He is nervous. He doesn’t know what is about to hit him. But it will hit him, like a steam train of noise, emotions, and cost. He needs a gift, big time. But what gifts do you buy an expectant Father?
I can help you with that.
I’ve been there before, the expectant Father. And although I was pretty cool and laid back about the whole thing (sure), I still wanted to be showered with gifts.
I am only human!
Gifts Ideas For An Expectant Father
- Learning Material
- A Neck Pillow
- Coffee Maker
- Baby Carrier FOR MEN
- Alcohol Bottled This Year
- Man Bag
Expectant Father = Stressful Times
You have to look at the situation they are in, and then find gifts that will help him out.
I have already covered a few gifts in the new Dad survival kit. The gift ideas in that post and more for AFTER the birth. This is specifically for a Man, who is just about to be promoted from being a Man to being a Father!
Anyway, what is an expectant Father going to need?
Before you say it, time machines do not exist. Nor do buttons that when you press them, time is paused and you can go to sleep for hours without affecting ‘normal’ time. I know it sucks, but I am dealing with reality here. A harsh reality.
What has an expectant Father got to deal with?
Emotional Wife? False alarms? Shopping for baby stuff? Worry?
When you are buying a gift for an expectant Father, you need to bear the above in mind. Having been there, done that…I believe I am in the best position to pass on some advice!
Let’s crack on with the list…..
10 Awesome Expectant Father Gifts
1. Learning Material
Make sure he gets some reading in before the big day!
The reason it gets so many mentions is that it truly is a fantastic book for preparing yourself for being a Dad!
The book is called Pocket Commando Dad and it is written with Dad’s in mind. The writing style resonates with me and my daily challenges of not messing up.
Neil Sinclair (The Author) also has a book out to help prepare new Dad’s for the build-up to the birth. This book is called Commando Dad: Advice for Raw Recruits: From pregnancy to birth. I must admit, I have not read this book but if Pocket Commando Dad is anything to go by, it is well worth a read!
The only time I love shopping is when I am buying something for myself. Selfish, I know!
Even then, I know what I want and I know where to go to get it. I’m in the shop, I pick it up, I pay for it, I leave the shop. It is too easy.
When shopping for baby things, none of the above applies.
You kind of know what you want, you kind of know where to get it. When you get there, there are too many options. Not only that, the marketing material is designed to pull at the heartstrings! You’ve lost the battle before you get in the car.
At least then he knows where he is going and he knows that he has to spend them in that shop.
Even online, check out stores that sell equipment for babies (strollers, monitors, thermometers etc) and get him some vouchers for that. Then he will not have to spend days looking around baby shops AND he can buy what he needs from home!
3. A Neck Pillow
During the childbirth, I spent around 15 minutes asleep on a hospital chair. It was not the most comfortable, or the most refreshing sleep that I have ever had!
It was uncomfortable, it was too short….and all I could hear was my Wife dragging away on the Nitrous Oxide!
After the childbirth, my Wife and Son spent 8 days in the hospital. I spent my nights swapping between the chair and the cold, hard floor.
What would have made it much better, is a neck pillow.
Not only for the birth itself but afterward, when we were back at home. When you have a newborn baby, you will need to get some sleep when and where you can. A neck pillow will be the reason why he wakes up without a sore neck!
Yeh OK, it may sound strange but trust a Dad!
He will need to be stocking up on medication for home when the new baby is here.
Lack of sleep and a little additional stress might result in a few more headaches for him. The next 2 years of his life will also be full of colds/sick bugs, you name it!
The type of medication I am talking about here is regular, over the counter painkillers. The type that you take if you have a headache or the flu, not the strong stuff that can be addictive!
Keep him topped up with essential vitamins, because having a newborn baby can result in erratic eating patterns and even skipping a meal!
It is really important to keep him functioning and keep him healthy because now he has a baby to bring up!
By giving him a long supply of multi-vitamins, he will not be missing out of his daily dosage of important vitamins, like:
Vitamin C – Essential for a healthy immune system.
Zinc – For improved memory.
Magnesium – For a healthy heart.
The build-up to having a baby is a flat-pack, DIY nightmare!
I absolutely hate putting furniture up, but having the right tools would have made the job a hell of a lot easier!
Sure, you can blame me for having a screwdriver set that my Dad gave me (probably from the 70’s), but it would have been an awesome gift to receive a brand new electric screwdriver.
If it means he can get the furniture up quickly, it will result in a much happier partner too, so everyone is a winner!
7. Coffee Maker
My coffee maker is one of my very best friends!
It greets me in the AM with a fresh coffee and keeps me topped up until I leave for work.
I am a bit of a coffee snob and ensure I prep only fresh coffee….that includes grinding the coffee beans right before it brews!
All he needs is a basic coffee maker! One that can take ground coffee beans, take the water and brew enough to last him the morning.
If he is a coffee snob like me, then you might want to get him a Bialetti Stovetop Espresso Maker. It is cheaper than the machine options, and it is the correct way to make a decent coffee….when you have time!
8. Baby Carrier FOR MEN
We are Men! I find that regular baby carrier are ok, but they are not that manly.
We love spending time with the kids, even when they are babies….they need to feel close to us too.
Kids need to have a close bond with their Dad. So many times I have heard Mothers complaining that their baby ‘only wants me, not their Dad’ and I personally think that bonding with the baby when they are small will mean the load can be shared between both parents.
Having a Dad like baby carrier will mean he doesn’t feel emasculated, and it means his partner can take a break while they go for a walk together. Win-win!
9. Alcohol Bottled This Year
A bottle of something alcoholic!
If you are able to get a bottle of his favorite alcohol, bottled the year his child will be born, he can keep that for a special occasion (marriage, graduation).
Bear in mind, some alcohol will not keep for that long, but the best ones do!
Find out what his favorite alcohol is (spirits or Champagne works best for this) and get him a bottle.
10. Man Bag
Again, like the baby carrier, it will be cool if we could get a baby bag that doesn’t make us want to leave it at home….the bag, not the baby!
Think functional, think Man.
Seriously, I cannot emphasize enough how important it is to take a changing pad wherever you go with the baby. You never know when they are going to spring am emergency change on you!
If you can get a baby bag with changing pad, then it is a perfect choice and one that he will be grateful for, even if he doesn’t know it yet!
So, there are the 10 gift ideas for the expectant Father! There are some options in there that suit all budgets.
I urge you again to think of the situation he is just about to find himself in and think about what you can buy to help him out as soon as he becomes a Dad.
He may not know it yet, but the gift ideas above will definitely help him in his journey.
By the way, I am not suggesting here that he has the most difficult job in the parental partnership! We know that giving birth is easily the worst bit, and we certainly appreciate the fact that it isn’t us that has to do it!
During my time as an expectant Father, I had a vague idea of what to expect from being a Dad, but nothing can really prepare you 100% for when it happens. It is a journey and a learning curve that only experience will give you the answers for.
I am sure you will find some inspiration on this list, but if you are still stuck, you can always ask him what he needs. I am sure he can whip up a quick list of a hundred things he needs to buy! Make sure you check with him first if you decide to buy something like a baby monitor, medical devices (If you need some inspiration for the best digital ear thermometer, check here.), strollers or car seats. When I was looking for these items, I wanted to only buy the ones my Wife and I wanted.
Also – the build-up to becoming a new Dad will definitely come with added pressure, both financially and mentally. Please keep an eye on BOTH parents in the build-up to the childbirth (and after). If they look like they are struggling, please offer some help, it is a lot more useful than any gift you can buy them.
If you can think of anything that would be on this list, or you have had a good or bad experience with any of the gifts above, please get in touch!
Good luck to you, and good luck to the expectant Father!