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15 Labor Tips For Dads In The Delivery Room

Tips for dads to help out during labor, and childbirth!

dad helping in the delivery room mom giving birth

If you thought preparing to be a father was daunting, then being a dad in the delivery room is off the charts!

Your partner is there to give birth, but what do you need to do as a dad?

You’ve gone through the pregnancy (good job), your partner is having contractions and now you are ready to rock and roll.

Here are 15 tips I wish someone gave to me before I strutted into the delivery room expecting it to be much easier than it actually turned out to be…


15 Tips For Dads In The Labor And Delivery Room

Some of these might change depending on your situation. For instance, if you are booked in for a c section, some of these can be skipped over.

15 Tips For Dads In The Delivery Room

Keep Your Emotions In Check

Ok, it’s a bit of a challenge to keep your emotions in check when you are going through a huge life-changing moment. Sometimes when someone (mom) is going through something much more painful, they look to us guys for assurance.

Try to walk the fine line of keeping emotions at bay, but don’t come across as cold and uncaring.

As I said, it’s a fine line!


Be Prepared To Wait

My first child was induced. He was already 2 weeks late.

3 days later, he was born.

Those 3 days were spent watching mom in pain, neither of us slept, and at times it felt like we were going backward. The baby will come out eventually, your job is to be patient.

It can be hours, or even days of contractions before your partner gives birth and your baby makes an appearance.


Live In The Moment – It’s Your Big Day Too!

dad kissing newborn baby

Don’t forget… this is a life-changing time for you too.

Be aware of everything, and stay involved.

Remember this whole thing, because one day it will be a distant memory. The time to enjoy it is now.


Limit Technology

Phones, tablets, and laptops offer distraction.

That can be a good thing for mom during the early phase of labor, but it is not good when it is distracting you from being in the moment, or from being useful.

Put the tech down in the delivery room… unless you are taking pictures (ask for permission first).


Offer Support

labor lady bouncing on exercise ball with dad supporting

Mom is going through a lot of pain, and a little anxiety too, especially if this is her first baby.

Offer support by:

  • Holding her hands
  • Cuddling
  • Telling her she is doing a great job
  • Telling her that this is natural, and her body is built for this
  • Massaging her back or neck (don’t forget to ask first, don’t just dive in with a back rub)

Choose The Right Words

In the labor and delivery room, the words you say must be chosen well.

Go back to the point above… offer words of encouragement.

Ultimately, you know mom better than anyone else in the labor room, so you know the kind of things she will like to hear. If mom likes laughing, try to make her laugh. If mom likes engaging in a debate, engage her in a debate. It is all about making mom comfortable, and helping to distract her from the pain she is feeling during contractions.

PS – as I write this, my wife is in early labor or our second boy. Do not keep asking if there are any more signs!


Ask Questions

lady giving birth with dad and 2 midwives

You weren’t born with the knowledge of how to walk, talk, write, or drive. You had to learn all of these, right?

The same goes for birthing and labor. Unless you are a midwife or a medical professional, you are not going to know what happens in a labor and delivery unit, are you?

Ask questions about things you do not understand. If you see a midwife doing something, ask what they are doing. Ask what to look out for when there is not a medical professional in the room.


Listen To Answers

…when you are the questions above, listen to the answers!

When you ask mom how she is doing, and how she feels, listen to the response and act on it.

The more you listen, the more you will learn.


Prepare To Be Yelled At

It goes without saying, you might… actually you probably will get yelled at!

You might get sworn at too.

You might have your hand squeezed tight during a contraction.

In the grand scheme of things, you still have the easy part to play!

Grown some thick skin, just in case…


Never Complain

During the birth of my son, I had:

  • A heavy cold
  • Sore throat
  • Headache
  • Tiredness (I had been awake for 3 days straight)

I didn’t say a word during labor. There is no need to draw attention to what you are going through.


Familiarize Yourself With The Hospital

man sitting in hospital waiting

It is best to do this ahead of time, so you can be prepared for the big day.

If you are going to be in the hospital a few weeks before for a scan, or a check-up, take look around and get to know where the key locations are. Such as:

  • Restrooms
  • Restaurants
  • Vending Machines
  • Labor And Delivery Rooms

Know About Pain Relief

What pain relief is on offer?

Speak to the midwife about the kinds of pain relief that mom has the option for.

Obviously, if this is a c section, you will already have that covered, but there are a few more options during labor that can help your partner control pain during labor and the delivery.


Understand Breathing Exercises

You can use breathing exercises to relieve pain.

Check out these breathing exercises and memorize them in case you need to give mom a reminder during the delivery and labor.


Participate

Get involved in the birth of your child.

Sure, it is mom doing the vast majority of the work, but you can also get involved in it.

When I say get involved in the delivery, I mean make yourself useful in the labor room, don’t just be there as a number and get in the way.

Ask your partner, and ask the midwives what you can do next and get their advice. Offer help, and assistance.

Another way you can participate is to give your new baby some skin-to-skin after mom. It is a great way of building a bond with your baby.


Encourage

It is easy to say and not so easy to do, but you should encourage your partner through contractions, labor, and ultimately the delivery of your child.

Put yourself in the shoes of your partner. What would you want to hear? What would help you through the birth of a baby?


Finally

Being a dad in the delivery room can be tough, but it is significantly easier if you have a firm grip on what you need to do in there whilst your partner gives birth.

At first, you may feel overcome with emotions, expectations, and anxiety. The more questions you ask, the more prep you do, and the longer you spend doing it, the more experienced you become.

With experience comes comfort.

This is one of the best moments of your life!

Good luck with the birth, bringing up the baby, and being a totally awesome father!

Dad Gold

Written by Dad Gold

Dad of 2, Blogger, part-time superhero. I am giving you all the tips that I wish I had when I was a new dad! Bringing up a child can be tough... and I want to use this blog to give you some parenting tips I picked up throughout my journey as a dad (so far!), along with some recommended gear that I use to help make the dad journey much easier!

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