Each parent wants the best for our child, right?
So we browse and browse the internet for tips to help us gain those awe-inspiring good parenting skills parents need in order to be the best at our game.
Stop right there, I’ve done the hard work and I can confirm the ultimate list of 11 best parenting skills out there have been combined, just for you, to make you the better parent you want to be.
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Why Are Parenting Skills Important?
Am I a good parent? How many times do you ask yourself?
The truth is, how we raise our kids will affect them for the rest of their lives. No pressure, huh?
Shaping the future this way can seem so daunting, but knowing that you are using the internet to find ways to improve the way you parent is going to improve your relationship with both yourself and your child. That is imperative.
Good parenting begins with the realization that you want to learn how to be a better parent. If you are having trouble connecting with your child, you may assume it’s just ‘life’ – but if you make time and get to know yourself, you could discover those good relationships stem from the ability to reconnect with what matters.
It may take time, but it will be worth it.
11 Vital Skills That Parents Need To Have
Love is the single most important of the skills to offer your child. Parents need to not only show what love is but offer lots of ways in which their children can feel it themselves. This extends much further past people. It involves loving what you do, what you eat, how you splash in the bath, what books you read, and the friends you choose and make.
Now more than ever, we need to raise children with huge hearts. To move one step further, this also includes the art of compassion towards their lives and how they choose to live it. When we feel pain or sadness, what makes it better is the feeling of love. That may be a cuddle from your mom or preoccupying yourself with your favorite toy or song. Love is one of life’s wonders. More on this can be found in a great article, ‘The Importance of Teaching Your Child To Love,’ here.
Managing stress is incredibly complex. There isn’t an on/off switch in existence, but there are effective ways in which we parents can make important decisions that contribute to our children’s life skills. To reinforce good reactions every time we may feel stressed, we are going to ensure our children remain happy and loved. If you are stressed, your child will pick up on that and learn it from you. They will get from you, whatever it is you offer them.
That would be great – except stress is not great.
As a parent, it is time to prioritize what is important. Cut out the unnecessary stress-causing factors in your life, and start to feel good about your management.
It’s so easy to get caught up in the challenges we face, but your child will learn nothing from how you respond, in fact, you are far more likely to hand over your ineffective techniques to them for future use. Learn to take things one step at a time, simplify your own life, and say no when you want to.
Make sure you get enough sleep and maybe take up a form of exercise. If you make enough small changes, you will certainly begin to feel more at one with yourself.
Whilst loving others is a great skill to have, we cannot skip the one thing that tops loving another – loving yourself! Every time we show our child that we ourselves as a parent are worth it, we show them how to take care of ourselves in the purest form.
I don’t mean take selfies and post them on Instagram. Self-love runs deeper than showing your child how to pose and pout for strangers.
Parents who reward and praise themselves when they achieve something give themselves and their children a strong chance of modeling their own achievements on the way you handled yours.
‘The Book You Wished Your Parents Had Read’ is available now and is a global bestseller. This excellent book can teach you how to improve your parenting skills. It is more than just a good read. It is a vital tool to hold and one I feel all parents need.
Self-love is more than washing your hair or eating well (although those things are important!) It is how you talk to yourself. How we keep going and encourage ourselves, in particular when times get tough or we feel challenged. Giving your energy to a ‘glass half full’ outlook will encourage a growth mindset.
Not every parent has the privilege to be able to offer the best schools, colleges, or universities, especially those that cost the earth (money you do not have). Education doesn’t have to be about top grades or entering one of the top 5 educational initiations in the country. It is far more. It is the library card you give your child. It is the book about sharks you buy your ocean lover for his birthday. It’s the trip to the museum on a rainy Saturday that pulls them away from their TV or games consoles. Enriching your child’s mind through the fun behind learning can send them soaring towards success.
Your child doesn’t need you to put too much pressure on them, that would be parenting gone wrong. What they need instead, is for you to show them the world. At a young age, they don’t have power, money, safety, or knowing to explore. But what you need to remember is that even a trip to the beach provides many opportunities for exploration.
Help them find the fun in feeling the waves between their toes, and support them when they come home from school with a project or homework. If learning is treated as fun and manageable, they will develop positive coping strategies.
Fire Up Those Hobbies
Gaga about golf? Fanatical about football? Maybe you are a passionate piano player. Whatever your hobby is, let your child know! Parenting is all about modeling positive behavior and allowing your experiences to provide an opportunity for your child to learn their own identity. Having hobbies is a vital parenting skill to have. You are teaching your child that it is OK to love and be passionate about something, and also to explore that in their development.
Children will have a sense of pride and accomplishment if they have a hobby of their own. A self-esteem booster; hobbies can encourage us all to set personal goals, achieve what we intended, and worked for, and are a great form of self-expression. Hobbies are great for rainy days or when the ‘work’ is done, and are great life balancers for the body and mind.
Our cars are great, aren’t they? The way we put the gas in, make sure everything is working as it should, and off we go. If a problem arises, we get it seen to in the garage and we fix any issues, happily paying the price. What about us? What food do we put into our bodies in order for it to run efficiently? How do we move? What can we do when our own system flags a warning sign?
Parents can offer fantastic skills to develop a healthy, rounded individual by showing them how health is a huge priority in the day to day running of our lives.
Offering your kids a healthy, colorful diet with a few treats here and there, will give their body and mind a rich variation of vitamins and nutrients that are vital for growth and development. It becomes more than that when you experiment with fun recipes and allow these fantastic foods to form good relationships with your little ones. Putting on those walking or running shoes and getting outdoors will also be a big step in promoting good health, as well as learning the art of opening up to problems or challenges we face that can affect our mental health.
Confident parents raise confident kids. A parent offers the best start in life when they step back and allow their child to develop his or her own thoughts and feelings. Good ways of producing confident kids are not to do everything for them. At the first sign of struggle, don’t intervene and instead let them work it out for themselves if they can safely. Let them explore their worlds in their own time and don’t push them before they are ready.
If you want to succeed in raising a confident child, you must remember to lead by example. There is no point in being scared of everything (including failure) and then expecting your child to go out and seize the world with both hands. Talk about your own feelings of when you were both anxious or excited about trying new things and in turn encourage them to associate their own feelings with what they are doing.
Offer The World (Not Its Contents)
A parent can make mistakes by giving their child everything they want. Being a ‘yes’ parent seems all well and good in the short term, but offers little long term satisfaction to either you or your child. As a parent, you will get to a crucial point where it dawns on you that you may have made a huge error, especially when your child becomes demanding and ungrateful. They not only want that new toy or a new game, but they need it. And they will stomp until you get it for them. After all, it worked last week, didn’t it? You took them to the shop and treated them just for being a non specifically ‘good’ son or daughter.
Raising entitled children leads to disaster. The fact of the matter is, nothing goes our way all the time. As adults, we may have to wait until payday for that treat or item we need. We save for vacations. We shop and surf for the best deals. We feel when good when we earn our way to a happy ending, whether that is a good meal or a new car. Time to give up on giving in, and shut down the bank of mom and dad. Instead, start introducing the meaning of earning money for things we want, and when the bottom lip pokes out, hold your ground.
We are not born with empathic skills. We are born into environments that show us through situational experiences that teach us how to respond empathically. In order to develop a successful pattern or process, kids need their parents. There are processes shaped by learning, that result in children being able to understand how another feels, being able to see or feel from other perspectives, and the very important wanting to help. If your child is able to spot when somebody is distressed or frustrated and showing concern, then their empathic skills are strong.
Teaching children to feel empathy comes from much more than books. It is about time and support, so they can learn to self regulate. Other good ways to encourage empathy are too have productive conversations about topics such as race or sexuality. To understand injustices towards people rather than spot differences between us, can make room for understanding and sympathy. A great book to start with, You, Me, and Empathy:
Jobs In The House
A good parenting skill is to ‘train’ your child to see pride in their environment. If only we could wake up each morning and find the house cleaning fairy had been! Sadly for us, we need to make time to get the house in order, and one way to teach your child a great skill is to do one small thing every day in order to make a positive difference to their home environment. It could be anything from making their bed, to helping to sweep the floor. You may even want to draw up a little schedule for them to maintain and build on their own skills.
Hard work comes from us, and how tidy our house is depends on what effort we put into keeping it that way. s your child gets older, they will understand better the discipline that goes behind ensuring they are strong, independent, and responsible for their own actions. And yes, that healthy perception really does start with making your own bed at a young age!
Strong Bond With Your Spouse
Children do not miss a beat. Mommy is mommy and daddy is daddy. As they grow older, that connection they have with their two parents will deepen with further knowledge that you not only love and care for your child but that you love and care for each other too. A strong family bond is what every parent should model for their children, in order for them to feel love and support.
As you brush by each other in the kitchen or kiss one another goodbye in the mornings, your child is noticing. When you are happy, they beam from ear to ear. Mom loves dad, mom, and dad love me. That is quite literally all they want. The rest can sort itself out. You are inadvertently modeling how your son or daughter will treat their future spouse, and yes, that is even important when they are young!
I know not all relationships can be easy, and we all go through struggles but generally on the whole if you practice the art of conversation away from your kids, and love and respect each other, these acts of love will go far. A great book I always love to have on my shelf, that I have read more than once, The 5 Love Languages:
Conclusion – Don’t Delay, Start Today!
Whilst it’s never to early to put your good parenting skills to use, it’s also never too late. I hope you have found these tips useful!
Remind yourself regularly to be gentle on yourself.
Parents make mistakes; we are people too! Good parenting is born from the idea that parenting needs to be good. It’s that simple.