When Mom has all the natural things that a Baby needs, how does a Dad bond with his Baby?
Dad is competing with Mother Nature, which will be a huge battle, but one that needs to be won!
The lack of a bond between Dad and Baby can lead to Dad thinking he is useless, or unimportant during the early stages of a Babies life. For this reason, it is extremely important to begin Dad Baby bonding as soon as possible. If Dad feels useless, it could lead to the Baby blues and he may withdraw, causing arguments and friction which the Baby will almost certainly pick up on.
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Before I begin, if the Baby is not born yet then NOW is a good time to start bonding! Fathers can begin Baby bonding while he or she is still in the womb. Secondly, the sooner a Dad holds his Baby after being born, the greater the bond will be. Studies have shown the beginnings of a strong bond when Dads hold their Baby shortly after being born. If the Baby is already born, then take a look at these Dad Baby bonding ideas!
9 Dad Baby Bonding Ideas
As I said above, Dad has some serious competition in the form of Mother Nature. Mom’s have everything that a newborn needs when they are in the womb, and as soon as they are out of the womb.
Dad can step in at this stage and be present during feeds if breastfeeding, spending time with Mom and Baby when feeding is in progress.
The more that Dad is present during feeding, the more the Baby will look to Dad as an important part of that particular process. Just ensure that you are not taking anything away from Mom when you are doing this.
The key point is that you work together to ensure your Baby builds a strong bond with Dad and Mom.
From the early stages of a Childs life, it is very important to start playtime! For a start, it is fun for both Parents and Child. Secondly, studies have shown that regular playtime with Dad improves cognitive development.
Obviously, I am not talking about building lego or playing contact sports here, playtime with Baby is much more gentle!
Great games for Dad Baby playtime are:
- Dancing (Obviously Dad will need to do all the moves)
Ultimately, playtime will build a strong Dad Baby bond and will improve Babies congative development and will strengthen Babies imagination.
Read a book
Studies have shown that Dad reading to Baby will improve language development.
Not only does it improve language development, but it also means the Dad spends more time with Baby and acts to strengthen the bond.
You can go one step further here and read a book that is ABOUT Dad! These books can be fun and interesting to read. Take a book called The Dinosaur That Pooped Daddy for example. This book has some awesome pictures and is very funny. When Daddy reads this with a smile of his face, his Baby will see happy Dad and the bond will grow stronger!
Children love learning. Sure, they might not show it sometimes, but their brains are thirsty for knowledge.
Dad needs to be aware of this and needs to act on it.
Even as a Baby, Children love to learn. Respect quickly grows towards all the people they see as teachers, those who are the font of all knowledge.
Obviously, I am not talking about Dad bonding with his Baby by running through a few long calculations here! I am talking about simple things, like pointing at items and explaining what they are and what they are used for.
Babies are not going to be able to remember a lot of this, however, simply the act of teaching is enough to strengthen the bond, and will feed their inquisitive nature!
Outdoor time builds on the tip above about being a life-tutor.
Spending time outsides has some huge benefits for Dad and Baby. For a start, it opens up the world you the Baby by allowing them to see things that they do not see indoors. Wildlife, shops, and nature.
Be a teacher outside the house where they will have so much information to take in. As the Baby looks around at objects, Dad can be pointing them out and giving them a name.
Secondly, fresh air will make the Baby very tired, making it much easier to settle them later on in the day! Dads need to know these things if they want a little more sleep!
When Babies are born, they look to their parents and notice similarities. The challenging thing here is that they are much smaller than you are.
By wearing similar clothes, you are matching yourself with them which will help to build a bond.
We all know that matching is a very common way to build rapport with someone, so why not use that to your advantage when Dad is building a bond with his Baby?
If Dad has a favorite sports team, why not buy a matching sports kit? Does Dad have a favorite band? Favorite car manufacturer or a favorite drinks brand perhaps? There are so many options out there, and each one of them will help to build a bond.
Be careful with this one because it can quickly turn into a habit where they will not able to fall asleep without someone there! I know this because it happened to me…
Babies nap. A lot. Napping is the perfect time for some skin to skin contact!
I could write thousands of word on the benefits of skin to skin contact! Skin to skin has been shown to aid development and reduce Maternal stress. This is also true when Dad spends skin to skin time with his Baby.
Before you lay the Baby down in the crib, consider whether you have some spare time to let the Baby nod off on your chest. There is nothing that builds a bond stronger that skin to skin contact! Use this time to your advantage.
As soon as they drift off to sleep it is time to lay them down in the crib (carefully)! Co-sleeping has been shown to increase the chances of a Baby suffering from SIDS, which is why it is vital that you lay them down correctly.
Bath time is an awesome time for Dad Baby bonding!
Not only does Dad get to spend some quality time with his Baby, but there are also so many fun things to do during bath time that will entertain Baby until it is time to get out.
Being new to this world, a Baby will love bath time because the feeling and movement of water cause sensory overload!
Spend some time pouring small amounts of water over their legs and watch the reaction. If it is good, carry on. If it is bad then it is probably best to stop and move on.
Squeezy toys, bubble machines, and books are great ways to entertain a Baby during bath time, so use them to your advantage.
Attend Baby groups together
There are many Baby groups that Dad can take Baby to for some awesome bond building time.
When my Son was a Baby, I took him to a Baby Yoga class. It meant that I was able to spend some good quality time with him, and the room was full of Dads doing the same things!
I admit, my Son did not really enjoy the Yoga class. In fact, he cried after 20 minutes and then we left. Maybe a Yoga class was not for him, but there are many other Baby classes that Dad can choose from.
A simple search in my area brings back a list of possible classes to attend:
- Signing and Singing
- Music Class
- Baby Massage Class
- Baby Sensory Class
There are tons of options, so take a look in your local area!
Above are 9 awesome Dad Baby bonding ideas that you have to try if Dad is looking to build a strong and healthy bond!
There are so many reasons why it is good for Dad to have a strong bond with his Baby, and whilst I have covered a few already in this post, there are more benefits too, such as:
A strong Dad Baby bond means that the Baby will grow up to respect and admire their Dad much more than those who are not lucky enough to have built a strong bond.
Personally, I strive to improve the bond I have with my Son each and every day because it is very important to me.
For me, it is simply not enough to be a Dad, you also have to be a friend and life coach. For that, you need rapport and a strong bond.