there is a risk of them wriggling out of their car seat!

When my son was a toddler, he used to play with the straps on his car seat, and it scared the hell out of me! I knew he wasn’t strong enough to unclip them, but it was still a concern. I pulled over immediately to give him an important life lesson.

It worked, at least for the drive home. But, I needed some answers before the next journey!

Before we go on, take a moment to look at the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration for up to date information on how you should fit your child correctly with a seat belt. It is extremely important information.

How To Stop Your Toddler Escaping From Car Seat

5 Reasons Why Your Toddler Tries To Escape From Their Car Seat

Let’s begin by taking a look at 5 common reasons why your toddler wants to escape from their car seat…


Uncomfortable

First and foremost, they might just be a little uncomfortable, especially if you are taking your toddler on a long road trip.

Sitting in the same position for hours on end is uncomfortable for the best of us. Add in the patience of a toddler and you have trouble on your hands!


Frustrated

Your toddler doesn’t have much of a choice for where they go. Even if they don’t want to go somewhere, you are going to pick them up and strap them in, right?

Wouldn’t you be frustrated if you were made to go somewhere you didn’t want to go?


Bored

Sitting in a car for a long time is very, very boring. This is espicialy true for a toddler!

Toddlers need to be entertained ALL the time. Sitting in a car is no different. That’s why we have to listen to those awful kids’ songs during a car journey!


Reaction

I wonder what dad and mom will do if I unplugged my seat belt! Let’s find out…

…the thoughts of a toddler!

They do not get the problems they are going to cause. They don’t understand just how DANGEROUS it is to drive without a seat belt!

Your toddler might be escaping their seat belt because they just want to see how you react. It is a fun game for them, and a nightmare for you!


Intrigue

Your toddler has found something interesting… It is the seat belt clip! They will have tremendous fun trying to press that little red button down… I wonder what will happen?

There is another insight into the mind of a toddler! They are intrigued by what will happen when the red button is fully pressed down. Even when they know, they will have fun doing it again, and again.


How To Stop Your Toddler Escaping From Car Seat – 5 Tips

5 Ways To Stop Your Toddler Escaping From Car Seat Infographic

Now that we know the most common reasons, let’s take a look at 5 things you can do to stop your toddler from escaping their car seat!


Talk To Them

The first thing you need to do is talk to them.

What’s the topic of this conversation? How dangerous it is to unbuckle your seat belt, or escape the seat.

Begin by asking why they do it, they might just tell you (good luck with that). Move on to telling them how dangerous it is to sit in a moving car without a seat belt fastened. How dangerous it is to escape the child seat when you are driving. I like to go as far as telling my son what will happen if he is not secure in his seat, and how much it will hurt.

Finish off by getting your toddler to answer the question ‘what do you have to do to stay safe in the car?’ The answer is ‘stay in your car seat and don’t wriggle out of it or unbuckle the clips/belt’.


Tighten The Straps

Ensure that your toddler’s car seat straps are as tight as they should be. If the straps are tight, it should be impossible to wriggle out of them.

Consult the manual for your car seat to understand how to do this.


Car Seat Toys

You should think about adding some car seat toys for your toddler.

Why?

Because the devil makes work for idle hands, that’s why!

If your toddler has toys to play with, then they will be less inclined to escape their car seat.

Consider getting a steering wheel toy for your toddler! That way, they can pretend they are helping to drive the car.


Take Regular Breaks

If your toddler is frustrated, bored, or uncomfortable then you should be taking regular breaks.

Scratch that, you should be taking regular breaks period! Not only will it help the journey go better for you, but it will also give your toddler the chance to burn off a little energy for the rest of the journey.


Reward Good Behavior

If you have read more posts on Dad Gold, then you will know that I am big on rewarding for good behavior.

Rewarding good behavior is a vital part of toddler discipline.

After each journey where your toddler doesn’t try to escape their car seat, make a fuss, give them a sticker, do anything positive that shows them how impressed you are with their behavior. It works. Every time. Kids love to be rewarded!


Consider Seat Belt Buckle Covers

If all else fails, then you can buy seat buckle covers to stop your toddler from pressing the dreaded button!

Take a look in your local baby store, or online. Whilst it is not recommended to adjust or change anything regarding your car seat, seat belt, or the buckles, sometimes it is less risky than having no seat belt on at all.

I am not going to recommended buckle covers here due to safety reasons. You should check in with the manufacturer of your car seat for recommendations.


Frequently Asked Questions

frequently asked questions

How do I stop my child wriggling out of car seat?

The best way is to ensure that the straps are secure enough for your toddler to NOT wriggle out of them. If the straps are correctly tightened, then it will be nearly impossible for your toddler to wriggle out.

How do I stop my child from unbuckling their seat belt?

Distraction and rewarding good behavior are excellent ways to stop your toddler from unbuckling their seat belt. You can purchase buckle covers too, so check in with the manufacturer of your car seat.

How do I stop my toddler from unbuckling chest clip?

You should follow the same rules as you would do for kids who unbuckle their seat belt: Distraction and rewarding good behavior are excellent ways to stop your toddler from unbuckling their chest clip. You can purchase buckle covers too, so check in with the manufacturer of your car seat.


Conclusion

If you want to know how to stop your toddler escaping from their car seat, then the 5 tips on this page will point you in the right direction!

Ultimately, as the driver, you are responsible for the safety of your child. So you don’t want anything bad to happen.

Unfortunately, you are dealing with a toddler and rarely does common sense play a part in their decision making. It is your job to keep them on the straight and narrow.

Good luck!

5 Awesome Toy Police Cars For Toddlers

Police Cars For Toddlers

Army toys, fire station toys, police toys. Those are my son’s top choices when it comes to role play type toys. He cannot get enough of anything police-related! In this post, I am going to run through my top 5 picks if you are looking for toy police cars for toddlers.

Let’s begin with my recommended options. Here it is:

DadGold recommends…
Little Tikes Cozy Coupe Tikes Patrol, Ride-On, Patrol Coupe
Little Tikes Cozy Coupe Tikes Patrol Police Car
These Little Tikes cars are infectious fun! Heck, I want to be able to fit in one of them! For toddlers, it is the first big car toy they can move themselves. This toy police car is perfect for your toddler!

I recommend this simply because these Little Tikes cars have so much playtime in them! Honestly, my son played with his for hours, days, weeks, heck even years! It was an awesome investment.

Let’s take a look at the best toy police cars for toddlers list…

5 Awesome Toy Police Cars For Toddlers

5 Awesome Toy Police Cars For Toddlers


1: (Most Fun) Little Tikes Cozy Coupe Tikes Patrol Police Car

Little Tikes Cozy Coupe Tikes Patrol, Ride-On, Patrol Coupe

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This Police Patrol ride-on toy will make an excellent gift for your toddler. It is the best toy police cars for toddlers!

My son had a Little Tikes car and it lasted him years! It was the classic red and yellow coupe. He loves any toys with steering wheels, and I think this toy kicked off that obsession!

Reasons why your toddler will love this police car toy:

  • It has a working door and a working horn that creates a new world of imagination and play. The clicking sound of son my clicking the ignition off and back on will stay with me forever! This kind of toy encourages gross motor skills and active play.
  • Kids love the working door and foot-to-floor movement. It’s easy for kids to start and stop. Your toddler will feel empowered that they can actually make this car move forwards and backward! Just be careful of breakable items nearby… I learned the hard way.
  • It has a large steering wheel and wheels that turn 360 degrees making the toy easy and fun to move for your toddler. Another definite perk to this new series is the parent push-handle and a newly designed floorboard, which prevents your child’s leg from getting caught under the car.

Manufacturers Minimum Recommended Age: 18 Months


2: (Cheapest) VTech Go! Go! Smart Wheels Police Car

VTech Go! Go! Smart Wheels Police Car

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The Smart Wheels police car by VTech creates imagination adventures through the toy’s appealing features such as the light-up switch that triggers excellent sounds and fun-loving songs for your kids as they race around.

Additionally, it has a wide variety of colors to choose from for your toddler This toy is not just friendly but also affordable.

It is the cheapest toy police car for toddlers on this page!

Reasons why your toddler will love this police car toy:

  • The electronic play will entertain your toddler with a switch that triggers fun-play melodies, songs, and phrases on the toy cars, which is engaging during role play.
  • It triggers imaginative play where your kid can race to a rescue operation and arrest bad guys with imaginative play. Since the toy police cars for toddlers are sized for little hands, it allows them to race the car around your home!
  • It will help to activate early learning since the vehicle introduces itself and keeps repeating letters such as ‘P’ and other sing-along songs. The expandable playsets respond with different music, sounds, and phrases on every SmartPoint location. This is sold separately.
  • This police car has a mechanical megaphone that wiggles for fine-motor development that will amuse your little one.

Manufacturers Minimum Recommended Age: 36 Months


3: (Most Educational) Take Apart Police Car For Toddlers

Take Apart Police Car For Toddlers

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My son loves a take-apart toy! At one stage, he had at least 5 of them, including an awesome take-apart digger toy!

If you haven’t heard of STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering, Mathematics) toys, you should be getting these for your toddler. This take-apart police care is perfect!

It is the most educational toy police cars for toddlers.

Reasons why your toddler will love this police car toy:

  • It comes as a comprehensive set with a step by step guide, powered drill tool, and other 38 pieces to build a police car and rescue police truck. Your toddler will love to interact with the power drill.
  • It works great; your toddler will enjoy using the remote control to move the police car over an 80 feet range. The remote control moves the car pretty slowly, but I guess it stops things being smashed, right?
  • Endless fun; the aesthetic appeal and the realistic police sirens make these vehicles look just like the real thing. It makes your toddler do something for themselves, especially those who like to imitate their parents!
  • It is educative. Take Apart toy is a great learning tool for hands-on skill sets. It is a perfect gift for creative builders. My son loves the logic of rebuilding the truck using the assembly instructions, converting the electric drill into a remote control. The whole process of drilling and assembling creates hours of quiet and creative play.

Manufacturers Minimum Recommended Age: 36 Months


4: (Most Energetic) Police Car Ride on Wiggle Car

Police Car Ride on Wiggle Car

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For toddlers, the Lil’ Rider Wiggle car is pure energy and pure fun.

I have added this on for one awesome reason, and not just because it is an excellent police car toy for your toddler! It will give your toddler some exercise because they need to be moving fast to get the Wiggle Car moving!

In fact, it is a pretty good cause and effect toy! They move… the car does too.

Reasons why your toddler will love this police car toy:

  • It offers an excellent ride for your toddler. The wiggle car doesn’t have buttons or switches to start like other toys. It provides effortless operation, and kids can play anywhere they want as it is suitable for both outdoor and indoor ride.
  • They provide miles of enjoyment for children, for it is made from durable plastics and uses inertia and centrifugal force to propel, making it last long with minimal maintenance.
  • The driving mechanism of this toy car allows the kids to be more focused on enhancing their thinking capability. The involving and creative riding style of the toy improves the kids’ coordination as they grow.

Manufacturers Minimum Recommended Age: 24 Months


5: (Most Interesting) LEGO DUPLO Town Police Station

LEGO DUPLO Town Police Station

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I love DUPLO! These sets are cool, and the regular DUPLO sets are cool too. This time, we are going to look at the Town Police Station. Not only will your toddler love playing with the police care, but they will also love playing with the station too!

Stacking the connecting blocks to create houses requires kids to use their imaginations and practice skill.

Reasons why your toddler will love this police car toy:

  • Most interesting; assembling his toy is just the start! Once your toddler builds this set, their imagination takes over, and they will love to have the bad guy commit a crime like stealing the police doughnuts and have the police chase him. Pre-schoolers will love creating endless stories far beyond what the set’s assembly outlines.
  • It enables your toddler to associate play with real-life occurrences through the use of role-play characters, accessories, and decorated bricks to have fun. While playing, your toddler learns about the police and how they help us in situations like apprehending lawbreakers.
  • It has realistic features such as building blocks for a toy police station with a jail cell, and a toy police car with flashing lights and a siren.

Manufacturers Minimum Recommended Age: 24 Months


Conclusion

If you are looking for toy police cars for toddlers, then you cannot go wrong with the 5 excellent options on this page!

Each of the toys has been picked for its individual merits. I am big on picking the right toy! In today’s ‘throw-away’ society, I value picking the right toy instead of just buying a ton of them in the hope that he loves just one!

So, get your toddler to become the controller of the police car. You never know, it could be the start of their career in the force…

Good luck!

5 Awesome Helicopter Toys For Toddlers

5 Awesome Helicopter Toys For Toddlers (1)

When my son was in the toddler years, he loved playing with helicopters! The phase lasted about 2 years, and we ended up buying a ton of choppers. In this post, I am going to give you 6 of the best helicopter toys for toddlers to play with. Starting with my recommended option. Here it is:

DadGold recommends…
Green Toys Rescue Boat with Helicopter
Green Toys Rescue Boat with Helicopter
This is one of the helicopters my son loved playing with from an early age! It looks bigger in real life, by the way. This toy will also spark imaginative play, which is perfect for this age range.

So, that is our favored helicopter toy…now let’s GET TO THE CHOPPER! I mean, get on with the rest of the article…could not resist!

5 Awesome Helicopter Toys For Toddlers

Best Helicopter Toys For Toddlers -Comparison Table

Helicopter ToyMain ThemeMin. Recommended Age
Green Toys Rescue Boat with Helicopter Rescue Chopper 24 months
Green Toys SeacopterSea Chopper6 months
VTech Toot Drivers HelicopterLight and Sounds 12 months
Brio Pull Along Helicopter (For the younger toddlers)Simple Chopper12 months
Green Toys HelicopterNormal Chopper24 months
Dickie Toys Light and Sound HelicopterFull On Chopper!3+ Years

6 Best Helicopter Toys For Toddlers

1. Green Toys Rescue Boat with Helicopter

Green Toys Rescue Boat with Helicopter

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Lets begin with something that may not seem obvious. This toy is bigger than the picture gives is justice for!

It is a quick and easy toy that can be played with on land, and at sea (that’s the bath, by the way!) If your toddler hates bathing, then this could be a deal-breaker…

This is one of the most environmentally friendly helicopter toys for toddlers!

What do you get with the Gree Toys Rescue Boat? I’ll tell you:

  • Chopper
  • Boat
  • Captain
  • Pilot

…one of each.

Reasons to Buy the Green Toys Rescue Boat with Helicopter

  • You can use it in the bath
  • It is very well built
  • Your toddler can use the characters to interact with the rescue scene
  • It is dishwasher safe
  • Made from 100% recycled plastic milk jugs – environmental tick in the box!
  • BPA free

Manufacturers Recommended Age: 24 Months +


2. Green Toys Seacopter

Green Toys Seacopter, Orange

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Next up we have the Green Toys Seacopter. It is another awesome toy by this manufacturer, who is obviously driven to create toys that have a highly reduced carbon footprint. I am all for that! Well done, Green toys!

The Seacopter has been specially designed with overspill fill-and-spills pontoons to keep the toy afloat in baths, lakes, and ponds too! Similar to the rescue chopper above, this is an excellent bath toy. It is also dishwasher safe… Perfect for those times when your toddler wants it to float in the mud!

This is another of the most environmentally friendly helicopter toys for toddlers!

With this toy, you get 1 helicopter and 1 character.

Reasons to Buy the Green Toys Seacopter

  • Green toys care for the environment
  • Made from recycled milk cartons
  • Floats in water
  • BPA free
  • Dishwasher safe
  • Develops fine motor skills

Manufacturers Recommended Age: 24 Months +


3. VTech Toot Drivers Helicopter

VTech Toot Drivers Helicopter Preschool Toy

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Here we are taking a break from Green Toys for a beat. Don’t worry, they will be back soon!

Next up we have the VTech Toot Drivers Helicopter.

This is part of a pre-school range that also includes a Tow Truck, Monster Truck, Police Car, Fire Engine, and more!

This helicopter toy for toddlers has sounds, lights, and singing to add to their enjoyment (maybe not yours though). You can help to develop your toddler’s language, and singing ability with this toy! It includes 6 melodies and 3 sing-along songs to really, really annoy you… But your toddler will love it! That is the most important thing!

Reasons to Buy the VTech Toot Drivers Helicopter

Manufacturers Recommended Age: 12 Months +


4. Brio Pull Along Helicopter

Brio Pull Along Helicopter - Toddler Toy for Toddlers

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The Brio Pull Along Helicopter is a top toy for younger toddlers.

It is a very simple design that will impress your toddler, which is the most important thing, right?

The best thing about this chopper is that the blades turn as the helicopter is pulled along by your toddler! How awesome is that?

As your toddler gets older, this could morph into a rescue helicopter too. The pull cord could become the rope to rescue other toys from peril!

Reasons to Buy the Brio Pull Along Helicopter

  • Blades rotate as the toy is pulled along
  • Durable
  • Non-toxic paint
  • Clean, wooden design
  • Well made

Manufacturers Recommended Age: 12 Months +


5. Green Toys Helicopter For Toddlers

Green Toys Helicopter, Green/Blue

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Hey, I told you they would be back! Here they are, Green Toys.

This time, we are going to take a look at the Helicopter Toy. Awesome naming convention…

With this helicopter toy for toddlers, you will get 2 things:

  • Helicopter
  • Pilot

What more does your toddler need!

Let’s be honest, toddlers have a wicked imagination, and if they only have a chopper and a pilot, then that’s all they need for playtime!

Reasons to Buy the Green Toys Helicopter

  • BPA Free
  • Dishwasher safe
  • Made with recycled materials
  • Two spinning rotas
  • Printed with soy ink

Manufacturers Recommended Age: 24 Months +


6. Dickie Toys Light and Sound Helicopter

Dickie Toys Light and Sound Helicopter

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Last up we have the Dickie Toys Light and Sound Helicopter. This toy in on here because out of all the helicopters my son has ever had, this one had the most play-time!

To be honest, it is easy to see why. There is tons of space inside for his characters, and the electronic rescue winch was a huge hit.

The lights and sounds were blasting pretty much all of the time, as he flew through the imaginary mountains in a quest to find his fallen characters.

It is very well made and is highly durable. I lost count of the times my son dropped it… but it never broke.

This helicopter is for an older toddler and has a recommended minimum age of 36 + months. Having said that, this toy will be an enjoyable toy for many years afterward!

Reasons to Buy the Dickie Toys Light and Sound Helicopter

  • Tremendous fun!
  • Electronic rescue winch
  • Awesome sounds and lights
  • Spinning blades
  • Very durable
  • Well made

Manufacturers Recommended Age: 36 Months +


Conclusion

So there you go, 6 awesome helicopter toys for toddlers right here in this post!

Toys like these will grow with your child too, and that is one of the best things about them. Sure, they will begin as a toy with a spinning top. They will then progress to be an actual helicopter. After that, they will be a rescue chopper!

Although these are for toddlers, kids will play with this kind of toy for years.

Good luck!

How To Teach Your Toddler Their ABCs

Teach Your Toddler Their ABCs

There are a large number of huge moments in life. One of those if your baby’s first step. Another is their first word. Then, there is the first time they recite the alphabet to you! What a moment… but, how do you teach your toddler their ABCs? Sure, there are ABC toys for toddlers, and also some flashcards that will help. But, what are the best ways?

Let’s take a look.

How To Teach Your Toddler Their ABCs

5 Ways To Teach Your Toddler Their ABCs

How To Teach Your Toddler Their ABCs in 5 ways Infographic

Flashcards

Flashcards for toddlers is an excellent way to start your toddler on their journey to learn their ABC’s!

I used flashcards as a repetitive tool to drive home each letter to my son until he could recite them in his sleep. In worked too!

Also, it gives you some excellent dad time.


Make A Song

All kids love songs, and a good song containing the alphabet will stick in their minds and help them to learn as they grow. Almost all adults know the original alphabet song, but try and be creative.

There are plenty of alphabet songs to learn online, or you could even make up one of your own, and making it rhyme will be even more memorable.

Find one that your child loves and they will soon learn it, along with the alphabet. Find particular times to sing them, such as when you’re in the car or playing in the park.


Point Letters Out

Start to get into the habit of pointing out letters when you go out with your toddler, or even just around the house. Whether it’s at the shops or out in the street, if you see a letter, point at it, say what it is and see if your child will repeat it for you.

Eventually, your child will start pointing them out on their own.

It’s also a good idea not to overload your child all at once. Concentrate on a few letters at a time and practice those over the course of a week or so. Then when you’re out and about, say if you see any of them around and ask your child if they can repeat them for you.


Make It Fun

Make learning the alphabet fun. You can buy many wooden jigsaws featuring the alphabet. Most of them have got the letters as the shapes and they have to fit into the correct holes on the board. This gives your child the chance to hold the shapes of the letters in their hands, which will help them to recognize them more often.

Make sure you say what the letters are as they go, and they will soon associate the sound of the letters with the shape they are holding.

Games are also a handy tool to make learning fun. You can buy board or card games that help to teach the alphabet, or you can find websites or apps that can help.

This would also aid your toddler to pick up some computer skills at an early age – supervised of course! I am a huge advocate of getting my son to use a computer. It is a vital skill to learn.


Reading

Choose some books that go through the alphabet and give an example with each letter (and yes, I do mean “A is for apple!”). Your toddler will begin to recognize the letter shapes and start pointing them out in other places.

An alphabet poster for their room is an awesome idea too. They would see this all the time and you could sit with them for just five minutes a day to go through the alphabet, but remember to try and limit their learning to a few letters at a time to start off with.

Reading together will help with their future education too, as well as helping with letters. Make sure your child can see the book as you read, so they can recognize the letters and words as you say them. This also provides a special bonding moment that your toddler will remember as they grow up.


Learn To Write Their Name

A good word to teach as soon as possible is your child’s name. Spell it out whenever you can and point out the different letters that make it up. Letter fridge magnets are great for this, and you can also get signs for their bedroom door that spell out their name.

They will soon recognize that those letters put together make up their own name. You can even make a game of it and try to get your child to name something else that starts with the same letter of their first name.


Bonus – Start A Reading Program Now

Starting your toddler with a reading program is an excellent way to get them reading, even before kindergarten!

Children Love Reading has an excellent no-risk reading program to get your toddler learning more than simply their ABC’s!


3 Reasons Why Now Is A Good Time To Teach Your Toddler ABCs

You might be wondering why you should even be concerned about how to teach your toddler their ABC. After all, that’s what pre-school is for!! However, there are some good reasons why it’s a great idea to start learning early at home.

  1. Many children are well on their way to learning the alphabet before they go to pre-school. They need to know their alphabet before they start to be literate, and by not at least introducing your child to their ABCs when they are a toddler, you could be setting them back. It’s wise to give them as best a head start as possible so they can grasp reading and writing more quickly.
  2. Phonics play an important part in teaching at school these days. Teaching your child the alphabet early will help them to practice sounding out the different letters and saying words that begin with them too. This will all help their speech and lay down the foundations for phonetic learning. Try to not just say the letter, but also the sound that the letters make (for example, C is for C-at, emphasizing the C).
  3. If you start teaching your child now, then this will help to get them into the habit of learning. They will have many years of education ahead of them and starting to teach them, even just as little as 20 minutes a day, will prepare them for what school will be like, and prevent them from feeling too daunted. If you can make learning their ABCs fun, then they will be happy to learn every day, but you will know that you’re laying down the foundations of their education for the rest of their lives. Hopefully, this has given you lots of tips and ideas as to how to help your toddler learn their ABCs. It really is important to help them learn as soon as possible, but also to make it fun and engaging.

Conclusion

If you want to know how to teach your toddler their ABCs, then the tips on this page absolutely work!

I used them to help teach my son the alphabet, which gave him a head start when he got to school.

Any head start is worth at at this age!

Your toddlers brain is ripe for learning, so take advantage.

Good luck!

How to Get Your Toddler to Poop in the Potty – 5 Tips

Help Your Toddler to Poop in the Potty

The potty. If there is anything that gives us parents a huge sense of relief, it is when your toddler poops in the potty for the first time. It means we don’t have to shell out for diapers anymore for a start! Not only that, but it is a huge step in your toddler progressing to become a fully functioning human being. It’s huge. But… Why is it so scary for a toddler? How do you get your toddler to poop in the potty?

In this post, I will give you some of the tips I used.


What you will learn in this post:

  1. The benefits of teaching your toddler to use the potty
  2. 5 ways to get your toddler to poop in the potty
  3. Additional challenges

5 Ways to Get Your Toddler to Poop in the Potty

Potty – The Fear Is Real (For A Toddler)

A common problem that parents face when potty-training their kids is the fear of toilets.

For example, a toddler may think that they may be accidentally flushed down a toilet.

Although that’s not possible, they lack cognitive abilities to understand.


5 Tips to Help Your Toddler to Poop in the Potty

5 Tips to Help Your Toddler to Poop in the Potty Infographic

1. Diet Check

If you notice that your little one doesn’t poop for a bit, they may be experiencing constipation. It takes only one painful poop to scare your toddler away from using a potty.

Some kids are so averse of pooping on potties they hold bowel movements, and this may cause severe or chronic constipation.

Encourage your toddler to drink a recommended amount of fluid. Pediatricians recommend parents to stick to water or adding a splash of fruit juice.

Milk can cause constipation for some toddlers.

Another option for preventing constipation among kids is ensuring that they exercise regularly. When you get your little one moving, they’ll experience better digestion, and the chances of constipation will be lower.

Ensure that your kid is enjoying fiber-rich foods and whole grains. By doing so, food will move through their digestive system at a steady pace. Some of the best foods include apples, pears, vegetables, and barley.


2. The Position

According to research, the body position is crucial to ensure the optimal release of poop.

The key point here is that your toddler should be in a position where their knees are above their hip. It goes back to thousands of years ago where folks like us used to ‘cop a squat’. We didn’t have anything flash like a toilet to sit on.

Practice this together until your toddler cracks it! Make it fun…


3. Take It Slow

The key message is don’t rush. This will only stress your toddler out to increase their fear of the potty!

Take it easy, and approach the problem with a ‘reward’ attitude. Every time they take a small step, reward them. What steps can you reward?

  1. Not wearing a diaper for a day
  2. Pooping in a diaper in the same room as the potty (near the toilet)
  3. Pooping in a diaper ON the potty
  4. Then… pooping on the potty!

Each of those steps scan be repeated as many times as needed. It is vital for your toddler to be comfortable at each stage.


4. Privacy Please?

Usually, parents are always watching their children for signs of pooping and tend to overlook this tip. Most toddlers have already developed a sense of shame when pooping.

Therefore, if you stand close to your toddler while in the bathroom, they may have a hard time getting the job done.

It’s not possible to poop if you’re nervous, right?

You don’t find it easy to poop while someone is watching, do you? The same applies to toddlers.


5. Have an Open Door Policy

By doing so, you will normalize the process for your kid. If your toddler is comfortable, let them in the bathroom with you.

I hated this! But it does work. They will begin to realize that it is a normal activity.

You want to prove to your child that pooping in a potty is something that everyone does.


Special Bonus – Follow A Program

I stumbled upon a program that promises to teach potty training by noon!

The process is simple and makes a game out of potty training your toddler. Feel free to check it out, it is 100% guaranteed, so good luck!


3 Key Benefits of Teaching Your Toddler to Poop in the Potty

Everyone poops! However, if you are a parent to a toddler who doesn’t want to poop, it may not seem like natural behavior.

Generally, children have daily bowel movements and occasionally experience constipation. As a result, they may a hard time when trying to poop.

Read on to find out the benefits of training your toddler to poop in the potty.


Encouraging Healthy Habits

Usually, kids start potty-training at the same age they start learning personal hygiene.

The training exercise can help them apply similar approaches to activities such as brushing their tooth and bathing.


Opens up New Opportunities

Wouldn’t you want to live without worrying about your toddler pooping or wetting their pants?

Additionally, many child development centers only accept kids that are potty-trained. If you plan on taking your toddler to this kind of place, it’s a relief when they eventually learn how to poop on the potty, right?


Boosts Confidence

If your toddler succeeds in pooping in a potty, they will be as thrilled as a student who just passed their test. They’ll be confident when pursuing other goals.

Finally, one of the reasons why your little one may not show interest in learning how to release their poop in their potty is that they may not be ready for it. Ensure that they are ready for it!

Some of the signs of readiness include walking and sitting for hours, gaining interest in watching others when going to the bathroom and disliking wearing nappies.


Challenges After Success – Be Prepped

One of the main problems that most parents face when potty-training is regression. For example, your child may show eagerness to learn how to use a potty and stays dry for hours. Then one day, they wake up and start having accidents, stops pooping in their potty, or using it altogether.

The problem is common among most toddlers. Regression is usually due to major changes in a kid’s normal routine. Some of the changes include moving into a new school, a new nanny, or other changes in your home. Keep an eye out for these changes.


Frequently Asked Questions

frequently asked questions

Why are toddlers afraid to poop on the potty?

Fear of change is the biggest reason why toddlers do not like to poop on the potty. Let’s face it, they have been using a diaper since they were born, this is totally new to them! That is why you need to relax and get them used to each step. It will happen, you just need some patience.

How do you get a toddler to poop?

Exercise is an awesome, natural way to bring on the poop! Get your toddler’s legs moving, and make sure they drink plenty of fluids.

How long should I let my toddler sit on the potty?

The answer is ‘however long it takes for your toddler to get bored’. Don’t force them to sit on the potty because it will seem like punishment and they will be less likely to sit on it in the future.

Conclusion

If you want to know how to get your toddler to poop in the potty, then the 5 tips on this page will certainly help you achieve that!

To reiterate the key message again, you have to stay calm, relaxed, and take each day at a time, along with each little win.

Oh, and when you get those little ‘wins’, make sure to make a big deal out of it in front of your toddler.

I remember when my son first peed in the potty. I made such a big deal out of it that he got very excited! Unfortunately for me, he chose to express his excitement by grabbing the potty and throwing it across the room.

Still, a win is a win! I gave him a high five, and cleaned up the mess.

Good luck!