Being rejected by anyone in life feels like a direct attack on you as a human.

When you are dealing with rejection from your child, you can multiply that feeling by 100! This may lead to a child preferring Dad over Mom, or the other way around.

You can fix it though. You can make some moves to be accepted again. In this post, I will take a look at some ways you can achieve that.

 


How To Cope With Rejection From Your Child

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Follow these tips to cope with being rejected by your child.

Forgive Your Child

The first thing you need to do as a parent is to accept the situation as it currently stands.

In poker, you deal with the cards that you wake up with. The cards you had a moment ago are no longer relevant.

Part of that acceptance is forgiving your child for rejecting you. It is only then when you can move on and work towards a resolution. If you still harbor a dislike for the rejection then your child will pick up on this and they may even believe that you are rejecting them!

 


Hunt The Issue

What caused the rejection in the first place? Can you pinpoint a day, an hour, or a minute where their feelings suddenly changed?

Delving back into what could have caused this will help you with a plan to resolve it.

I know I mentioned in the 1st tip that you need to deal with this issue with the way that it is NOW, but understanding what caused it is vital.

 


Take Action Quickly

Do not delay your action plan, it is important to get things in motion as soon as possible. The longer the rift goes on, the more of a challenge it is to heal it.

It would help to write an action plan down, either on a computer of a notepad. Always go back to the plan to check on progression.

 


Do Not Beg

It is vital that you do not act the victim, especially when dealing with toddlers! If you go to them begging for affection then they will learn this behavior whenever they feel rejected in the future.

You have to remember that whilst you are dealing with the rejection of a child, your actions are going to be learned behavior for toddlers.

If you act the victim or beg for attention and forgiveness, they will take that into their adult life.

Be confident, use inner strength.

 


Be Positive

It is easy to let your negative emotions spill over into everything that you do in life, especially when you are feeling rejected. But what will that achieve? I’ll tell you, more negative learned behavior for your child, and further rejection because ‘Mom or Dad is never happy’.

Take steps to improve your general positivity in life. Make a list of things you are happy about, and revisit that list whenever those negative emotions creep in. Your child will want a positive, happy parent who is fun to be around.

 


Respect Yourself

In my opinion, respect is not taught through punishment and it is not taught through fear. It is taught subliminally to toddlers and other children by those who respect themselves before seeking respect from others.

It is a challenge to respect yourself if you have had life problems which have knocked you down. You might have a lack of respect for yourself due to learned behavior as a child. Whatever caused it, the time to fix it is now.

This is a big topic, so scroll down for some ideas on how you can improve your self-respect.

 


Command Respect

Once you have respect for yourself, you can command respect from your child. This has to happen naturally, it doesn’t mean you have to put your foot down and be a dictator. Don’t get confused, that it fear and not respect.

Commanding respect is something that you will naturally do when you learn to respect yourself first. It will help if you do not back down from any decisions that you make.

If your toddler wants something and you say no, stick to your guns. Backing down will only lose respect.

 


Do Not Treat Them

It is easy to attempt to resolve rejection issues by treating your child until they like you again. This is counterproductive behavior, do not do it.

Can rejection be healed with a new toy? In my opinion, that will lead you down a path where your child will know exactly what they need to do to get a new toy!

These kids are clever, remember that!

 


Seek Help If Needed

If you have tried everything… and nothing has worked, then it could be time to seek some professional advice from a Child Psychologist.

Sure, it will be tough, but you are not admitting defeat, you are simply asking for some help. There is nothing wrong with asking for help.

 


Learning To Respect Yourself

respect yourself

You must respect yourself before commanding respect from others.

Learning to respect yourself is a huge step you can take when you are dealing with rejection from a child! But, how do you do it?

I’ll start by saying it is a huge topic, but I’ll cover some of the basic steps here.

 


Have Morals

This is huge because when you have morals you have a code by which you live by. The act of breaking these morals will creep into your brain and you will begin thinking bad about yourself.

 


Learn To Dismiss Opinions

Some take other peoples opinions to heart, and that can be a dangerous thing to do, especially when their opinions are bad.

Personally, I listen to everyone’s opinions, but I only choose to accept the ones that I want to.

The bad opinions are simply dismissed!

 


Speak Well About Yourself

It is vital for your self-confidence that you speak well about yourself.

When you feel a self-critical comment sneaking up in your brain, put a stop to it.

You only deal with positive self comments, right?

 


Cast Aside Bad Emotions

Envy, greed, doubt, guilt. These are words that do not exist in your vocabulary anymore!

Focus on positive emotions. Eventually, they will drown out the bad ones!

 


Set Goals

One of the biggest things you can do to improve your self-confidence is to set goals and achieve them.

Celebrate each goal you achieve, and you will feel fantastic!

 


How To Help Parents Rejected By Their Child

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How can you help parents that have been rejected by their children?

 


Let Them Talk

First things first, let them talk about their problems. Your job = listen!

 


Help Identify The Root Cause

Walk them through their recent activities to help them identify where it could have gone wrong.

 


Help Resolve The Root Cause

Once you find the root cause, work with them on a plan to resolve it.

Offer support and encouragement.

 


Cut Them Some Slack

They are going to need some emotional support, and that means you might need to be a sounding board when they get frustrated.

If they snap at you, give them some slack.

 


Big Up Their Achievements

Pick up on things they do well and make a big deal out of it.

Reminding them that they get things right will improve their self-confidence and will help them get over the rejection of a child, and will also help them to resolve the issue.

 


When It Is Time To Get Help For Overcoming Parental Rejection

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It is important to know when you need to seek professional help, for your own sanity!

When it gets too much. If you or someone around you notice that you are showing signs of depression then it is time to seek professional help.

This is not a failure, this is simply you asking for some help. There are organizations who help people cope with parental rejection. If they were not needed, they wouldn’t exist! Remember that…

 


Frequently Asked Questions

Why is my child rejecting one parent?

Your child is rejecting one parent for various reasons. It could be frustration, it could be because they do not see you as useful, or it could be because they do not see you as a fun person, or a source of knowledge.

Parents, you need to work together to resolve it.

 


Conclusion

Coping with rejection from a child is both mentally and physically tiring! I am certain that these tips have helped you out but remember, getting over the rejection and resolving it is going to take time.

Getting over rejection from a child is not something that is going to be done today, but you can use today to make tomorrow better!

The age of the child will dictate how you resolve issues. When you are rejected by a toddler or young child it can be easier to get over.

Good luck!