Congratulations! You are here because you want your toddler to give up their pacifier. This is awesome news! You will soon have a little one who doesn’t rely on it for comfort and times will be happy; a real milestone in parenting.
After all, studies have shown a difference in dental arch between those who gave up the pacifier early, and those who kept it during the toddler years.
You can check out some pacifier alternatives for your toddler, or you could carry on reading for 5 tips to consider when getting your toddler to sleep without a pacifier.
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How To Get A Toddler To Sleep Without Pacifier
1. Pacifier Books
A great place to start planting the seed of withdrawal is to find some children’s fiction books and read them to your little one. Hearing stories and seeing other children give up their pacifiers can make a huge difference when it comes to creating a story of your own. It also allows some understanding that this actually happens at a certain point and that it is very normal to say goodbye to pacifiers.
A lot is to be said for giving this part of the process some time. All children love cozy reading times. Another great tip is making up your own story to tell your toddler, featuring them in it. This adds to the magic, making it as fun as possible!
2. Turn On The Patience
You will need to think and somewhat prepare for what is ahead. Some parents get lucky and have a fairly easy ride whilst others struggle with their toddler detaching. Whatever the path ahead is for you, you will need to familiarize yourself with the art of patience. It can take time. It’s that simple. And each child is different, so advice from one parent may not suit you. You know your toddler best and you will know which approach to take when it comes to giving up the pacifier.
When you finally do start phasing out the pacifier in the way you want to, it is important to be consistent. Try not to let the tears or tantrums give them the power to get their pacifier back, You will only make it harder for yourself the next time you try and take it away, which will be detrimental to both of you. Patience is key!
3. Be Good With Timing
You want to pick an ideal time in your toddler’s life to take their pacifier away. If you are going through stress at home, or your little one has recently started or about to start daycare, it isn’t a good time to take away their comfort. Find that window of opportunity where your child is in a happy, familiar place for the best and quickest transition. You might like to also avoid coinciding with other huge milestones such as potty training.
The younger your toddler is, the easier it will be to take away their pacifier. If you have an older toddler, they are going to be much more aware of changes, so even something such as vaccinations the next week or you returning to work may need to also be considered.
4. Be Gradual
If your toddler has had their pacifier day and night and you are going to take it away altogether and you haven’t seen Gremlins, a good idea is that you reign back and start thinking about dropping it during the day time first. Once this has been established successfully, consider then dropping the night time pacifier. You can read more about this below.
By needing their pacifier a little less before it has disappeared completely, you will encounter smoother sailing and your child won’t be totally traumatized when that one thing they are used to having 24/7, has suddenly been trashed forever.
5. Reward Stickers
A more fun approach is to introduce reward stickers. Show me a kid who doesn’t love stickers! For every day, night or nap they get through without needing their pacifier, they get to pick the sticker of their choice as a reward for being so brave! They are also great for encouraging children to give up something they don’t need anymore and allow for really positive cooperation.
Encouragement in the form of stickers can also be a sneaky way to give some positive control to your toddler. They get to decide which sticker they would like and how often they receive one, dependent on how they do without the pacifier. This is a very popular strategy.
Stopping Day Time Pacifier Use
The usual and advisory first step is to think about ditching the day time habit. Gradually reducing your toddler’s pacifier use this way has many benefits, and swapping it for a new toy is one of them.
For instance, ‘We are going out but we said we would leave this at home, didn’t we?’ Your toddler could instead choose a new or favorite toy to take with them as a pacifier replacement (distraction!)
By taking away a pacifier during the day, children will learn to not only live without it but cope without it. If your toddler starts demanding their pacifier, explain to them the new situation whilst remaining calm, and remind them of their new toy if that is the approach you wish to undertake. Once you are happily settled here, it is time to consider limiting pacifier usage during other occasions.
Stopping Night Time Pacifier Use
All that’s left is to tackle night time pacifier use, and this is probably the trickiest of all. Nighttime, they are alone in their rooms, and sleep cycles dip us in and out of deep sleep. You will have noticed sometimes a pacifier falls out and the child is far too asleep to notice but suddenly upon stirring, they sleepily search for it in their cot or bed, find it, pop it back in their mouth and lay back down to sleep without so much as even opening their eyes.
This is not only out of habit but for pure reasons of comfort.
When you are all ready to take the night time pacifier away, you will see repeat patterns of the day time withdrawal. On top of that, you will have one very tired toddler and it can sometimes appear to be harder to do. If you remain consistent and calm, you will achieve your goal faster and better than if you become upset or regretful. Did I do this too soon? Is he or she really ready? The truth in their developing minds is no, they aren’t. But remind yourself that the time is now.
What Can You Expect On Your First Night Pacifier Free
Taking away pacifiers at night can be hard or easy, depending on how your toddler responds. Tears. Sighing. Tantrums. All are incredibly likely as you enter the darkness of the first night. Telling your toddler that this will be happening is very different from it actually happening and when the time does come, they will be in for a shock when their usual comfort has gone for good. Whether the shock is big or small; expect a different period of settling time.
You are going to need to be very consistent. Your child needs a regular routine that includes a bath, being read books, then heading off to bed. Make sure their beds are the ideal setting, with a favorite blanket or teddy, and that it isn’t too dark in case they wake in the night.
As your toddler responds to not having their pacifier, you will want to go in and soothe them with a kiss or a hug. It is now that patience really needs to kick in as you may be called back a few more times. Try and stretch out the intervals by a few minutes or so.
Your toddler will eventually fall asleep (even though it may not feel like it at first) but what you need to remember is to follow the very same pattern subsequent nights until the need or want for their pacifier has gone entirely.
Conclusion – Hang in there!
Want to know how to get a toddler to sleep without pacifier? Then this post has you covered!
Babies and toddlers are all very different – the pressure of taking away their pacifier overnight can be bigger than the reality that it simply isn’t for all.
A great image to have in the back of your mind is that there will soon be a day your toddler no longer asks for it or needs it.
The journey there can be tricky, but with a bit of determination and a sprinkle of patience, you will all get there!