What To Do When Your Child Has No Friends

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One of my worse fears as a dad is seeing my son lonely. It’s gut-wrenching. To think of him without friends to share life experiences with is a heartbreaker. When a child has no friends, it can result in lonely adult life too. In fact, studies have shown that if a child has no friends, they are twice as likely to suffer from mental health issues in the future. If you wonder what to do when your child has no friends, then I have you covered in this post.

What you will learn in this post:

  • Why your child has no friends
  • How to help a child with no friends
  • Answers to frequently asked questions

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5 Reasons Why Your Child Has No Friends

Before we can understand how to help a child with no friends, we first need to look at why they have no friends. Here are 5 common reasons.

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An introvert is someone who is reserved and someone who thinks more without speaking a lot.

Sometimes this can be seen as ignorance and may be the reason why your child doesn’t have any friends.

Introverts like to make friends with an extrovert (someone who is enthusiastic and talkative) because it allows the introvert to operate more in the background whilst someone else takes the stage.


This is very similar to being an introvert and is actually one of the many personality traits of an introvert.

If your child is shy, it could be the reason why they do not have any friends. Shy folks usually wait until they are approached before having a conversation. Human interaction is rarely initiated by someone shy.

Fear Of Rejection

Your child may fear rejection that is stopping them from approaching people to get to know them better.

If your child fears rejection, then they may be too fearful of approach others to make friends.

There are some things that you can do to help your child overcome their fear of rejection.


Some people can be very sensitive. That means they regularly fall out of friendship with people who have upset them in some way.

Unfortunately, that means that others do not enter into friendship with them because they are easily offended.

Having a sensitive friend is a lot of hard work. Not only does it take a lot of energy to communicate without causing upset, but making up with them is up to you too. It takes up a lot of mental capacity.

Some people think that it is better to avoid sensitive folks for the reasons above.

Health Issue – Personality Disorder

It’s not easy to think about, but is it possible that your child has a personality disorder?

Some people with these health issues may be described as ‘toxic/intense’ and could result in them having no friends in life.

You cannot confirm this (unless you are a qualified medical professional), so you must seek the correct medical advice if you think this is the case.

5 Ways To Increase Your Childs Circle Of Friends

When your child has no friends, it hurts, right? So let’s get things sorted by using these 5 tips…

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Discuss It

If you want to know what to do when your child has no friends, the first thing you need to do is talk to your child. You could get the answers you are looking for if you listen. The conversation needs to be you asking questions without judgment. It’s not going to be easy, but it is something that you need to do right at the beginning.

Ask your child important questions such as:

  • What happened when you fell out with your last friend?
  • What do you think friendship means?
  • How do you make friends?
  • Who do you like most at school?
  • How do you think the other children at school treat you?

The answers to these questions will help you understand why your child has no friends.

Oh, and yes, I know this is not going to be easy! Getting answers from a child is never easy, especially when it is about something as sensitive as this. Unfortunately, it is your best tool to get your child some friends.

Find An Interest

Unless you live in the middle of the wilderness, you will likely have local clubs in your local area. If you have a child not making friends at school, then find a club for them!

Figure out what your child enjoys doing. Are there any sports they are interested in? Do they enjoy playing specific games?

Look for clubs in your local area and suggest attending them with your child. Always watch your child as they interact with others. This is an excellent way of picking up on clear markers to see why your child has no friends.


It is your job as a parent to coach your child through life. Coach them on how they should be reacting in certain situations.

If your child is sensitive, you need to coach them to help them deal with an upset in a much more positive way.

Do not approach this as a bossy teacher. Instead, it would be best to ask your child to come up with ways they can improve.

Work On Communication

Your child may need some help in the way they communicate. Let’s face it; most kids need help in the way they communicate!

This is very similar to the coaching tip (above) but is slightly different. This also includes the way your child asks questions, answers questions, or just the way they vocally communicate with other kids of a similar age.

Children like to spend time with other kids who are easy to speak with. So, watch your child as they communicate with other kids and find ways they can improve it. Run through your findings with your child and ask them how they think it went.

Rule Out Medical Conditions

Visit a medical professional to rule out any medical condition that your child might be suffering from.

If this is down to a medical condition, it is good news that it has been identified. Once a medical professional has identified any medical conditions, then you can begin to address them with either behavioral therapy or medicine.

If your child needs medical intervention, then it goes without saying that they need your support through this.

Frequently Asked Questions

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How do I help my lonely child make friends?

First, you need to understand exactly why your child has not been making friends without your help. It could be for a number of reasons, such as; being introverted, being shy, being sensitive. Once you understand the reason, you can help them to make friends. You could suggest going to local clubs, or sports clubs so that your child can meet other kids with a similar interest.

Why is my child not making friends?

There are a number of reasons why your child is not making any friends, and you need to speak with your child to understand why. In this post, there are a number of questions that you can ask your child to help find the reason why they are struggling to make friends.

Is having no friends bad?

Having no friends can have implications for your mental health. A study showed that the more isolated a person is, the more it affects their mental health. Some people just like their own company more than they like other people’s company, and that is ok, but they do need friends around them who understand and respect that.


If you wonder what to do if your child has no friends, then the 5 tips on this page, along with the 5 reasons why will help you.

You have to remember that everyone is different in life. Some people like to be around friends all of the time, whilst others prefer their own company. Some people like to think a lot internally, and some like to think out loud.

It is important to understand, and respect the way that other people work. If you do not respect this, then it could lead to frustration, both for you, and your child.

Do not force your child to make friends with other kids. Instead, it would help if you got your child used to the positive feelings of having friends and having someone to share life experiences with. If your child has no friends, then show them that having friends can make them happier.

Good luck!

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