Being a new Dad is going to be tough! Not only do you have yourself to look after, you now need to look after a Baby! Oh, and Mom if she had particularly bad childbirth. I put together these 10 top tips for a new Dad because I wish someone would have given them to me before my Son was born!
Get used to it, your life will never be the same again. You will be feeling tired, worn out, but extremely happy! Now you just need to know how to survive…
10 Top Tips For A New Dad
- Share The Load
- Get Sleep When You Can
- Learn The Basics
- Know Where Things Are
- Prepare A Routine
- Find A Friend
- Get Equipped
- Push Present
- Get Stuff Done
Share The Load
There is no doubt that sharing the load was one of the best decisions we made when my Son was born.
It is not just during the day but also during the night. In fact, the night is probably the most important time for load sharing.
Babies wake up numerous times during the night, and to stop impromptu disagreements at 3 am, discuss which feeds you are both doing and stick to them.
Personally, I did not sleep much when my wife was in charge of feeding, but that is just me!
Get Sleep When You Can
Being a new Dad will result in a reduction of sleep, get used to it!
There are times when the Baby is asleep, and they are likely to be asleep for a couple of hours at least. That is the time when you need to get your head down.
Sleep deprivation can result in a low immune system, mood changes, weight gain, amongst other things!
All of those symptoms are not good for you, but they are even worse when you are a new Dad!
Dads need to be on the top of their game, alert, ready for anything. Your nights may be ruined, so sleeping during the day is an excellent way of topping up on hours.
Learn The Basics
You must learn the basics for two reasons:
- You do not mess things up
- To share the load
- Changing the Baby
- Bathing the Baby
- Feeding the Baby
- Getting the Baby to sleep
- Entertaining the Baby
- Taking the Babies temperature
- Applying medicine to the Baby
- Learning what you need to take out with the Baby
In fact, that list, although it is not exhaustive, will see you well into the Toddler years.
Get to know how to care for your new Baby and in turn, you will also be caring for Mom while she recovers from the horrendous ordeal of Childbirth!
Know Where Things Are
The Baby needs:
- To sleep
To perform these tasks you need to know where things are and how to use them. Do not get caught short, when your Baby needs to be changed, they may need to be changed pretty quickly! If you spent 10 minutes looking for the Diapers then you are already on the back foot.
Also, always make sure the items are topped up. You do not want to run out at 2 am!
Prepare A Routine
Change, eat, sleep, repeat.
Routines are KEY to successful parenting. Without routines, you are being ruled by the demands of a Baby/Toddler.
Create a routine for sleeping, create a routine for eating.
Speak to Mom to ensure she is cool with the routines and stick to them.
You and Mom need to be a well-oiled machine. Being organized will build confidence in you both as parents and will help the new Baby to settle into life on this planet.
Find A Friend
If you work with many people, the odds are that you will work with someone who has recently become a parent. Talk to them.
Find out how they have got on. Find out if they have any tips for a new Dad.
Experience can teach you so much more, so why not learn from the experience of others around you.
If you do not work with a new Dad then think about any family members who have become a new parent recently. Tap them up for some advice, or even use them as a sounding board when you get stuck.
It is very important that you get equipped to be a new Dad.
Mentally, yes. Physically too though.
Throughout my time as a new Dad, I was helped by a few items. I will name a few items here that really helped me through the early stages:
I am talking about technology here, not equipment like Diapers, wipes, etc.
The movement monitor REALLY helped me get some awesome sleep. Many people argue that they do not like the fact it could false alarm but I genuinely believe that I had better sleep as a new Dad because I knew I would be woken in an emergency.
I made a huge error when my Son was born. I did not get my Wife a push present!
Serious Husband points were lost with that decision!
Mom has just been through the terrible ordeal of childbirth, make her feel special. Think about the kind of things that she like, even something small will show your appreciation for what she has just been through.
Apparently, telling Mom that you have just given her a new Baby is not enough of a gift!
Some women like jewelry, some like to relax in the bath. It is pretty simple, get Mom something that she will love to receive as a gift. You could even think about getting something with a personal touch.
This is one of the most important tips for new Dads!
Chill out, Man! You’ve got this.
Being a Dad is easy (mostly), all you need to do is learn the basics (see new Dad tip 3). Once you have those tips covered, you can do it.
Your new Baby is not going to like stressed Dad. Not. At. All. So, why don’t you be no stress Dad?
Being stressed is going to affect the two people you have in your new Family, Mom, and Baby. If you are stressed, then you will simply be passing that stress on to your Family. Do not do it.
Find a happy place, find a calming song, become more organized. Do these 3 things to ensure you remain as calm as you need to be.
Get Stuff Done
Are there broken things through the house? Fix them.
Does the trash need taking out? Do it.
Does Mom need some time on her own? Take the Baby out.
Has a light bulb blown? Change it.
A new Dad needs to be on top of ‘stuff’. It does not matter how little these things seem to you, just get them done so there are fewer things for Mom to get upset about.
Above are the 10 top tips for a new Dad. Read them, and then read them again.
I was once a new Dad, and now I am a slightly more experienced Dad. You never stop learning. The things you learn when they are a Baby is cool, but they are not going to help you when they are 3 years old. Well, some might be, but on the most part, they will not.
Approach parenting with an open mind and a willingness to learn all of the time and you will find it difficult to fail.
Good luck, new Dad!