Pregnancy. It is never boring. Sure, it is tiresome sometimes, but it is not boring. What are the things a Dad should know about pregnancy? I am going to give you 10 things I wish I knew about pregnancy when my Son was cooking in the womb.
Like most things in life, preparation is key. This is very true for pregnancy too. When Mom is pregnant, it can be a wonderful time for your family, but there are also times when Dads knowledge may be called upon.
10 Things A Dad Should Know About Pregnancy
- Know the pregnancy stages
- What your partner will physically need
- What your partner will mentally need
- Her sense of smell is like a dog
- Do not worry about having sex
- Moods change at the drop of a hat
- Know how to make your baby move
- Learn pregnancy danger signs
- Understand what happens during childbirth
- Understand what you will both need for the hospital
Is this a conclusive list of things a Dad should know about pregnancy?
No, definitely not. For a start, there would be so many words on this page, you probably wouldn’t read them all!
These are simply 10 things that I wished I knew when my wife was pregnant.
My biggest tip is for you to learn what could go wrong during pregnancy. You REALLY need to know the most common issues that could spell trouble for you all.
Have a read through this page on pregnancy warning signs and please, if you are not sure about a symptom, it is REALLY important to get Mom checked out by a medical professional.
Things A Dad Should Know About Pregnancy
Here are the 10 tips! Enjoy!
Know the pregnancy stages
This is the first thing Dad needs to know about pregnancy, and it is a very, very large subject. In fact, I have written a complete article about the stages of pregnancy, it is well worth a read.
I will give you a basic rundown though. the pregnancy is broken down into 3 trimesters:
- 1st trimester – 0-12 weeks
- 2nd trimester 12-28 weeks
- 3rd trimester 29-40 weeks
Each of the trimesters will give you new challenges and a set of tasks to do.
Read my stages of pregnancy article for a breakdown on what you should expect your baby to be doing, and what you expect your wife to be doing.
It is always best to know what you are up against.
What your partner will physically need
So many things. Honestly, so many! But, I have a small list of things below that actually really helped my wife during pregnancy:
- A pregnancy pillow – trust me, Dad will also get more sleep.
- Eye mask – to help with sleeping during the day.
- Dad to clean up after himself – just do it Man.
- Dad to take care of *stuff* around the house.
- Hot water bottle – because they just make you feel better!
During pregnancy, Dads job is to make Mom content, confident, happy, and ready for Childbirth.
What your partner will mentally need
- To get out of the house during the later stages – it stops cabin fever.
- You to understand – try not to argue back, and understand that hormones are driving every single one of her moods, good or bad.
- To relax – hosting a Baby must be tiring work, talk to her about her concerns and address them.
- To talk – Talking about how she is getting on shows and interest and increases the feeling that you are in this together.
- You to answer questions and to increase your knowledge – during pregnancy, she isn’t going to know everything. Take the lead and learn what is happening and what is going to happen. If she asks you a question and you have the answer, her confidence builds knowing that you are around.
I am sure you are aware that pregnancy comes a sudden rush of hormones, and not just once either!
During pregnancy, Dad needs to keep Moms mental health right at the forefront of his consciousness. It is vital that Mom feels she can talk to Dad about anything, at all times.
Her sense of smell is like a dog
Make sure you have regular showers. Don’t go overboard on the scent and try not to cook food that is going to cause the entire house to smell for days.
Get some relaxing candles that Woman love, they release a subtle fragrance as they burn which will mask many smells.
The important thing here is that when you clean the house, make sure you cover everything. If you miss even a bit of the cleaning, her hound nose will pick it up in no time at all!
While I am on the subject, Mom will go through a stage of pregnancy they call ‘nesting‘. Nesting is where Moms natural instincts will kick in and she will want to prepare the house for the Babies arrival. When the nesting stage begins, all you need to do is move out of Moms way, she has everything covered. Always be ready for some instructions, and always keep an eye on Mom just in case she is trying to move heavy objects!
Do not worry about having sex
Literally, just don’t worry about it. It probably isn’t going to happen. It might happen, once or twice.
During the 1st trimester, things are a little fraught and her body is just not going to feel up to it, so you need to respect that. A mixture of worry and a massive boost in hormones will take over and sex is probably going to be one of the last things on her mind.
Women tend to go into overdrive during the 2nd trimester, and that is when your chances are likely to arrive. When it does, don’t worry about hurting the baby, it just ain’t gonna happen Man.
If anything, the good hormones released during sex will make the baby happier in the womb. Try to use that line when you can!
The 3rd trimester is unlikely to bring you any sexy time. For a start, she is going to be huge. You have to remember that she may not look huge but in her mind, she is HUGE. There is a fable that sex brings on labor, it isn’t true but it is well worth suggesting. It might be your last chance for a while.
A friend once gave me this advice.
When you first meet a girl, put some money IN a jar each time you have sex. After childbirth, take money OUT of the jar each time you have sex. You will soon realize that the jar will never be empty.
Moods change at the drop of a hat
Picture this, you are having a conversation with your wife. In that same conversation, she is laughing, crying, angry, and then back to laughing again. It doesn’t follow the same pattern, it is very sporadic. Try to keep up.
Do as much as you can to ensure your partner is not going to get too angry, or sad.
Respect that it is a sudden rush of hormones that are driving these moods. Do not get drawn into pointless disagreements.
During my wife’s pregnancy, arguments were very rare (I don’t tend to argue anyway, life is too short), so I got away with it. Some Dad’s paint an entirely different picture though.
Know how to make your baby move
During pregnancy, one of the things a Dad needs to know if how to make your baby move.
There will be times when the babies activity slows down and there will be times when it just will no quit moving around.
You need to ask Mom regularly if she has felt the baby move recently, just to make sure everything is cool.
If Mom hasn’t felt the baby move for a few hours, there are some things you can do to wake the baby up:
- Run a bath for Mom
- Get Mom up and walking around
- Put something cold on the baby bump
I remember one time when I had just got back home from work. My wife looked concerned, and after asking what was wrong I actually got an answer (which makes a change!). She had not felt my Son move that day.
I told my wife to lay down and close her eyes. I grabbed a packet of frozen vegetables and without her knowing, I stuck it on the baby bump. It shocked my Wife and more importantly, made my Son give a belting kick from the inside!
Mom was happy, although she asked me to try something less surprising next time.
As far as I was concerned, it was a job well done.
Learn pregnancy danger signs
Please learn the danger signs to look out for during pregnancy!
It is really important to know what can go wrong during pregnancy so you can deal with it swiftly and effectively. That means calling a medical professional, by the way.
Prepare for the worst is the best approach. I cannot emphasize enough how important it is to be aware of the danger signs.
Just read as much as you can, and when you have finished reading about the danger signs, then read some more!
Understand what happens during childbirth
I have a post that helps you understand what happens during pregnancy, have a read of that post and familiarize yourself with what you should be expecting.
Within the post, I run through what happens to the baby and more importantly, what you can expect your wife to be doing during pregnancy.
When you stroll into the hospital knowing what to expect, it will give Mom some confidence, which means less stress for her! Less stress is best, especially when you are about to go through the tremendous pain of childbirth!
Even after soaking up a vast amount of knowledge from books, friends, and medical experts, I was still not fully prepared for childbirth. This is because it is not possible for somebody to know everything that could happen during childbirth.
As long as Dad learns what is common for childbirth then he is as prepared as he can be!
Understand what you will both need for the hospital
Ultimately, you will need to have 4 things sorted before you even leave for the hospital, and that means preparing months in advance.
- Get the car ready for the journey and prepping the car to have a baby on board.
- Prepare your Dads hospital survival kit. That post will show you everything I needed during the hospital stay, and it was a stay too!
- Moms hospital bag.
- Get the house ready to host a newborn baby.
Get them sorted now, and your future self will thank you!
Why it is important for Dads to know about pregnancy
All of the tips above are genuinely things that a Dad needs to know about pregnancy, but why does he need to know?
Pregnancy can be a magical time for both parents, but it can also be a time when tensions are very high. This is especially true if it is Mom’s first pregnancy. Dad needs to be the person to turn to for advice, and for support.
A Dad needs to know about pregnancy because, like all things in life, preparation is key to success.
When my wife was pregnant, I went above and beyond when learning everything that I needed to know. I did this because I wanted to be able to answer questions, and I wanted to be able to offer support when it mattered most. Most of all, I actually WANTED to know the process. I wanted to know what to expect, and that thirst for knowledge meant that I was able to be ‘the rock’ when my Wife had concerns. Unfortunately, our first pregnancy ended in miscarriage, which was the driving force behind me learning the vital warning signs that mean you need medical assistance.
When I was writing this post, the question wasn’t so much ‘What are the things a Dad should know about pregnancy?’ it was more ‘What did I wish I knew about pregnancy when my wife was pregnant?’
The rest was pretty easy!
Above all else, and this is good advice for pregnancy and being a new Dad, preparation is what is going to stop you getting into trouble. If you do not prepare, you do not know what to expect and it will cause much annoyance! I prefer the easy life, so I get on it before I need to.
Now you are ready, it is time to have a look at the new Dad survival kit.
If you can think of anything else that a Dad will need to know about pregnancy please get in touch. Either leave a comment below or use the contact us page.