How can such a tiny person create so much noise?? Sure, we all know kids can be noisy, but screaming! Why?
When my toddler son was going through a screaming phase, at first, it scared the hell out of me! I leaped off of my seat like a cat and burst through his bedroom like the special forces. He was fine.
My heart was beating through my chest!
After a while, it became a normal behavior, and that worried me more. What if he screamed and I didn’t react when he really needed me?
In this post, I am going to take a look at the best ways you can get a toddler to stop screaming.
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How To Get A Toddler To Stop Screaming
Ask Your Toddler Why They Scream
It might seem a bit too obvious. In fact, it is damn obvious. Sometimes the obvious works.
It is simple, if you want to find out why your toddler is screaming, then why don’t you ask them?
Sure, it might not get you anywhere. You might get nothing back, or you might get a small pause, followed by a louder scream… but you have to ask.
Oh, and when you ask, make sure you do it nicely. Don’t shout back, don’t act angry. Keep calm, and ask them.
Work On Communication
Your toddler is not the best communicator. My son could bearly string a sentence together when he went through the screaming phase. I am certain that his lack of communicative abilities lead him to scream when he didn’t know the right words to use!
Sit down with your toddler and speak to them. Let them listen to the words you use. Your toddler will learn to communicate better simply by listening to the way you talk.
Even better, bring in a slightly older child for your toddler to communicate with. Research has shown that children learn to communicate better when talking with another child.
Give Some Attention
It is possible that your toddler is craving your attention.
Ask yourself if you are giving them enough attention. When I say ask yourself, I mean drop the pretense and decide whether or not you are actually giving them enough attention.
It is difficult to question your parenting abilities, I understand that. But needs must, and if you want your toddler to stop scream, you need to get back to basics.
Occupy Your Toddler
If you want your toddler to stop scream immediately, then you had better get some awesome distraction techniques under your belt.
You need to put aside a few distraction ideas for a time when your toddler is causing some embarrassment by screaming in a public place.
Consider carrying one of their small toys in your pocket or bag. Bring it out when the screaming begins. It worked for my son every time!
Reward Good Behavior
I truly believe that rewarding good behavior is one of the most powerful things that you can do as a parent.
Be careful though, there is a fine line between rewarding good behavior and bribery.
Bribery is bad, rewarding good behavior is good.
The key difference is that you do not offer a reward before specific good behavior is shown. Sure, you can offer reward if behavior is good over a period of time. Use a rewards chart for this. Bribery is offering a reward for good behavior immediately, or over a short period of time.
Why Does Your Toddler Scream?
Your Toddler Finds It Funny
Let’s face it, what is funnier than watching your parents jump out of their skin?
Kids love to see your reaction and find it extremely funny when you jump. The result is that your toddler wants to do it again, and again, and again. Until they get bored of it…
…kids never get bored of scaring you, by the way.
Your Toddler Is Scared
It could be that your toddler is genuinely scared, and this is the worst think about your toddler screaming.
If your toddler is scared then you need to find the reason why.
It Is Just A Phase
Damn, in your time as a parent to a toddler, how many times have you heard the phrase:
It is just a phaseSays everybody when a child is acting up!
Is it true though it is likely to be a phase that your toddler is going through, and riding it out might just be the only way you are going to get through it.
I know, it is easier said than done.
This is very similar to your toddler not being able to communicate properly.
It is not just communication though, it is everything.
Your toddler will be looking at everyone, wanting to do everything they are doing. Does your toddler have older siblings? It is possible that they are looking at their older siblings and the frustration is creeping in because they can’t run as fast, speak as well, jump as high.
Reassure your toddler that they are doing well. Help them achieve what they want to achieve.
There are many reasons why, but this post will help you understand how to get a toddler to stop screaming.
The most important thing is that you communicate with your toddler, and teach them how to communicate effectively. You are their role model, and they will learn from you.
Be less angry, be less frustrated, and your toddler behavior will surely follow.